Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Recommended Posts

So I haven't been able to sleep and I've been up since 4 am. Reading all these horror stories on this website has me second guessing my Thursday surgery. Any advice?

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

For every horror story I bet there are a couple good outcome stories. I read them all before my surgery too, but kinda decided that its much like women telling their bad labor stories. Nobody tells the easy labor stories right? I was sleeved last Wednesday and have had zero problems. No gas pains after surgery. When the nurse asked me to get up and walk I said sure, hopped out of bed and headed down the hallway. She had to tell me to slow down lol. I haven't had any nausea, am able to easily get my fluids in every day. I asked for pain meds the day of surgery but by that night I asked for Tylenol only and haven't even taken that since I got home. I am so happy that none of the issues others have posted about have happened to me, but really I'm glad I read about those what ifs because I felt better prepared to deal with them. It's a scary thing we are doing to ourselves but in my opinion so worth it in the end. I hope your surgery is as uneventful as mine. Good luck to you.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Read it all and make an informed decision.

If you researched your surgeon and trust him/her and feel confident about their ability, and if you're educated about what to expect post op there is no reason no to go ahead.

Yes, complications can happen with this and any other surgery, major or minor. They are pretty rare but can always happen to any surgeon at any time. They're accidents - it's the unintentional thing that happens during the procedure, in most cases. Choosing a surgeon of experience and skill minimizes your risk, as does knowing what to expect post op - if any sign or symptom could be a leak so you get it addressed immediately. Following a post op diet to the letter is also important. You should do everything you can possibly do to minimize your own risk and diet is one of the few things you can control.

That said, complications really ARE rare with this surgery. They happen, and you should know that they happen, but for most people the worst thing they experience post op is gas pain or acid reflux. You'll be sore after surgery and that's normal. I hated having to sleep in a recliner, but really, that's a small sacrifice for my sleeve!

Make sure you're reading it all - not just the horror stories but the stories about people that came through fine. We're all here. It's good we can pool our knowledge and experiences for everyone else.

Choosing whether or not to do this is far too personal for me to try to sway you either way. But I can say that it's perfectly normal to have a bit of nervousness and also to wonder if it will work for you. I see people post about it all the time, but after a year of research the only feelings I had prior to surgery were eagerness to be on the other side and frustration that I had to travel so far for my surgeon!

Good luck whatever you decide,

~Cheri

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I had complications--several--from my heart stopping on the table requiring them to stop the surgery and go back a week later to my drain causing me severe enough pain to have to be readmitted. I did regret the surgery in the middle of all of this. HOWEVER--I am now nearly 6 months out, down 69 pounds, and feel great. The sleeve is something I can live a normal life with that will help me control my weight. I am really glad I did this--despite the complications. Taking into account the full experience and the results--I have no regrets. Well, except maybe not doing this sooner. It is ok to be nervous. If you are not, then you have not researched enough to realize that this is a major surgery. Good luck whatever you decide.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

So I haven't been able to sleep and I've been up since 4 am. Reading all these horror stories on this website has me second guessing my Thursday surgery. Any advice?

I am soo with you! My surgery is Thursday. too. I think I might just have to stay off of here until after surgery.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Every story is different. For every horror story there's a "things went perfect" story, or even a "things went okay with a few stumbling blocks" (like mine). My first couple months weren't easy, but even then I was still having great luck with weight loss and so I never really questioned my decision (it's not like that would have undone it anyway :P). I knew that the issues would eventually resolve, but the weight loss assistance would be there for a long time :)

It's perfectly normal to get worked up prior to a major surgical procedure, especially one that's 1) voluntary and 2) a major life change and 3) removing most of a major organ! Just look at your history and ask yourself if there is, realistically, any other option. For me, who spent my entire life on one diet or another only to watch my weight go up and down like a rollercoaster, there wasn't. I had exhausted all my other options and I literally couldn't handle another round of extreme self-deprivation as I tried to starve myself skinny. I needed the tool that the sleeve provided in order to make it.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I had surgery Dec. 20th.. yes I read all the horror stories and even had one nurse tell me her sister in law had the same surgery and lost a bunch of weight and then gained it all back..not what I wanted to hear. Yes I was scared, I had the same thoughts.. what if that stuff happened to me.. But I wanted this badly. So I went on with it..and have not regretted my decision.. I have not had any complications from the surgery what so ever.. I was up 15 min after getting to my room and in the chair..and then in the hall walking in no time.. I did ask for pain meds for home because I wasnt sure of what the pain would be like.. glad I did... it helps ease the discomfort at night because I couldnt sleep on my side like I used to.. it hurt.. but hey.. Im down 33lbs in 3 weeks.. I had no issues before surgery other than being over weight... Just remember the important thing after surgery is to make sure you get your Protein in and take your vitamins.. and walk, walk, walk. it helps so much.. Im sure you will be fine.. Best of luck to you. You will be soon a member of the losers club lol. you wont regret your decision. I havent.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

If you have come to the point in your life where you feel that the surgery is needed vs. un-needed then why second guess yourself. Something has brought you to the point of " I need to loose this weight and can-not do it on my own for my overall healther". I never knew what it was to FEEL good and healthy until I got here because an unhealthy lifestyle was all i knew. I would never go back and never change my decision. It was worth it ...

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

So I haven't been able to sleep and I've been up since 4 am. Reading all these horror stories on this website has me second guessing my Thursday surgery. Any advice?

I am not second guessing my decision, but I am dreaming out and very worried about complications-- like internal bleeding. Surgery is Friday.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I too have read all the stories! Including the secretary at my son's school telling me her mother-in-law died!!

I went to my doc with all these thoughts and I trust him! This is what I want, to be healthy and at a healthy weight. The sleeve is my final attempt because nothing else has worked. I'm thankful for the horror stories that made me ask more questions and soooo thankful for the stories of success and happiness.

My surgery is Wed 1/16 at 3:00 pm and though I am a bit nervous I trust my doc and am praying for an uneventful, successful surgery!

You will be in my thoughts and prayers, whatever you decide all that matters is you!

Take care and God Bless

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

You will do great! I swear the worst thing for me was the heparin shots in my thigh. Those buggers sting! Small price to pay for a new life though.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Your mother in law died?? Oh, wow. I'm sorry to hear that. If you don't mind me asking, what was the cause? I trust my doctor too. Im just scared.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I am soo with you! My surgery is Thursday. too. I think I might just have to stay off of here until after surgery.

Yes please dont come on here a few days b4 surgery because thats the reason i was so dang on nervous when I went into surgery on the 8th! It was nothing like I thought it was going to be! Its the fear of the unknown that worries you! You will do fine Good Luck and God Bless!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • vsg.with.sharon

      Hey everyone!
      I’m new here! Looking for some friends! 🥰
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • LeighaTR

      Four days post surgery. I am sipping as fast as I can and getting NO WHERE near the goal of 60 - 80 grams of protein or the 64 oz of liquids. I just feel FULL. I don't know if it can still be the gas build up (I would think by now that would be gone) but it is a struggle to drink. And so far I have not had the nausea or spasms and don't want to wander into that territory by pushing too hard with liquids. I about passed out today as it was my most "strenuous" day. Went from second story to basement for shower and I was sure I was going to pass out. Looking back on my last few days I have had a total of less than 1000 calories. Am I just not getting enough nourishment in me? Once again a friday where I can't get ahold of the doc until Monday rolls back around so I am hoping maybe someone here has some experience on how to keep energy going. I do have fibromyalgia too and that may be where some added fatigue comes into play. How did you all fair with the goals the week after surgery?
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Doughgurl

      2 days until I fly out to San Diego to have my Bypass Surg. in Tiajuana Mexico. Not gonna lie, the nerves are starting to surface. I don't fear the surgery itself, or the fact that I'm traveling alone, but its the aftermath that I'm stressing about the most, after this 8 week wait. I'm excited to finally be here, but I am really dreading the post surgical chapter. I know its going to be tough, real tough and I think I'm just in my head to much now that the day i here. Wish me luck, Hopefully I'm one of the lucky ones, and everything goes smoothly. Cant wait to give an exciting update,. If there is anyone else have a June bypass or even a recent one, Id love to have someone to compare war stories with. Also, anyone near San Antonio Tx? See ya soon with the future me. 💜
      · 3 replies
      1. Phil Penn

        Good Luck this procedure is well worth it I am down to 249.6 lb please continue with the process..

      2. Selina333

        I'm in Houston so kind of near you and had the sleeve in Dec. Down 61 lbs. Feeling better. Was definitely worth it. I hope the everything is going well for you. Update us when you can!

      3. Doughgurl

        I am back home after my bypass surgery in Tiajuana. I'm post op day 4. Everything went great! I guess I'm one of the lucky ones who have not encountered much pain at all, no nausea thus far and I'm having no problem keeping down broths and water. Thank you for your well wishes. I cant wait to keep up this journey and have a chance at better health and simply better quality of life. I know there will be bumps in the road ahead, and everything won't be peaches and cream, but at least I have a great start so far. 😍

    • LeighaTR

      I am new here today... and only two weeks out from my sleeve surgery on the 23rd. I am amazed I have kept my calories down to 467 today so far... that leaves me almost 750 left for dinner and maybe a snack. This is going to be tough for two weeks... but I have to believe I can do it!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Doughgurl

      Hey everyone. I'm new here so I thought I should introduce myself. I am 53y/o and am scheduled for Gastric Bypass on June 25th, 2025. I'm located in San Antonio, Texas. I will be having my surgery in Tiajuana Mexico. I've wanted this for years, but I always had insurance where bariatric procedures were excluded. Finally I am able to afford to pay out of pocket.  I can't wait to get started, and I hope I'm prepared for the initial period of "hell". I know what I have signed up for, but I'm sure the good to come will out way the temporary period of discomfort and feelings of regret. I'd love to find people to talk to who have been through the same procedure or experience before. So I look forward to meeting you all. Hope you have a great week!
      · 2 replies
      1. Selina333

        I'm so happy for you! You are about to change your life. I was so glad to get the sleeve done in Dec. I didn't have feelings of regret overall. And I'm down almost 60 lbs. I do feel a little sad at restaurants. I can barely eat half a kid's meal. I get adults meals often because kid ones don't have the same offerings at times. Then I feel obligated to eat on that until it's gone and that can be days. So the restaurant thing isn't great for me. All the rest is fine by me! I love feeling full with very little. I do wish I could drink when eating. And will sip at the end. Just a strong habit to stop. But I'm working on it! You will do fine! Just keep focused on your desire to be different. Not better or worse. But different. I am happy both ways but my low back doesn't like me that heavy. So I listened (also my feet!). LOL! Update us on your journey! I'm not far from you. I'm in Houston. Good luck and I hope it all goes smoothly! Would love to see pics of the town you go to for this. I've never been there. Neat you will be traveling for this! Enjoy the journey. Take it one day at a time. Sometimes a few hours at a time. Follow all recommendations as best you can. 💗

      2. Doughgurl

        Thank you so much for your well wishes. I am hoping that everything goes easy for me as well. We don't eat out much as it is, so it wont be too bad in that department. Thankfully. Also, I hear you regarding your back and feet!! I'd like to add knees to the list. Killing me as we speak! I'm only 5' so the weight has to go. Too short to carry all this weight. Menopause really did a doosey on me. (😶lol) My daughter also lives in Houston. with her Husband and my 5 grand-littles. I grew up in Beaumont, so I know Houston well, I will be sure to keep in touch and update you on my journey. I may need some advice in the future, or just motivation. Thank You so much for reaching out, I was hoping to connect with someone in the community. I really appreciate it. 💜

  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×