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Hello loves :]

Im Desirae, im about 4days post op and im glad to say surgery went awesome! I only spent 2days in the hospital when they realized me for all the hard work i did walking around! Im at home, recovering nicely try to do my best to walk around and stuff. I have a little brother, hes 8 (im only 18) and he doesn't really understand that sissy can't eat like he does..and he trys to share his food with me,and feed it too me and I have to tell him no and it makes me really sad. I really miss the joy of being able to go out, or eat a home cooked meal with my friends and family. I feel so exiled,and im such a social person its starting to really get to me? I know i got a long way to go, but i really miss it. Any advice loves?

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It is normal. I did the same thing my first week. 3months 3 weeks out I no longer obsese over food. I eat to make my body function. Other wise I would not eat. I went from 261 to 210 and I don't regret it one bit.

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Absolutely went thru this!!!! It made me realize food was absolutely and obsession for me. I was living to eat and now I eat to live. I never understood that before the surgery. Now it is empowering!! I love it!!

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Im 5 weeks out and miss eating so much lately. I'm losing and so thankful for that. But I would LOVE to have a BLT or meatloaf anything with some texture and flavor. Its been almost 2 going on 3 months since I had what I consider real food. I miss sooo much an ice cold Coke. I still have the pain when I try to eat. I have to stop after only 5 bites. I went out to Cracker Barrel this morning with my husband and had to order just one egg and a sausage...couldn't eat the sausage. I ordered milk just to make me feel a little normal. One drink and my taste buds about spit it out. When will I feel normal or feel what I am is normal? With alot of stress at work, it only makes this worse.

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Hello loves :]

Im Desirae, im about 4days post op and im glad to say surgery went awesome! I only spent 2days in the hospital when they realized me for all the hard work i did walking around! Im at home, recovering nicely try to do my best to walk around and stuff. I have a little brother, hes 8 (im only 18) and he doesn't really understand that sissy can't eat like he does..and he trys to share his food with me,and feed it too me and I have to tell him no and it makes me really sad. I really miss the joy of being able to go out, or eat a home cooked meal with my friends and family. I feel so exiled,and im such a social person its starting to really get to me? I know i got a long way to go, but i really miss it. Any advice loves?

Hi! You have no idea how lucky you are that you were able to have this surgery at your age. I'm 58 and wasted many years being "fluffy". When you begin to lose weight and drop pant sizes, you won't miss the food at all. It is true that you can't sit and eat large quantities of food like you did post-surgery. However, you will now be eating a lot more frequently - just smaller quantities. You'll also be a lot more selective in what you decide to put in your mouth.

Once your friends start to notice your weightloss-and more importantly-guys-you won't miss the food. I promise you. At your age it will literally fall off you. Listen to your stomach and stop eating when you sense you're full. Don't go overboard and you'll be at your goal weight before your 19th birthday. Good luck and keep us posted. We're rooting for you :D

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Im 5 weeks out and miss eating so much lately. I'm losing and so thankful for that. But I would LOVE to have a BLT or meatloaf anything with some texture and flavor. Its been almost 2 going on 3 months since I had what I consider real food. I miss sooo much an ice cold Coke. I still have the pain when I try to eat. I have to stop after only 5 bites. I went out to Cracker Barrel this morning with my husband and had to order just one egg and a sausage...couldn't eat the sausage. I ordered milk just to make me feel a little normal. One drink and my taste buds about spit it out. When will I feel normal or feel what I am is normal? With alot of stress at work, it only makes this worse.

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Look how much you've lost so far. You're doing so well! I think the problem is your head hasn't realized that you're losing weight yet. In a few more weeks you won't miss the food a bit. I promise you. Keep up the good work.

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Hey, girl! Wow, you are so ahead of the life change having this done so early! In a few weeks, you'll be able to eat some regular foods. Don't stop going out with your friends and family...just pick places that have food you'll be able to eat. You could order a sweet potato at a restaurant, or scrambled eggs... Don't give up or get depressed. Your new stomach will not want a lot of food. You can still do so many things, and will feel better doing them!

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I'm glad to hear that you're doing so well! Maybe make a list of all the things you want to do but couldn't because of your weight and post it on the fridge? A night or two before surgery I felt like I couldn't sleep cause I was having a mini panic attack about all the things I "would never be able to" eat again. Now that I'm post surgery I'm finding that my interest in them for physical hunger is low to non-existent. My brain, however, still sees something once in a while and goes Ohhh that would be good, before my stomach kicks in and tells me to stop being a doof.

I plan on going to food counseling. My cousin found it super useful to deal with her issues with food after her RNY surgery. Do you think that might be beneficial for you? It might be worth a try. Maybe you can let your brother taste a couple of things of your as you continue on. Not all the foods are too bad, and maybe it will help him understand a little better? I know he's young, but maybe he won't feel left out at all that way.

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      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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