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You are doing great. Just keep focusing on the positive... how much better your clothes fit, how many sizes you're down, how much longer you can work out, etc. The numbers aren't the full story.

We all go through periods where the scale just doesn't cooperate. My longest stall was 6 weeks and I finally had to have my hubby hide the scale because I was driving myself batty.

Your doctor sounds like a ******! Ignore him! Just keep working that sleeve.

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At 8 weeks, measure your food and don't go over the recommended amount (1/2 cup or so). Your body isn't healed yet and doesn't know it's full until it's overfull.

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Loose at your own pace - it is your body and this is not a miracle solution to all the issues of food and weight loss.

Don't loose your confidence and don't stress over all of this - stress is a deterent for weight loss.

Good thoughts for a heathy weight loss.

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Hey strangefruit... I totally feel your pain.... I was sleeved on 10/17 all tho my doctor didn't say that to me and everyone says I look good I to feel some regret .. being at a stall.. I am down to 210 from 258... which sounds like a lots but I think my god I have to get with it... I know I didn't do all this for 40 lbs.... still can't really eat anything but sweets... ya I said sweets... I imagin if I was eating better I would feel better and would have lost more.. I am determinded tho WE can do this...

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Shelbell12 we are in the same boat. I was sleeved 11/19. I'm down 35 lbs. The problem is I can still barely eat - although I can eat sweets/carbs with no problem. I had no idea how hard it was going to be. Good for me food makes me sick. It's so frustrating. I know this will get easier but for now, regret does seep in sometimes.

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Your dr. Was no doubt rude! You said you have been working out and your clothes fit better, so the scale may not be showing it but ur body is! Remember that your are exercising to tone and build muscle and muscle weighs too! Just think of it as getting rid of fat and replacing it with muscle! Keep up the good work!

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Glad to know someone else out there feels like I do ... idk anymore .. I'm sooo glad I am losing wt I can't help but think if I could have only done this on my own.... idk I have recently come to the relization that I have lost all my freinds as well.... we still talk but the look on their face when they look at me.... makes me feel bad... there mouth is saying onething but their eyes another... idk I guess I need to just do it for me and forget everyone else... I just feel so lonely at times

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You guys are so helpful...thank you... My doc has the bedside manner of Dr. Gregory House... I dont like him at all, but he is the guy my insurance covers... I weigh every Monday and saw a loss today and feel better... This is HARD... Anyone who thinks this is an easy solution has no idea of how hard the behavior modification is... I throw up if I eat one bite too much...and right now, dont always recognize the full cue.

Don't eat until you're full. Eat until you're not hungry!! That will help because you're goal shouldn't be to feel full or stuffed after each meal. If you feel full, you've already eaten to much.

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Glad to know someone else out there feels like I do ... idk anymore .. I'm sooo glad I am losing wt I can't help but think if I could have only done this on my own.... idk I have recently come to the relization that I have lost all my freinds as well.... we still talk but the look on their face when they look at me.... makes me feel bad... there mouth is saying onething but their eyes another... idk I guess I need to just do it for me and forget everyone else... I just feel so lonely at times

I'll be your friend :D

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It happens Shellbell. I haven't even gotten sleeved yet and have been ditched by some of my fuller figured friends. I think some people feel that our weight issues was one of the major attributes that bonded us and now that wont be the case. I think what they fail to realize is there are so many other things that make us friends but they have a hard time seeing past the loss of weight.

You have found some new friends here Shell! We are here to support each other ;-)

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Thanks y'all ... I just started a zumba class .. I feel a little out of place but it seems to make me happy... ima focus on me and my family... I guess I need to stop feeling gulty about losing weight and my so called friends who oviously where not my friends to begain with... :D y'all rock ... god luck with your journeys .. ill keep u posted on mine..:D

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