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I'm so upset, frusterated, discouraged, and PISSED. I have lost 73 pounds in 6 months. From 281 pounds to 208 pounds. From a size 26 to a size 18. Not one person has commented on my weightloss. REALLY? This sucks!!!!

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  • Could be that evil ass JEALOUS!!! Keep your head up! ((((((HUGS)))))))

  • Don't feel bad....you are not doing this for them....You are doing this for youself. If you feel good, thats all that matters. Keep it up.

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    My weight loss is way beyond noticeable now (50 pounds in 6 weeks) And, ironically, most of the people in my office who have commented on my weight loss (in a good way) are the straight guys! Everyo

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Wow! That's unimaginable. Why do you think that is?

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I don't know? It makes me feel like crap. I feel worse now than I did 73 pounds more ago. I don't know what to do!?!?

First off, Way to go! You should be really proud of yourself!

It could be that people don't want to say anything out of fear of emberressing you. Just a thought.

That is ridiculous! it is amazing what you have done. i am sorry that no one in your life has commented on it. I am having my surgery on 9-6 and if no one comments on my hard work i would be upset too. thankfully their are others out there that can et you know you have done a wonerful job. keep up the har work :)

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Don't feel bad....you are not doing this for them....You are doing this for youself. If you feel good, thats all that matters. Keep it up.

First of all, great job!!!!!

Secondly, that's what we're here for ;) we are here to support you ;)

73 lbs in 6 months is amazing!!!! And, FYI, some people (like one of my brothers for example) tells me he won't congratulate me on my weightloss because "why should I congratulate you on finally getting healthy.... That's like me saying "hey, welcome to the rest of the world" but then again, tough skin in our family..... LoL

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Could be that evil ass JEALOUS!!! Keep your head up! ((((((HUGS)))))))

Sometimes people don't know what to say. It is better than 'you've got such a pretty face', isn't it? I hate that. Soon I will be asking, do you know any good places to donate all these clothes that are too big now?

Do it for yourself and tell yourself how hard you have worked. YOU know you look great and they do, too. Even if they don't say it!

I bet that is very frustrating. Although your not doing it for anyone else but you, you still want people to notice!!! Post some pix here- I'm sure we would be able to tell!!

Good job with your progress, everyone is different in how they show it. I lost 40 before surgery and no one said anything.

Then I went back to work three weeks after having surgery. I had only lost another 20ish at the time, and suddenly everyone was commenting on it.

I think you'll hit that point when the weight loss, for whatever reason, starts to show up much more visually. Plus, since women are shorter it can take a little longer to notice.

Keep up the good work, it'll happen.

Define "not one person". Does that include your family and close friends? Did they know you were having surgery? Sometimes people shun the idea of WLS because they think it's the wrong choice, the "easy way out", etc. So maybe they're just bitter that you did it and it's working for you. Remember, at least you found a way out!

Could be that evil ass JEALOUS!!! Keep your head up! ((((((HUGS)))))))

I totally agree! You have made awesome progress, if no one has commented on it they are either blind or jealous. LOL

Define "not one person". Does that include your family and close friends? Did they know you were having surgery? Sometimes people shun the idea of WLS because they think it's the wrong choice' date=' the "easy way out", etc. So maybe they're just bitter that you did it and it's working for you. Remember, at least you found a way out![/quote']

I was going to ask the same thing. Who knows you have had surgery? And who is it that you are wanting to comment on your amazing success?

I know I get the most compliments from myself:-) I actually stand in front of the mirror, checking myself out, and telling myself I look good. Cheesy, I know, but my opinion of myself matters a damn site more than anyone else's. I also frequently seek feedback on how I am looking from my husband, sisters, mother and a couple of friends. I want to know how they see me and particularly whether clothes look okay on me, this is where they come in really handy!

I am very open about my surgery though.

At work people I am not super close to will tell me I am looking really good or even really 'healthy'. I don't care, I'll take it! I say thank you. They may not be mentioning my weight but I know have noticed and are commenting on the loss without drawing attention to it.

So sorry you're not getting the accolades you deserve from those close to you. But you should be very proud of yourself!!! What an amazing accomplishment!

I'm so upset, frusterated, discouraged, and PISSED. I have lost 73 pounds in 6 months. From 281 pounds to 208 pounds. From a size 26 to a size 18. Not one person has commented on my weightloss. REALLY? This sucks!!!!

That doesn't seem possible!!! Are you around lots of jealous types??? Maybe they don't want to be too personal? ( or are you talking about family?)

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