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First, congrats on taking the step to come back to the forums to get some much needed support!!! That's one reason I love this site... the supportive people.

Second... YOU sound like you can be an EXTREMELY driven person.. You have done it before with your weight loss post surgery, you did it in your own career and you WILL do it again. What happened at your old company is horrible, you were not treated fair and were forced out wrongly... HOWEVER, letting self pity and depression take over is not the answer.. you obviously know that. Take all of that pity and depression and turn it into positive enery... prove that you are the person that lead sales in your old company... take that energy and use it in your new job and use it in your life to show everyone that you are a winner and that nothing, especially a bunch of stupid men will stop you from excelling. People suck sometimes (ok, sometimes more than sometimes)... but don't let them get you down. Prove that you are better than the slime that put you out of a job.

That's my little pep talk... LOL... Others are right as well, think about seeing a counselor. If you cannot get yourself out of this funk then seek the help you need. There is no shame in asking for help once in a while :) Good luck!!!!!!

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Well first of all, congrats on being sleeved 5 years, that makes you a VET around here! And congrats for losing the weight AND keeping it off. As we all know the losing part isn't the hardest battle, it's the keeping it off that is ever-elusive.

Since you were able to not only lose the weight AND keep it off for a number of years, I'm guessing that this job situation has basically chipped away at you emotionally and you are turning to food. We all know that there is an easy way to defeat our tools, eating the wrong kind of food, grazing, not exercising, etc. And sadly once you are about a year post-op the harder it is to lose the weight. We almost become "normal" in the sense that to take weight off we have to be super-strict about calories, exercise, etc. in order to drop the weight.

But as I always say one of the many things that helped me decide that this surgery was for me, was the fact that this is permanent. We get this tool forever. But we also have to use it wisely.

I wish I had better advice for you, but honestly I think you are just going to have to go back to basics. Have a big pity party for yourself, and then pick yourself up by the bootstraps and start over again. You may want to consider counseling, so that you aren't using food to comfort yourself. Hard stuff for sure. But you either make peace with where you are or you start fighting to get where you want to be. None of it is easy, but you can do it. Good luck!

What she said. :D

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You have had a rough patch. You have fallen off the wagon, but you have not been run over by it yet! Hop back on and take the reins!!

We are all cheering for you. We want to see you succeed in dropping that 25 lbs and succeed in reclaiming that inner strength and drive that took you so far before!

I do take an anti anxiety/depression medication written by my obesity nutritionist (also a GP or pcp for u guys). She says ppl who use food to cope need help when you take that away. There is no shame seeing a therapist nor taking medication for chemical imbalance (depression). If it was insulin medication, no one would think twice, it's the same thing.

Exercise releases feel good endorphins, find something you love, crossfit looks cool!

And lastly remember--- the best revenge is looking good!!

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Get in a support group - mabye the hospital has one by you. It would be helpful to be around others that can encourage you. Also the therapy is good. The first step is you recognized the problem. Now nip it before it's too late. I know you can do it cause u made it thru the surgery and were successful. You are amazing- good luck

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