The Fine Line Between Acceptance And Making Excuses

[Globetrotter 1,340]

Thank you Sweetums, you are correct, I was not asking to be judged, peremptory judgement is what got a lot of us here in the first place, I am looking for discussion, the sort of talk-therapy thing VST is good for. Thanks to everyone for their comments, they are helping me formulate an understanding.

Yesterday I ate ... some chinese broth with pork chunks and vegetables, a sandwich with pork chunks, cheddar cheese, and pickles, a few red grapes, a Swedish crepe with some mascerated raspberries, and some tea with milk. I should not have had the crepe or the bread on the sandwich but otherwise, did okay? Also a yoga and a pilates class.

[notime 340]

" I should not have had the crepe or the bread on the sandwich." You answered your own question.

[Globetrotter 1,340]

Yes, thank you notime, I'm aware. Be very careful of how judgemental you are of others, it will come back to bite you in the a$$.

[notime 340]

Don't ask for a judgement if you don't want one.

[CaliKat 153]

@Globetrotter-

from one bay area girl to another.....you look fantastic!

I doubt any of us have had perfect adherance to our perscribed post-op diets- all we can do is take it day-by-day and do the best we can.

I think its awesome that you can be honest with yourself and this community about your experiences and hope that some of the comments give you the insight/motivation/laughs to keep moving forward. This is a lifelong commitment and I cant imagine living in a world w/o a scoop of Ben & Jerrys once in a while!!

So have your sugar, carbs and cocktails (in moderation) and with a side of yoga or cardioblast and live the best damn life you can imagine!

[SleeveandRNYchica 1,155]

You are too funny...I love the little tiny font! The problem, like you have said, is to overcome the mental game of it. Why should we apologize for eating a donut every once in a while. I do it! We have Tim Horton's here in Canada and they have Timbits (donut holes). The once every 3 weeks to month that we have them, I usually have 4-6...you heard right, 4-6! I am full afterward, but I enjoyed them. Whether or not you feel like it is becoming a problem is really up to you, and not for any of us to judge.

They have Tim Hortons in Ohio, can I just tell you those are the best dang on mini donuts I have ever eaten! I will not tell you how many we ate driving from Ohio to VA....

Sorry off topic but I just had to chime in on the T.H!

[Globetrotter 1,340]

Haha, thank YOU CaliKat, you are awesome! I definitely need that kind of power talk right now Went for a hike last night, several miles of rugged terrain, and today have eaten a piece of sausage, half a small biscuit, and drank an iced chai, no sugar. lunch will be some curried beef, no rice, and dinner will be some elk - a very lean protein- in a salad.< /p>

[Supersweetums 1,164]

@Globetrotter-

from one bay area girl to another.....you look fantastic!

I doubt any of us have had perfect adherance to our perscribed post-op diets- all we can do is take it day-by-day and do the best we can.

I think its awesome that you can be honest with yourself and this community about your experiences and hope that some of the comments give you the insight/motivation/laughs to keep moving forward. This is a lifelong commitment and I cant imagine living in a world w/o a scoop of Ben & Jerrys once in a while!!

So have your sugar, carbs and cocktails (in moderation) and with a side of yoga or cardioblast and live the best damn life you can imagine!

ALLELUIA!! This is what I have done and try to get across the point to others! I am not saying go back to your old eating habits, you will never succeed if you don't change what you eat. But you have to be realistic. I know that I can not go the rest of my life without ever eating a little bit of ice cream or some chocolate. The key, like you said, is moderation and a healthy lifestyle. Something you can live with for the rest of your life. And to get away from the guilt and shame that we put ourselves through. I have found, with the sleeve, tomorrow really is a new day!

Oh, and Globetrotter, I think you are gorgeous! You have done amazing and look great!

[Des0520 28]

So I have struggled with a plateau for about 4-5 months now and I know that it is (mostly) my own dang fault; I've always been an excruciatingly slow loser but in the last 6 months I have stopped being true to my super-low carb/high protein/low cal diet. On the one hand, I justify it because I am committed to eating healthfully and reasonably and that means not living the rest of my life on a diet. Sounds good right? But, I think I'm toeing the line of making excuses, I let myself eat M&M's, bread, soda!! Grrrrr.

Today I am having a Protein shake, 2 eggs, greek yogurt with a spoonful of jam, lots of hot tea sweetened with stevia, and probably a caesar salad w chicken for dinner and maybe some hot quinoa and a tiny piece of chocolate. That sounds ,,, bad? good? cheating?

Does anyone else struggle with the psychology of this?

You sound exactly like me. I keep thinking shouldn't it be habitual and a no brainer to eat healthy. But no, I let some old habits creep back in and I paid less and less attention to everything. I think it all started when I quit writing down everything I am eating. Like you I am getting back on track and feeling good again. I'm just happy I only had a stall and didn't gain anything back. I know friends that hit this long stall and started gaining back because they gave up.