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I imagine I'll feel the same in 13 days. Take a deep breath, and keep reminding yourself of all the things you'll do on the other side of surgery.

You got this!!!

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well, this is a major, life altering step that you are taking. if you didn't have some anxiety, i'd think that you were crazy.

i think that we all have that pre surgery 'holy crap what the hell am i thinking' moment, followed shortly after by the 'holy crap, what the hell did i do to myself' moment at some point afterwards. but, i think probably that most of us end up with the 'holy crap, this is freakin awesome' moment/life once we get adjusted to our new lives. at least that has been my experience.

good luck on your journey.

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Thanks for the support! I'm a critical care nurse and have backed out if this surgery twice now because of patients that I get that have had poor outcomes. I'm trying to keep my mind clear and positive. I will be sleeved as well as having my gallbladder removed. My oldest daughter moved away to Texas yesterday and I'm feeling like my support is down to one (my youngest). Ugh!

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Ugh i hear u, I am an NP and I am scheduled for the 10 of dec. I work in as a Hospitalist NP and having surgery at the hospital I work at. I am scared out of my mind as well! But, no guts no glory!

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Ugh i hear u' date=' I am an NP and I am scheduled for the 10 of dec. I work in as a Hospitalist NP and having surgery at the hospital I work at. I am scared out of my mind as well! But, no guts no glory![/quote']

You are brave having it at the same hospital. I'm proud of you! I couldn't do it, kept thinking that if I code I will be cared for by my peers. Haha

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I am signing into the hospital under a AKA. None of my colleges know I'm having it done!

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May i ask what the complications have been that you've seen? Im so nervous..oct 25 ahh!!

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Honestly I have only seen one complication, and it was a leak. But she wasn't done at the hospital I work at. The hospital I work @ is a Bariatic center of excellence. They do about 100 surgeries a month.

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Most that I have seen are erosion to the band, leaks, and infections. These too were from other hospitals with a most from Mexico. All have had positive outcomes but much long term follow up.

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As medical professionals when would you say most leaks take place? I was under the impression the risk was high for a month or so, but i have since read otherwise. Is it the norm for a leak to happen late?

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My big fear is never leaving the OR. I have horrible anxiety, and I've been put under three times before but never really cut on except my mouth. For some reason this is scary to me even though my surgeon was a vascular surgeon before he started bariatrics.

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As medical professionals when would you say most leaks take place? I was under the impression the risk was high for a month or so' date=' but i have since read otherwise. Is it the norm for a leak to happen late?[/quote']

Usually quickly, within days. But it has been some time since I've seen one. Mostly erosions from the lap band.

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My big fear is never leaving the OR. I have horrible anxiety' date=' and I've been put under three times before but never really cut on except my mouth. For some reason this is scary to me even though my surgeon was a vascular surgeon before he started bariatrics.[/quote']

That's a strong fear that many people have. You will be fine and out in no time. Vascular surgeons that turn to this can be very good.

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That's a strong fear that many people have. You will be fine and out in no time. Vascular surgeons that turn to this can be very good.

I think if I had to pick fields for transfer vascular would be my first :) I trust my surgeon very much. I just always seem to be in that small percent that has adverse side effects to everything! Mostly why I voted against roux-en-y. Such a high risk for SEVERE dumping that NEVER goes away. No thank you, my options are better here :)

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