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These stories really made me think. And they were hard to read because I spend so much energy burying my feelings. I have some to add: first, I was not always big. I didn't even break 100lbs until freshman year...needless to say whenever I see people from school I hide.

I work for a hospital and was working in the ER when an older patient said to me, "honey when are you due?" so smiling as best I could I replied "about the same time you are, I'm not pregnant I'm just overweight" don't you know his reply was "oh, you can't lie to me, I know a pregnant woman when I see one.". I just walked away.

One year I had my entire family and my husband's family over for thanksgiving dinner. One aunt who I hadn't seen in years comes walking in and in front of everyone yells "oh my, you sure have put on some weight!". Not even hi, thanks for having me.... :(

I think the worse thing I face is myself... In my head I'm still the thin girl thAt had trouble gaining weight. When I think about me, that's what I see. That in mind, every time I glimpse myself in a mirror in a mall or a store window... Its a shock. It's like each time I have to realize how big I am. Pictures ... Forget it.

I can't wait to get my sleeve. I'll never go back to this.

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I am pre-op and wanted to post because I am also the mother of a 17 year old young man on the Autistic Spectrum, a 21 year old young lady with Down Syndrome and a too typical 4 year old boy.

How interesting that there are so many of us!

As for humiliating moments, I can't really think of anything off the top of my head and I equate this to the fact that I am always the first one to comment about my own weight and to joke about it. I think that honestly I have always been harder on myself about my weight than anyone else ever has. I figured that if I cracked the jokes no one else would need to and I guess that was me protecting myself from those hurtful comments, if that makes any sense.

Kirstyn

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I started a seperate post for parents with kids who have special needs for those who are interested in sharing a story or getting info.

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I started a seperate post for parents with kids who have special needs for those who are interested in sharing a story or getting info.

Thanks PeaceQueen

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I was 8 years old and 130 pounds. My family went to a local "drive-thru zoo" where there were all kinds of animals. At the end of the attraction there was an area where you could get out of your cars and interact with some of the animals. There was a little sort of "merry-go-round" with pygmy ponies in harnesses which were attached to a wheel and they would walk around in circles with kids on their backs. Now, I had no business trying to get on one of those poor little ponies. But I was 8 and I loved animals (still do), so I did. Well, as you can imagine, the pony couldn't walk with me on its back. It just stood there when the harness wheel started moving. They made me get off and I cried all the way home. I can still feel how that felt and it was 40 years ago.

My heart breaks for that little girl. I love animals too and especially horses. I would have gone straight out and gotten you on a real horse.

Heck, If you lived near me I would take you riding with me on Saturday :-)

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My daughter has a chromosome deletion called Ring 21. She is one of about 65 known cases in the world. We don't know what DNA was dleted, so we don't know what to expect. We just take it as it comes. She was a major motivating factor in deciding to have surgery. What happens if I can't care for her? She is such a sweet girl and I am proud she calls me Mommy!

Did you see this article? Rare is right. I'm actually totally surprised that most of us aren't missing parts of chromosomes. So many things can happen.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1013508/?page=1

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I started a seperate post for parents with kids who have special needs for those who are interested in sharing a story or getting info.

Actually you should ask for a separate forum with the title: "Sleevers With Special Needs Children/Family Members"

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Did you see this article? Rare is right. I'm actually totally surprised that most of us aren't missing parts of chromosomes. So many things can happen.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1013508/?page=1

I have read this article! I spent so much time just trying to find one little piece of info! There is much more now, but 13 years ago there was zilch! We just had her retested because now they can tell a little of what genetic info is missing. It won't help us at this point, buut my prayer is it will help another family not go through what we did!

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My most humiliating time was when my new husband and I went to Cedar Point, an amusement park we'd wanted to go to for AGES. We were both roller coaster buffs. But unfortunately I was too fat to get on many of the extreme coasters. They had an employee posted at the entrance near the "test seat." We walked up and he stopped me and asked, "have you been on (this ride) this year?" I said no. He made me sit in the seat and I didn't fit. Humiliated, I agreed to wait with my husband in line, only to get out when we got to the top. The rest of the day was shot and we left early. I was glad one specific coaster was closed because I really, really wanted to go on it and couldn't stand the idea of being told I was too fat.

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One thing I noticed was that I got a lot more comments when I was in my 20's and 30's about weight than now when I am 52. I am more overweight than I was back then, but it really seems to bother people when they see a young person overweight. I always got the, "you have such a pretty face" routine from older women who were trying to convince me I needed to have the body to match. Young guys were the worst! When I was only 145 pounds and trying to jog to lose weight, I would get whale comments from guys driving by. I don't get any comments about my weight anymore unless I go to an Asian country -- they always say something and they think it is pretty funny too.

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Oh - haha. Reading some of these stories did make me think of something that happened. This was about 13 years ago. I was a hair under 300 lbs, but had never been that fat before. I totally ballooned up.

Anyway, I'd been taking some BCP and starting getting odd blood clots. My GP wanted me off the BCP to see if the clots went away, so he made me an appt with a gynecologist to have a "consultation" about my birth control options. I took DH with me. When they called me back the nurse stopped to weigh me, didn't say a word - took us to the consultation room. While we were in there she started taking my blood pressure. I really can't remember exactly how the conversation started, but somehow my weight came up. I think I was making a comment to DH about not realizing I'd gained so much weight, yuck... or something like that. The nurse stopped, laughed, and said something to the effect of, "You have no idea how lucky you are to have found an attractive man who obviously loves you for who you are."

She walked out then, and it was one of those comments I had to puzzle over. Was she calling me ugly? Was it a comment about my weight? Was it harmless? DH had the same reaction. It was like one of those zingers that takes a moment or two to actually hit, and then you're like... waitaminute...

When I got my sheet to sign as I paid, they gave me a copy of her notes including my weight and next to it she had written three exclamation points (in red ink) with "GROSS" in big block letters, and an arrow pointing to my weight (about 296 at the time, IIRC, I'm only about 35 lbs below that now and while I don't consider myself a catch, I wouldn't consider myself GROSS either).

I wrote a letter to that practice's manager and told them that the only thing GROSS about that day was that nurse's comment, and her scribbles on my intake papers. I believe she didn't have a job a few weeks later.

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Actually you should ask for a separate forum with the title: "Sleevers With Special Needs Children/Family Members"

I had no idea I could do that.

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Oh - haha. Reading some of these stories did make me think of something that happened. This was about 13 years ago. I was a hair under 300 lbs, but had never been that fat before. I totally ballooned up.

Anyway, I'd been taking some BCP and starting getting odd blood clots. My GP wanted me off the BCP to see if the clots went away, so he made me an appt with a gynecologist to have a "consultation" about my birth control options. I took DH with me. When they called me back the nurse stopped to weigh me, didn't say a word - took us to the consultation room. While we were in there she started taking my blood pressure. I really can't remember exactly how the conversation started, but somehow my weight came up. I think I was making a comment to DH about not realizing I'd gained so much weight, yuck... or something like that. The nurse stopped, laughed, and said something to the effect of, "You have no idea how lucky you are to have found an attractive man who obviously loves you for who you are."

She walked out then, and it was one of those comments I had to puzzle over. Was she calling me ugly? Was it a comment about my weight? Was it harmless? DH had the same reaction. It was like one of those zingers that takes a moment or two to actually hit, and then you're like... waitaminute...

When I got my sheet to sign as I paid, they gave me a copy of her notes including my weight and next to it she had written three exclamation points (in red ink) with "GROSS" in big block letters, and an arrow pointing to my weight (about 296 at the time, IIRC, I'm only about 35 lbs below that now and while I don't consider myself a catch, I wouldn't consider myself GROSS either).

I wrote a letter to that practice's manager and told them that the only thing GROSS about that day was that nurse's comment, and her scribbles on my intake papers. I believe she didn't have a job a few weeks later.

Good on you for reporting that,,,that was soooo mean!!!! What nerve!

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Actually you should ask for a separate forum with the title: "Sleevers With Special Needs Children/Family Members"

Thanks so much for the suggestion, Cat. I made the request and hope it works out. I like including family members too :)

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Went to the amusement park yesterday. The seatbelt on the roller coaster wouldn't fit, no extender either. embarrasement!!

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