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Getting sleeved on August 13. Was totally excited and now I'm starting to get worried. I've never had major surgery before, what if something goes wrong? Should I say goodbye to people just in case something horrible happens and I don't make it?

I've been really positive about the surgery to everyone, but I'm really starting to get nervous about what could happen.

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Babes you have NO I MEAN NO TIME TO THINK NEGATIVE ONLY POSITIVE that's it that's the energy you need and want to come to you. YOU will be fine you are strong and starting a new healthier you and GOD doesn't give you anything you can't handle so hold tight have faith and keep GOING ;) I'm behind you and I'm a stranger;)

Cheers to your success

Parris;)

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I was in your shoes a week ago. Had my surgery on Monday, July 30 and am doing great! I won't lie, you'll be pretty uncomfortable the first night. I've had numerous surgeries so wasn't too afraid about the actual process.

You'll do fine. Good luck!

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Keep your eyes on the prize. I assume you are doing this for a healthier you and improved quality of life. Keep remembering that and also remind yourself that you have no options. I didn't say goodbye to anyone. It seemed that focusing on the remote possibility that something would happen to me would make the nervousness worse. Besides, what good would a goodbye do? If you were to die, it wouldn't make any difference to you and it wouldn't make any difference to anyone else because they would be distraught anyway.

You will do fine.

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I had the same kind of thing happen to me. What I did was take Bach Flower remedy it worked for my nervousness I guess I was stressed that I had financal and emotional as well as social things to worry about so I came across them and worked like magic! Like it says above there is no time to think negatively! Whatever you decide just be certain about it and assume all the risks.

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Thanks, everyone!

I'm feeling much better now. It was just a momentary freak out. Staying focused on the big picture right now. Did all of my shopping for post-surgery drinks and Tomato Soup. Just keep on swimming.

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I had surgery on Monday. Let me tell you, I was so nervous by the time they got me in the OR that I was ready to run away! But I didn't. In fact, they gave me a little medicine for the anxiety and I felt a little more relaxed. I had my gallbladder out at the same time. It was weird. I was on the operating table and then suddenly I was done in a blink. I was really sore the first few days, but after the pain dissipated, all that was left was the gas pain. I am hoping I have that under control now, too, though. The bottom line is, don't worry too much! It is one week of not that intense pain (esp with painkillers which I couldn't take because I am allergic) and you are on track to have a brand new life! :) Keep your head up!

Autumn

Started at 274 (before surg - liq diet for 2 weeks)

Date of Surg: 258

8/5: 251

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Thanks, everyone!

I'm feeling much better now. It was just a momentary freak out. Staying focused on the big picture right now. Did all of my shopping for post-surgery drinks and Tomato Soup. Just keep on swimming.

Be careful - tomatoes are acidic and can cause stitches to deteriorate. Ask your Dr before drinking... Also, try to avoid dairy if you still have gas pains. It makes it worse.

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The doctor's assistant recommended Tomato Soup. I'm kind of picky about Soups, so I can really only have Tomato and chicken broth.< /p>

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I was not nervous, I was flat out scared. I was afraid of dying on the table, all I thought about was what happend to my wife and my two sons if I die. Then I put in into persective. If I do not have this surgery im going to die sooner or later anyway. I was scared right up to the day of the surgery. The day of the surgery, I was very calm and ready for the surgery. It will be a year on August 16th. I am down from 489 lbs to 263 pounds and feeling great. This surgery has made me a better husband and a better father. Before the surgery they also gave me something for the anxiety and I tell you what, That was great stuff lol I do not even remeber getting rolled into the operating room. If I can do it, anyone can! Good luck! You will be fine!

Respectfully,

Joe

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We all had those same fears. But trust me, this is routine for these surgeons and you'll be fine. Look at your surgeon's complication rate and I'm sure it will put your mind at ease. My doctor's was under 1% complications. Just keep thinking, It's just a walk in the park. ;)

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I have my surgery on 3 September and I've had the same thoughts. I think it's natural to think about it - I just made sure that I had everything sorted out (will up to date etc) but when I was thinking about this over the weekend, if I don't do something now I will have to have surgery down the track for knee replacements or hip replacements due to my weight (and I am only 33) - so I am looking at it like a pre-emptive strike lol. Best of luck to you though and I agree with the recommendations to stay positive - it won't make any different to think negatively but if you think positively, your body will be under less stress which makes our bodies work more efficiently and our recoveries should be better :) So aim for a little positivity and I look forward to hearing your exciting updates post-surgery!

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Think of it this way. If your doctor told you that you had a heart problem, and you needed surgery to correct the problem or you'd die young, you wouldn't think twice about it, right? Well you need this surgery or you will die young. And worse than a sharp pain and falling over because your heart failed, it will be a long, agonizing death of diabetes, high blood pressure, joint problems, and yes, probably heart disease anyway. So don't think twice about it. It needs to be done to save your life.

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