ok if anyone has been reading my postings it shows how down ive been about my new stomach and my success. well i spoke to my nut today and told her whats been going on and she looked at my stats and said i am doing great. she says the average weight loss for sleeve is 30lbs in 3 months and im down 29lbs in 2 months. she also said to hide the scale because i obess with it daily.

so for those that feel like it aint working, its working. i feel so much better now that i spoke to her.

also i know we are here to support each other but some folks can be very judgemental and thats not cool. no one here is perfect and to come down on someone here is not nice. its cool to suggest and give positive advice but some ppl here are like police patrol. so before you are quick to judge anyone think about where you came from and ask yourself have you had any struggles, some ppl vent here because they have no one else to talk to and the last thing a person needs is someone judgeing them. i just wanted to say that.

I'm so glad your appt. ended up on the positive and you heard what you needed to hear. I haven't had surgery yet so I don't yet know what it feels like to be in your shoe's, I can only imagine. I do agree with you that everyone here has more of an understanding than people on the outside and to have someone judge you can be horrible, I always like to hear a positive over a negative but unfortunately sometimes we need a little negative to get us back inline. Again i'm very happy all is going well for you :}

Newgrandmother....all I have to say is "AMEN!" & CONGRATS on the weight loss & glad you're feeling so much better!

This is an open forum and you can receive both positive and negative feedback. You have to be open to receive both.

well i personally dont want negative feedback so if you cant be supportive even is i slip which everyone does except those that act so perfect lol. yes its an open forum but i dont have to read what is written if it is scolding. im going through enough dont need the scolding from ppl that are like me.

takroom thank you. my nut made my day

There are some real doosies on here for sure! Majestic me pity the people who have to put up with them in real life!!

geaux so true

Newgrandmother woohooo on your progress! so happy that you are on the right track. On another note about the negativity, i agree with you.. i dont have much post up but i read a lot of the forums. And i see a pattern of the people who are further out post up and act like they "know it all" and are very critical. Dont get me wrong theyre input are very helpful, but they talk as if they were once newbies. Some even act like theyre licensed professionals. Im a licensed nurse myself but i dont feel like i need to lecture and be so critical and blunt. That is why im always hesitant to post coz of them people. At the end of the day there is no other outcome but to lose weight may it be fast or slow, follow the diet 100%, cheat the diet sometimes, work our like crazy, or brisk walk... because we all got 80%-85% of our stomach removed and CANT EAT how we used to!!

msemma. i totally agree with you. i stay positive here thats what this forum is for. thats why some ppl are afraid to post and ask questions or tell whats going on with them. i post and post and ask questions and have suggestions at times, we are all here to help each other not make the other person feel bad for a mistake. we have all fallen short no need to give critiacal or blunt comments.

and yes today was better for me after the nut talked to me i am good no more negative feelingsi get it now

Congrats!! You are consistent and have shown that this journey works. Thank u for being inspiring.

New grandmother....congrats girl on the loss. I have said to many people I know it's not how fast you lose it's the fact you are losing. Keep up the great work

And I agree with the negative comments. I feel there is a way to tell someone they aren't doing the right thing or that you don't agree with their decisions without coming off rude or nasty. I too have see a pattern on who continuously gives negative feedback or comments. I tend to ignore them. They will post on your topics but once you see the pattern of who is and who isn't nasty it makes it easier to skip over them in a post.

I'm so happy you're feeling better. I go through days every now and then when I feel down. But we will get Through it and we will look amazing!

perfect thank you so much. i hate feeling that way my nut suggest i go to an intake and talk about ways to overcome those feelings. and i ignore them also. well after i say what i have to say lol

Don't let the judgemental people get you down. It irks me when I read negative things on here. We are here to support each other, not to bring people down. I am happy to hear that you are in a better frame of mind. Keep up the good work.

I understand how you feel. I've almost deleted my account a couple times because of negative comments people are making towards each other. I don't because I have found some positive support and information on here. There are also times I don't say what I want or express my feelings because I have no desire to read people's negative comments. We don't need the negative. We know what our issues are and how we got to where we are at. We need the positive and encouragement.

You are doing great newgrandmother!! Keep up the good work, and now that you've had the positive reinforcement from your NUT, you can be even more encouraged. Obviously, you are doing it right !!