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SophieJaneB    92

SophieJaneB
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I was able to "resume sexual activity" yesterday, after my 2 week post op appt. And with 24 lbs gone, it was like a whole new world, felt like a new person. Just wanted to give you pre-surgery people something to look forward to! :D

And I guess I could all that a Non-scale Victory also! :D heehee

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carioca    7

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Thanks for the incentive! It's nice to know that after 2 weeks life will be 'normal' again. I'm 4 days before surgery and looking forward to it.

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Piplula    709

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Oh yeah..I thoroughly enjoy sex more...more often, more positions, more time...lol..I know..naughty naughty! But my hubby sure isn't complaining ..& neither am I!!!!!

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SophieJaneB    92

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My main problem before, was sex drive. That has improved already, after just 24 lbs gone. My hubby was wondering what had gotten into me :) LOL

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NCsleever63    53

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This is all such good news!!!!...

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Pookeyism    1,143

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Our relationships post-sleeve are something everyone has thought and worried about. Thanks for reminding everyone that there are some very real, very positive things to be shared after surgery with your signifigant other.

I wrap my lleg around my Hubby's waist now when I am asleep...I apparently dont even know it. he seems quite pleased :o

Just one of many things we enjoy now ;)

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mrsflyboybs    62

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I'm down 66 lbs since my surgery in April and oh man, I love getting it on! Before my surgery I was always tired and found excuses to not make nookie because things "jiggling" around Now? My hubby walks in the door, in his cute little Air Force uniform and I'm all over him like a dog on a 3 legged cat. Me-ow!

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keldolbeth    262

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This is funny because I was about to post a thread about sex today too! I'm a month post-op and have had sex twice since surgery. (I only waited 10 days, doc said I could do it when I felt ready.) The "friend" I was with last night was kind of an experiment of sorts because I had not had sex with him in several months, back when I was at my highest weight. I wanted to "test it out" and see if I noticed a difference with 85 pounds gone. Little did I know he had lost a bunch of weight too. (He's not a big guy, just lost most of his beer gut. lol) So, of course, he lost inches in his waist and gained it you-know-where. I felt much smaller or shallower down there now. It has never hurt with him before and last night I let out a few yelps of pain. Afterwards I told him I was mad at him because he "punched my cervix." lol We had a good laugh! But that was the ONLY negative! Everything else was great! It was so nice to wrap my legs around his waist or hold my own legs up more easily!

Oh, I love the TMI threads on this site!

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*susan*    1,709

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Sex is one of the greatest gifts given to us, live it up ladies! Get your sexy on, LOL.

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MsDallasSleever    65

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This is funny because I was about to post a thread about sex today too! I'm a month post-op and have had sex twice since surgery. (I only waited 10 days, doc said I could do it when I felt ready.) The "friend" I was with last night was kind of an experiment of sorts because I had not had sex with him in several months, back when I was at my highest weight. I wanted to "test it out" and see if I noticed a difference with 85 pounds gone. Little did I know he had lost a bunch of weight too. (He's not a big guy, just lost most of his beer gut. lol) So, of course, he lost inches in his waist and gained it you-know-where. I felt much smaller or shallower down there now. It has never hurt with him before and last night I let out a few yelps of pain. Afterwards I told him I was mad at him because he "punched my cervix." lol We had a good laugh! But that was the ONLY negative! Everything else was great! It was so nice to wrap my legs around his waist or hold my own legs up more easily!

Oh, I love the TMI threads on this site!

Oh, have I experienced this. I'm still preop but I lost 100 a couple of years ago so I know where you are coming from. I don't think it is that you are more shallow it's just that you don't have all the extra thighs and etc in the way so you are getting more of it. :D

This is one thing that I can't wait to experience again.

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Lilu    65

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Well I am about four months out and have always had a high sexual want and my hubby was not like me. But once we started having sex again he seems to want me all the time. This was my biggest complaint and we would fight because I thought that he did not love me.

But I now can do the thing I did as a teenager with out the pain of the weight . I also notice I feel him alot more.

This is one of the best things of weight lost, the ability to put your legs around your man or for him to do positions you see on tv is the greats. Fifty shades of grey has nothing on me.

I told hubby we need to make our own porn and he laugh and said what ever you want but I don't want to share you.

We are going to our second honeymoon for my one year goal.

Good luck all glad to hear I am not the only having this experience

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    • Alisa_S

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. LeighaTR

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        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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