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This Time Next Year. Stay Tuned!

Raven21

By Raven21, in Gastric Sleeve Surgery Forums

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Raven21    121

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Seems like everything I do lately triggers a "this time next year..." in my brain. My kids' school curriculum night, their sports events, Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, everything I do with other people! All I can think about is the next time I attend whatever event it is. I CAN'T WAIT! Honestly, before I looked into this surgery I had lost all hope. I've tried every diet and even the ones that worked ended up with me regaining what I lost and more. I decided I can't diet anymore because it only makes me bigger in the end! But not this time. This time it's going to be forever.

Am I the only one who thinks people sometimes dislike me because of my size? I honestly don't know if it's my crazy fat brain or actually true. But I swear there are a few people who I get really negative vibes from that I think is based solely on my weight. I wonder what they'll think of me next year?! Although, I bet I won't even care. Like I unfortunately DO now. I guess I just assume people judge me like I judge myself. And it's not pretty.

But next year...!

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"this time next year..."

Raven21

As you are loosing weight, health, happiness are improving, - there are so many things to look forward to

here is to your new life,...many great things are in front of you "this time next year.."

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I have the same thoughts. I also think people not only may not like you, they don't respect you. Several years ago I lost 60 lbs (which I gained back), and I swear I got better service and was treated like a person with a brain. When you're fat people assume you're lazy and stupid!

I can't wait for next year too!!

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I had the same thoughts pre-surgery, too!! Now, I'm reaping the benefits of the lost weight, including liking ME more. I think people DO judge us because we're fat, etc, but there are some downsides, too. I've had two friends jump ship because they don't like the changes in me. And, in some ways, they are right. I'm less likely to accept someone treating me as less than (fill in the adjective here), simply because of my size. I'm a smart, capable, funny, loving human being... and I'm working on accepting those things about myself. You will find that there is a huge mental journey attached to this weight loss, but it's SO worth it!

Good luck! I can't wait to see what your "next year" looks like!!! :)

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

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