I thought it might be a good idea to have a thread where we could discuss the different challenges/issues we face as being single and banded.

I'll start with introducing myself. My name is Chris, I am 32 and live in a suburb of Boston. About a year ago I got out of a 5 year relationship and have just casually dated (online dating) since then. I have decided to take a break from dating for a bit, so I can focus on myself and adjust to living life as a bandster. (I was just banded on 10/2). One of my biggest concerns when I start dating again is if/when to tell that I am banded. It's not that I don't want to tell people, it's just that my idea of great dinner conversation does not include discussing my weight. Overall I would say that I have a great life. I have a good job, a very supportive family, and lots of friends. I am happy to be taking control over my weight and issues with food, and am excited at the prospect of my future as a not-so-fat woman.

I look forward to meeting more single bandsters and hope this thread takes off!

Chris :cocktail:

I hear you there Denise... I am a chicken too!!! I do not have any tattoo's and my nose ring was easy. The guy used an earring gun and so it was quick. The whole right side of my face got real warm and my eye started watering like I was crying but it was cool after that. I do have to admit though it was an ear peircing type stud in my nose at first so it was a gold ball and that was very noticeable. And it hurt like hell to move it, (I had to turn it a couple of times a day to keep it from getting stuck to the peirced skin) He told me to wait 6 weeks before I changed it but I went to a different tattoo parlor after two weeks because I couldn't take theat huge ball on the side of my nose anylonger. And they took a straight flat head diamond and bent the stem into a "J or U" shape sort of and put that in. This way it sat on the side of my nose inside of it, and there was no stem poking me. I loved it.

Chrispy, you can't just tease us like that. Are you going to post a pic of your new addition?

JC

Thanks DiBaby!!!! You've knocked down some sweet numbers haven't you?

Sept 22/23 going to do a huge two days of bike riding in Indiana. Can't wait. I was planning to ride my bike up there but was interupted by this whole slip issue. That's ok I will knock down a lot of miles the rest of this month!!

JC

JC

Thanks hon..yeah its been one long journey. Although some how I gained half a pound this week.arggh. Indiana? wow thats a longggg ride. So close to me..hehe

I have the whole following week off wink wink. LOL

God only knows where I am going to end up after the ride!

JC

I have the whole following week off wink wink. LOL

God only knows where I am going to end up after the ride!

JC

Wow lucky duck! Yeah you never know Chicago is really nice this time of year..hehe..

I nearly caused an accident the last time I drove through Chicago! I am not sure if I am allowed to come back.

Ut oh..LOL..you are trouble arentcha..

With a capital "T"

JC- Great news! Have fun biking!!!

Chrispy - way to be assertive and get that nose ring! I want one, but Opera Singers can't have facial piercings...

So update on the boy situation:

I'm ok without Matt...

I hooked up with the HOTTEST new guy in school last friday night...

Saturday I met what I think may be my future husband, and Thursday was date 2... Sunday is date 3... his name is Alvaro, and he is from South America (Columbia)... he is a Chemist and has a PhD! He loves classical music and is super romantic...

The guy I met last thursday Kevin- has called or texted me every day but he won't be back in the city until the begining of October, so we'll see if I am too involved with Alvaro before then...

I like this whole "I have a choice and I am in control" thing... it makes life interesting and fun... and even though I am going a bit crazy with the boys, I am not eating crazily or anything, so if I have to replace food with boys, I'm happy to... as long as I lose weight...

I need to get back to the gym...I miss the whole working out in the morning.. .but i just need to wait for money... until then at least I have my apartment on the 5th floor with no elevator! ahhh

Damn Leona, sounds like you have things going your way!

JC

Minor NSV today....I had a chance to climb through a B-17 bomber today. That thing is VERY tight, especially the walkway above the bomb bay. The gentleman in front of me in line was not allowed in the plane due to his size -- which was pretty much the same size I was just before surgery.

Thanks goodness for the band, otherwise I wouldn't have been able to see the inside of the plane

Ok I got a question for anyone who would like to run with this one... Has anyone ever had a relationship with someone, fallen in love with them, then it is decided that he/she wants to remain friends since things just aren't working out with eachother dating one another? I know it is an odd and loaded question but I am struggling with a situation. And to make things worse there is more to it than that... he is still living with me as my roomate, we share a room literally. Has anyone ever been in something like this or maybe just have some friendly advice. By the way I think I am still in love with him. He says he doesn't love me that way but I know we care about eachother deeply, we have been through more together than what I went through with my ex-husband during our 9 year relationship. Any advice????

lol, you guys are SO funny! I will post a pic eventually, when I can get a good one. They didn't use an earring gun, he used a needle and stuck a piece of cork up my nose. lol. The needle didn't hurt so bad but it did sting. It was pretty sore for two days and gave me a wicket headache, but now it's barely sore. I like it, but will love it when I can have the little diamond chip in there. They have to piece it with a larger metal stud (no actual ring denise lol) and it's waaaay bigger than what I want. I was told in 4 weeks I can switch it out and they were nice enough to tell me they'd do the first switch out if I wanted to. My parents just shook their head and couldn't believe I did this. My father said just don't wear it to his wake. lol. I'm 33 though, so there is not much they can say about it. Work was great about it. My bosses could care less. I'm sure I'll be the office gossip for the next couple of weeks though, but who cares. lol

Leona, glad you're having fun girlfriend!

April, I wish I could give you some advice there. The only thing I firmly believe is that we ALL deserve everything we want from a relationship. You deserve someone who loves you whole heartedly.

So Mike and I had a good week. He came over Wed and then again last night. He was supposed to go out and work last night but ended up shutting off his phone and spending the night instead. I'm not sure if it was me, or just being really tired, but hey I'll take it. lol. So at least he has shown me that he heard what I said. But honestly, I'm starting to wonder if I'm really that into him now. See what I do to myself? lol. I'm sure I'll figure it out.

Well, off to get some exercise. Not JC-type exercise but exercise nontheless. lol

Chrispy, don't give me too much credit. I have been a slug this weekend. So far I have only managed to get in a three mile jog.

Kewl, Chrispy!! I wanna see, too. No piercings or tats here. Well, except my ears, of course.

Smilin'apple, everyone I know who is friends with an ex still needed time and space to heal after the initial break-up. I think by living with this person you're just prolonging your heartache. But that's just my opinion. Follow your heart, as cheesy as it sounds.

JC, isn't your surgery this week?

Denise, I hope the scale moved a little for you this past week. I made a little, tiny bit of progress, but not much. I've decided I'm hitting the gym HARD this week. I just have to make time...

I have been completely swamped here, working day and night, without a lot of time to chime in here on the boards.