I have worked for a company for over 15 years and the small office I work in collects money every month for things that come up...like if someone dies, gets sick etc. That way we can send flowers or whatever and not have to have a collection. Before my surgery, two other gals in the office went out on disability and instead of just using our collected funds we also threw one a second baby shower and the other one that had abdominal surgery we all got together and put together a basket of clear fluids for her post op...including some vodka (lol) but also had magazines and things for her to do. I even took the time and made a card for her from all of us.

So my issue is this...I got nothing and my feelings are really hurt. I cannot understand why my own office would not even send me a card when we send people in other offices cards and flowers when they are out. I don't want to have these feelings of resentment but I do.

On top of all of this, I get daily emails or texts from them about my work stuff that they do not know how to do. No one bothered them or called them when they were recovering except to ask how they were...I don't even get that! And when I said something like I guess you are finally seeing some of what I actually do and why I end up staying at work so late, I got "well let me play my little violin for you".

Up until now I thought these people were "friends" or at least friendly coworkers of mine and I don't know how to handle this. I am a pretty upfront person, if I feel one way I will say it but I am not even sure what or how to say something at this point.

Hell, i don't know what to say 'cept P_SS on 'em...

Hell' date=' i don't know what to say 'cept P_SS on 'em...[/quote']

NOOOO...... Don't P_ss on the cookies!!!!

I'm ticked at my co workers, too. Another girl in the office got flowers when she went for her sleeve. I made sure I told everyone I was going for the surgery, and that my 30th birthday would be a couple days after. I got jack. Not sure if the morale committee dropped the ball or what. Hoping they at least remembered my birthday card for when I get back tomorrow.

It's way more sucky in your situation, though!!! I agree with buying yourself a bouquet!

I'm ticked at my co workers, too. Another girl in the office got flowers when she went for her sleeve. I made sure I told everyone I was going for the surgery, and that my 30th birthday would be a couple days after. I got jack. Not sure if the morale committee dropped the ball or what. Hoping they at least remembered my birthday card for when I get back tomorrow.

It's way more sucky in your situation, though!!! I agree with buying yourself a bouquet!

Hey we are sleeve sisters! Same date! Maybe your coworkers are like mine and just a little slow on the uptake and will do something LATE.

Ok I talked to a friend of mine about this whole situation and she works indirectly with my staff. She just so happened to be talking to one of my coworkers today and mentioned casually are you doing anything for Jules because I want to contribute and she said yes, they just didn't know what to do yet but they were going to do a card and something. So I humbly apologize to my coworkers for calling them losers and idiots because now I feel like an a$$. But if they send me a food basket of stuff I am not able to have like chocolate and cookies I will be back on to diss them again! Thanks guys again for all the awesome advice and the laughs and support!

. My goodness, see all of the ranting was for nothing! Now go back to your coworker who asked and offer her some suggestions on what they can get you so you will be happy.

Ok I talked to a friend of mine about this whole situation and she works indirectly with my staff. She just so happened to be talking to one of my coworkers today and mentioned casually are you doing anything for Jules because I want to contribute and she said yes, they just didn't know what to do yet but they were going to do a card and something. So I humbly apologize to my coworkers for calling them losers and idiots because now I feel like an a$$. But if they send me a food basket of stuff I am not able to have like chocolate and Cookies I will be back on to diss them again! Thanks guys again for all the awesome advice and the laughs and support!

Thank you for letting us know! Glad they have not forgotten you! Hugs to you.

That was a really good non confrontational way to get to the bottom of this. Your friend really helped you out. So glad to hear you are in their thoughts and there was no drama. It can damage workplace relationships so easily. Let us know what shows up at your door!

Today I got a lovely card and a gift card from my coworkers in the mail! Glad I don't work with losers and idiots anymore....lol

I always donate for cards/gifts/flowers for others but I was still completely shocked when my teammates sent me a beautiful bouquet of flowers. I don't know why, but I guess maybe because it was my "choice" to have the surgery that it never even crossed my mind (compared to say, a car accident, etc.).

I always donate for cards/gifts/flowers for others but I was still completely shocked when my teammates sent me a beautiful bouquet of flowers. I don't know why' date=' but I guess maybe because it was my "choice" to have the surgery that it never even crossed my mind (compared to say, a car accident, etc.). <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='' />[/quote']

We have a sunshine committee at work. Everybody contributes $15 a year and they send cards, flowers etc to whoever is sick, injured, in the hospital. I am the third one to have wls in the last 4 months, and I told them I didn't need flowers. Just because I choose to have a surgery doesn't make me sick. I felt like it was a drain on that particular fund. Anyway after I was home about a week a beautiful bouquet showed up anyway. Love my coworkers.

Give it a month and you'll be skinny! And I would also accept if you scream " kiss my soon to be skinny ass" or " kiss my ass which will be skinnier in a few months"

A month my ass. If so i want my money back because i got screwed lol

Maybe so' date=' I can never really tell. I just don't like to encourage that type of thing, I think it breeds discord between women lol

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Im the only guy on my unit.. Is it really possible to have MORE dischord between females than what already comes naturally?

I have worked for a company for over 15 years and the small office I work in collects money every month for things that come up...like if someone dies' date=' gets sick etc. That way we can send flowers or whatever and not have to have a collection. Before my surgery, two other gals in the office went out on disability and instead of just using our collected funds we also threw one a second baby shower and the other one that had abdominal surgery we all got together and put together a basket of clear fluids for her post op...including some vodka (lol) but also had magazines and things for her to do. I even took the time and made a card for her from all of us.

So my issue is this...I got nothing and my feelings are really hurt. I cannot understand why my own office would not even send me a card when we send people in other offices cards and flowers when they are out. I don't want to have these feelings of resentment but I do.

On top of all of this, I get daily emails or texts from them about my work stuff that they do not know how to do. No one bothered them or called them when they were recovering except to ask how they were...I don't even get that! And when I said something like I guess you are finally seeing some of what I actually do and why I end up staying at work so late, I got "well let me play my little violin for you".

Up until now I thought these people were "friends" or at least friendly coworkers of mine and I don't know how to handle this. I am a pretty upfront person, if I feel one way I will say it but I am not even sure what or how to say something at this point.[/quote']

Been there, done that. Completely stopped contributing to anything for work related employee absences, sickness, surgery, etc.

If I liked someone enough and felt like it, I sent a card or something strictly from myself. I know it sounds selfish, but if I added up all the money and time I put into things like that I would have really been shocked. Do unto others, kwim? I get it and I don't blame you for being hurt or pissed off.

Ok I'm just going to be up front because apparently no one here is willing to say it...... Go to your office and start pulling hair and slapping b*****s! Get some coffee milk and through it on them while screaming "bite my skinny ass" and then order flowers and slap em with it ...... Dang lol now I'm tired...... Ill do it for 5 bucks.

That post? Is effing awesome!!

We do the same thing in our office but its usually just our boss who always has surgeries. I also always contribute and she has had an elective sboulder surgery and a face lift a few years ago. Ive been home since Thurs and tjought maybe they would send something who lnows maybe they will, maybe they wont. I wouldnt be upset about it. Rise above it. I know it stings a little but next ti me its your turn to co.tribute be tapped out. Sorry, not in the budget. I have a wonderful husband and 2 sons and they have made up for what my coworkers slacked out on. If i could id send you some. Hugs to you!