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So I'm grocery shopping my friend and her aunt are in the store why does my friend comes and confront me in front of everyone talk about don't have this surgery ( she didn't kno the difference between what surgey I'm having ) don't you want to be around for your kids and u gone die blah blah not to mention my husband was w me and walked and I just got him comfortable w the idea then the big whammy I exercise w you if u want .. Did I go off yes I did this is my life I have live my own life and god got my back imm be just fine ..not to mention a white who's just standing be nosey come up to me and said you not even big enough get your butt out there a exercise what first off lady you do not kno me are my medical history your a stranger to me who look like you never has a weight problem .. It was crazy you guys but I'm so strong minded that I've done enough homework to be comfortable about my choice .. On another note they need to do there homework before approaching me have facts cus I got this

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I can see why you were upset. A time and a place exist for EVERYTHING. Your friend was out of line for that because their is a proper way to talk to someone about something so sensitive as weight and weight loss surgery. People really think it is that easier...it's not!

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Well I ment to say her aunt not my friend she put her aunt up to it after she already had spoken to me but they where together at the store

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I know the feeling..I have one friend (also my sisterinlaw) that I hesitated to tell because she likes to inform everybody and their brother about my business afterward. I felt guilty for not including her, after all, I call her sister so I told her a few weeks ago. Since then, it's been nothing but gloom and doom and did I see this or that in the news (all bad stuff she thinks will happen to me)??? I wish I wouldn't have told her now.. :huh:

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Thats not a friend. You would be well served to never see that person again.

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This is crazy, I've had similar things happen to me. People are crazy and too opinionated. I had to "educate" a ton of people on the subject, it was annoying but it was the only way for people to understand me & what I was doing. The doctor who did my pshyc eval said to get those negative, unsupportive people out of your life. I'm glad your strong enough to over look them.

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This is crazy' date=' I've had similar things happen to me. People are crazy and too opinionated. I had to "educate" a ton of people on the subject, it was annoying but it was the only way for people to understand me & what I was doing. The doctor who did my pshyc eval said to get those negative, unsupportive people out of your life. I'm glad your strong enough to over look them.[/quote']

Strong enough and guess what now there so supportive ... I'm 6 months out and loss 100 pounds with only 14-20 pounds to my goal they see that I'm so happy and maybe they where scared but now that I've had it done things have changed between us all good things .. So to the new sleevers keep pushing for your dreams don't let anyone stop you from what u deserve and that to be healthy

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Awesome girl!

I concur--sometimes the best and only answer is to be the example of a healthier you. Way to go 6 months and 100 pounds!!!!!

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Some people are just negative. I haven't come across too many of them, but when I do I politely thank them for their concern, and go about my day. It's not their decision, and I don't regret getting the surgery one bit. They can think whatever they do, it doesn't really matter to me when I think about that I'm not in the hospital because I didn't get diabetes because I finally lost the weight by VSG or something along those lines.

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Which is why I'm a closet sleever. "Ain't nobody's business but my own." :ph34r:

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Which is why I'm a closet sleever. "Ain't nobody's business but my own." :ph34r:

Good for you if you can do it but guess what I've told everyone in the beginning and I'm still tell ppl I've help a few ppl on the way those negatives don't stop me I'm way to strong headed for that

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