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So, My surgery is schedule for Feb. 4. YIKES! Anyway, I've started telling family and friends about it and I've noticed an interesting response. While everyone is supportived, the average sized people are all for it. "Good for you" comments and stuff like that. My overweight friends, are more in the camp of, "Are you sure nothing else will work?"

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I have noticed some of that as well. I have decided to not tell anyone else (a few friends and a few family members know). I got a couple of negative reactions and don't want to hear any more.

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That is interesting. I'm noticing just the opposite. My small friends are leaning towards 'you've done such a great job dieting, you look great, you don't need the surgery. Just keep up what you've been doing' they really have no clue what it's like to constantly feel like a hamster on a wheel. I lose, I gain, lose again etc. I have no doubt if I set my mind to it I could continue to lose but I don't believe for a minute I will keep it off without help. My heavy friends are very understanding and a few of them wish they had the guts to do it as well.

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I have a few supporters. Have even found a few talking negatively behind my back. So im hoping not to lose friends over something I decided to do what was best for mylife.. but Goodbye

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Its also funny how the ones that told me not to have the surgery has soooooo many questions about my success

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I'm getting support from my thin friends and jealousy and doubtful ness from my over weight friends. They either come out and say "I'm jealous" and then change the subject. Or they say " I would never do that. It's to dangerous ". (I translate that to -I would if I could afford it). And thats another thing. People keep asking me how I can afford it. Where did I get the money? Um it's called me and my hubby working 2 jobs for past 2 years and saving every extra dime. You should try it sometime instead of buying purses and shoes that cost an entire paycheck.

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Wait till you get closer to goal... normal sized people are very supportive. heavier people keep saying things like "if you lose anymore you will disappear." Seriously? I am 5'5" and weigh int he upper 160s... quite aways from disappearing...

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Yup, everyone is right on this post. Also your going to hear, " why would you do that? your not that heavy" or "oh you don't need that surgery, your just fine as you are". . . very irratating.

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Yea, my 3 skinny BFF s are So Supportive. My overweight family member well,

kept repeating (along as you are safe). I'm like stop already! You said that once too many.

Setting my face like a flint!

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