Why Lie?!?!

[lessofmeismore 1,405]

[No game 14,436]

For the record just in case anyone out there is listening still... or cares.....

We all have different ideas on how will handle people asking questions after we lose the weight.

And everyone is right in what they chose to do.

I am not one one "side" or the other. In fact for me it just really depends on the day, the situation or how I feel (safe, chatty,shy) as to whether I talk about "it" or not.

The problem I see here is basic really, people say things like "this is the way I do it and I feel my way is best and there must be some problem with those people doing it the other way"

It's all about tact when stating your opinion..

Write what you feel but leave out the part about other people being this way or that way, because rest assured your going to offend someone. Then they are going to say something and then you will most likely be offended too.

Does this make sense?

Laura

[AZPete 20]

I never lie. Most people say why would you need to do that. I just say because I did. I wear my choices like a badge of honor. Why be embarrassed. Or ashamed. I live when people say I'm taking the easy way out. I look at them and say if you think surgery and a risk of complications is easy, your real ignorant. When people ask why I was out if work for four days I tell them my stomach and I didn't see eye to eye so u got rid if it.

[ebonisekim 1,713]

And here we see bitchy at its peak

That's cause everyone's hungry lol heavier ppl are must happier cause there full

[theshrinkingchef 61]

Ugh! This used to be a somewhat constructive thread! #ridiculousness

[Ms.AntiBand 2,984]

I never lie. Most people say why would you need to do that. I just say because I did. I wear my choices like a badge of honor. Why be embarrassed. Or ashamed. I live when people say I'm taking the easy way out. I look at them and say if you think surgery and a risk of complications is easy, your real ignorant. When people ask why I was out if work for four days I tell them my stomach and I didn't see eye to eye so u got rid if it.

This is why some of us disagree. We are not embarrassed, ashamed, liars, vain, or bitchy.. Yet, because we make the choice to keep our business private we are called names? We don't say anything wrong on here, other than try to make others understand our feelings about being private... Sheesh!

[AZPete 20]

Wow. I wasn't trying to offend anyone or hate on those that keep it a secret. Lets settle down.

[ebonisekim 1,713]

Wow. I wasn't trying to offend anyone or hate on those that keep it a secret. Lets settle down.

I think ppl are making it personal its not about them we are having a general convo they should take things so serious

[ebonisekim 1,713]

It's okay if you don't wanna share if you kno your not any of those things that where said get over it .. It was not pacifically for u

[VSG_me 184]

This thread has gotten out of control - *unfollow*

[ebonisekim 1,713]

I think ppl are making it personal its not about them we are having a general convo they should take things so serious

They shouldn't take it so serious I mean

[AZPete 20]

I was the first one to be embarrassed telling my boss about it. But when I woke up in recovery I was happy and proud of what I chose to do. So I just made the statement that I posted. Never meant to piss anyone off.

[Ljp 157]

Everyone is diff and how we handle situations are diff also. I for one am very open about my wls and eagerly tell others when asked. I did this for me and no one else. Do I get the looks? Do they say its the easy way out behind my back? Why sure, lots do but I dont care. They dont walk in my shoes nor do I in there's. I did this to be healthier and feel better. But there are negative people out there and all they want to do is rain on others parade. Lie? Not something I would chose to do but their are many ways to word things without lying about wls if you didn't want others to know.

[pantala 125]

Dang, I just spent way more time than I meant to reading this whole thread. I appreciate all the viewpoints (and some of you are a riot!)

I have not been sleeved yet and I realized I have no idea how I will respond to questions. It might depend on my mood that day and it will really depend on who's asking and why.

There are some people I would be tempted to tell that I lost weight 'cuz my doc changed my meds (for real, I've known some folks who lost a bunch of weight that way).

But seriously, I think if things go well, I will be more likely to disclose than if it becomes a struggle. After all the research and dithering I've done to get to this place, I would not want anyone else to take the decision lightly. So we'll just see.

For background, the only two people I know of for sure that had WLS were rather unstable so that was not encouraging. I'm very confident in my decision now in spite of some negative reactions from family members.

Thanks all, and good night!

[No game 14,436]

Hehehe.. I should of told you to break out the popcorn on that one!!