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Ok, I'm a about to pay my deposit!! I'm just sitting here pondering on if I REALLY want to go through with this and imagining just how different my life will be once I do... It's a huge decision. I hope and pray that I'm doing what's best for me...

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I struggled with the same decision. But I am so glad I went thru with it. One month post op and down 28 pounds!! Good luck!! I'm sure you will make the right call for you.

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Once I sent in my deposit (mine was non-refundable) it solidified my decision...it definitely makes it feel more real, that it's going to happen! I'm hoping these next few months fly by, I've spent too much time already this way..next chapter please! :)

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Only you can make this choice. The what if's are a killer. Personally, i wrote down why I needed to do this and read that list often. Daily or hourly sometimes.

Confident you will make the right decision for your future. Hugs for you.

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I paid my deposit and am still fighting with my decision. I think about the benefits, hope that my pains go away (its raining and my body is killing me), but then I think about the sagging, complications, keeping the weight off, etc.

I am going to go through with it because I look forward to having the energy and ability to do more with my kids. My son is a teenager and he has called me out on being lazy a few times (in open conversations).. I don't want that to be the way he sees me anymore so I fight through it now regardless of the pain. My daughter is 3 and I always plan on going out with her on the weekends but then end up staying home..

The point is you may still struggle with the idea even after paying the deposit. Just remember that you thought hard about this and its worth it.

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It's a big decision! My surgery was supposed to be today and got pushed back to Nov 8th, it was definitely a mix of huge disappointment mixed with a bit of relief!

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I struggled as well thinking if I should do it, but after writing the pros and cons its best for me. Personally only you can decide if your ready. Fear challenges us all, but you'll soon be over it and realize its for the best. Good luck!! I paid mine this month n it's non refundable, so the money is gone lol., honestly after adding it up, its money I would've wasted on other non important things like fast food or toys my kids really dont need lol .. So cheers to a new person

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Change is hard, especially one as big as this. It's a huge and very personal decision. You're not alone. I was just sleeved 3 days ago and feel so much relief that I went through with it and didn't back out. I think of it as a lifetime commitment to myself.

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It's a big decision! My surgery was supposed to be today and got pushed back to Nov 8th' date=' it was definitely a mix of huge disappointment mixed with a bit of relief![/quote']

I read some of your story earlier! I was at work so only read bits and pieces of it, but I can't believe the airline cancelled your flight! :( that sucks... I would have been in hysterics too! You probably were already nervous about the surgery, and then all that happens!

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Scary and exciting!

Amanda Rae

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I went through the same feelings until the day of surgery. It's normal. I made a list of the pros and cons, and believe them there were a lot more pros than cons. I pulled it out when I would get the jitters, or read success stories on the various boards.

In the end, I just did it step by step. I told myself I just had to get on the plane. Then I just had to go check out the hospital. If it felt even a little off, I was outta there. Great staff, super-clean hospital, okay. That night I ate my last meal, meditated a little, prayed alot, and just felt really calm.

It's okay to be nervous. It's life-changing surgery. Your life will never be the same. It will be better! for example, two months out, I am smiling and posing for pictures. I have hidden from cameras for so many years. Now I'm jumping in them! :D

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I went through the same feelings until the day of surgery. It's normal. I made a list of the pros and cons' date=' and believe them there were a lot more pros than cons. I pulled it out when I would get the jitters, or read success stories on the various boards.

In the end, I just did it step by step. I told myself I just had to get on the plane. Then I just had to go check out the hospital. If it felt even a little off, I was outta there. Great staff, super-clean hospital, okay. That night I ate my last meal, meditated a little, prayed alot, and just felt really calm.

It's okay to be nervous. It's life-changing surgery. Your life will never be the same. It will be better! for example, two months out, I am smiling and posing for pictures. I have hidden from cameras for so many years. Now I'm jumping in them! <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/biggrin.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':D' />[/quote']

Amy, are you having any issues with your hair falling out?

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Jesser, not yet. I'll be two months tomorrow so it still could happen. I do take Biotin every other day and all the other stuff they recommend. But if it does, it's just hair. It will grow back.

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Wait! What if the world ends on 12/21/12?!?! Lol!

;-)

Amanda Rae

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Wait! What if the world ends on 12/21/12?!?! Lol!

;-)

Amanda Rae

My husband laughs at this....but I stated the same thing and booked my surgery for January.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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