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Are there any sleevers here that, before surgery, doubted themselves or were afraid they didn't have what it takes to succeed? And if you're a year out or so, what has your progress been?

My surgery is in March. I'm having some trouble believing in myself. :(

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i was sleeved wednesday. i had doubts before, i have doubts after.

i look at the doubts as a blessing. most of the time i'm confident, but every time a doubt creeps in my head i'm focused on recognizing it and keeping on the right path.

being too complacent spells trouble.

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I know that given the data available I will most likely either not reach or not stay at the goal my surgeon wants, which is 150. My personal goal is 180, though I would be content in the low 200s as well. I think that as long as some of the weight loss is sustainable long term, I will be happy. It won't ever be easy, though.

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I'm not a year out, but I'll put my .02 in anyway. I was afraid I would fail. I have tried to lose weight so many times and failed. I can't tell you how many times I've done WW, Jenny C, HCG, you name it, I've probably tried it. Of course, it was only temporary. I'd lose 20-30, gain 4o+. Up and down for more than 10 years. Finally felt like my metabolism was broken. Even the low-carb just wasn't working anymore. I lost 70 pounds in 5 months. And I feel like this is a way of life I can live with the rest of my life. I'm sure you will succeed too.

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I had doubts, but even my nutritionist told me that after surgery, my stomach won't let me eat too much, which I'm finding out is SO true right now. One of the things that she also told me is that we were told at a very early age to always finish what is on our plate and that comes from previous generations not having enough food. She said it's something that I will have to work on. I'm finding now that she was right. I got upset the other day because i couldn't finish my 6oz of greek yogurt. I was only able to eat half of it. That made me realize that I have to remember everything she taught me about eating and when to stop in order to help prevent over eating.

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Thanks so much you guys for sharing; I feel less alone in my doubt. It helps a lot :)

Ugh why is confidence so hard??? I just don't want to sabotage myself. Which is an odd fear because I'm the one who controls whether or not I self sabotage in the first place.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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