I have worked for a company for over 15 years and the small office I work in collects money every month for things that come up...like if someone dies, gets sick etc. That way we can send flowers or whatever and not have to have a collection. Before my surgery, two other gals in the office went out on disability and instead of just using our collected funds we also threw one a second baby shower and the other one that had abdominal surgery we all got together and put together a basket of clear fluids for her post op...including some vodka (lol) but also had magazines and things for her to do. I even took the time and made a card for her from all of us.

So my issue is this...I got nothing and my feelings are really hurt. I cannot understand why my own office would not even send me a card when we send people in other offices cards and flowers when they are out. I don't want to have these feelings of resentment but I do.

On top of all of this, I get daily emails or texts from them about my work stuff that they do not know how to do. No one bothered them or called them when they were recovering except to ask how they were...I don't even get that! And when I said something like I guess you are finally seeing some of what I actually do and why I end up staying at work so late, I got "well let me play my little violin for you".

Up until now I thought these people were "friends" or at least friendly coworkers of mine and I don't know how to handle this. I am a pretty upfront person, if I feel one way I will say it but I am not even sure what or how to say something at this point.

I would be hurt by this too. Like others have said, I suppose this shows you who your friends are, and I am sorry it happened to you. Did you tell anyone you were having WLS?

We also collect money for surgeries, babies, and funerals to be able to send flowers, balloons, etc at my job

I have never received anything from my office for the surgeries, childbirth, or family funerals.

I no longer contribute to this fund at my office.

Ok I'm just going to be up front because apparently no one here is willing to say it...... Go to your office and start pulling hair and slapping b*****s! Get some coffee milk and through it on them while screaming "bite my skinny ass" and then order flowers and slap em with it ...... Dang lol now I'm tired...... Ill do it for 5 bucks.

Thanks guys! You really have all helped me!

I am not usually the coordinator of the gifts because my boss is the one that holds all of the money.

It is funny because I told my family and REAL friends not to do anything (and I meant it) and I am not at all upset that I did not get any cards or flowers from them so why do I care about these "losers"? I never told them not to do anything though. Had I said that to them I would not be offended.

As far as the surgery goes, there was a medical reason behind it as well as the weight issue...I had some abnormalities and they knew all about it. They are in the healthcare industry so they do understand the surgery.

As far as the emails and such, I work under a grant and if the things don't get done, it risks our grant so I sort of have to answer the emails...just thought they could do more of it without me. But when I am on vacation I get emails and calls too.

I thought about no longer contributing to the fund but then that means sometime someone is ill, I would have to do something on my own.

I am just afraid when I get back to the office there WILL be tension as I am really hurt and angry. I don't want to hold these feelings in but I am not sure I can just do or say nothing and let it be at that. I want to have a good WORKING relationship with these people at the very least since they are obviously not friends.

Ok I'm just going to be up front because apparently no one here is willing to say it...... Go to your office and start pulling hair and slapping b*****s! Get some coffee milk and through it on them while screaming "bite my skinny ass" and then order flowers and slap em with it ...... Dang lol now I'm tired...... Ill do it for 5 bucks.

Yeah but I am not skinny yet! Lol

I have worked in all male field and all female field and if I could go back to all male I would in a heart beat!

Amen! It's half the reason I quit teaching elementary school and went to middle!

Give it a month and you'll be skinny! And I would also accept if you scream " kiss my soon to be skinny ass" or " kiss my ass which will be skinnier in a few months"

Ok I'm just going to be up front because apparently no one here is willing to say it...... Go to your office and start pulling hair and slapping b*****s! Get some coffee milk and through it on them while screaming "bite my skinny ass" and then order flowers and slap em with it ...... Dang lol now I'm tired...... Ill do it for 5 bucks.

Fyre ...I just LOL! You remind me of my brother!

Ok I'm just going to be up front because apparently no one here is willing to say it...... Go to your office and start pulling hair and slapping b*****s! Get some coffee milk and through it on them while screaming "bite my skinny ass" and then order flowers and slap em with it ...... Dang lol now I'm tired...... Ill do it for 5 bucks.

ROFL Storm you have lost your mind.......ROFL....I will pay you 10 to do it for me ROFL

JuliannaJ - please send me your mailing address....I would love to make this right for you!

Sadly, you work with a bunch of insensitive a-holes. Not only would I no longer contribute to the office fund, I would tell EVERYONE you work with why you are no longer contibuting to the fund...because it's only for some of the people some of the time.

If they continue to call and email you, I would simply tell them that you aren't really in a position to help them right now since you took time off work specifically to recover from surgery.

JuliannaJ - please send me your mailing address....I would love to make this right for you!

Sadly, you work with a bunch of insensitive a-holes. Not only would I no longer contribute to the office fund, I would tell EVERYONE you work with why you are no longer contibuting to the fund...because it's only for some of the people some of the time.

If they continue to call and email you, I would simply tell them that you aren't really in a position to help them right now since you took time off work specifically to recover from surgery.

I love everyone on here! Perfect strangers are willing to do something! This means a lot to me and I thank you for your offer. Just being able to come on here and ask my questions and vent my feelings and get such warm responses means a lot! Thanks, you guys rock! I am thinking right now of hiring fyre_storm though because I am in the MAD phase...lol.

I had a similar thing happen at my job when I went out on maternity leave. I was the one who made sure we always gave cards, recognized birthdays and big events. I worked with mainly men and we even would throw them baby showers when their wives were expecting and I got nothing. Forget them! You are a good person and what comes around goes around!

I think you should tell them and be done with it. Be nice.....just ask them did they forget you.

Fyre_storm really needs to go visit your officemates while you are out. Sounds like he would LITERALLY whip them into shape! Love it!

I'm sorry for their insensitivity. You are right it doesn't matter why someone had surgery.....and if you send to one you should send to all. We here all are sending you love and well wishes!

Personally, I would say something. Maybe send out a blanket email "thanks for the flowers, oh wait I didn't get any from you guys"...point is you should say something or it's going to bother you. I just wouldn't contribute to things like that anymore. I understand wanting to do nice things for your coworkers but really, they are just coworkers. Not your friends. And if you depend on them being friends and they treat you like this maybe you should reconsider who your friends are.