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Im getting sleeved 4 weeks from tomorrow. My friend who did this in january said that she wished she had had a food funeral! So I thought, ya know, not a bad idea. I had a fathers day BBQ yesterday, ended up with lots of extras. I think that as long as I dont gain before my surgury date its ok?? My DR said I only have to do a 7 day pre op diet, so it appears that I can eat whatever for 3 weeks prior. Am I setting myself up for a failure? It seems like most people pre op are loosing alot. I feel like I want to enjoy my last few weeks of meals because once I have the surgury I wont, one, be able to eat for 6 weeks, two, will be eating small portions and three, will no longer be able to eat anything I want.

I eat very healthy, for the most part, and have been dieting since the beginning of the year. I also excersize regularly, so correct me if im wrong, but im eating and enjoying my funeral for the next 3 weeks :D

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Why do you want to do a food funeral? Do you think you won't be able to eat certain things? What do you think you will miss?

I read all the forums and thought I might not be able to eat steak after VSG. I didn't have the luxury of time for a food funeral, as I was informed of my surgery date within the two week pre-op diet. I was obedient because this surgery is so serious and I trusted my surgeon.

I am able to eat steak now, although very limited quantities, Please don't assume you need a food funeral because someone else thought you should. It is that much more weight for you to lose, and it delays adjusting your mindset by that much.

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Im not gorging myself, just eating what I want. I've been dieting for 5 months and just want to eat what I want before surgury. My mind set cant be changed overnight, thats a process in its self.. been working on it for years. I just got done doing an 8 week class about mind set and it really helped the way I think about things.

I know that I can still eat things I enjoy after surgury, just in smaller forms. To me, this is a life altering event and the start of a new life, kind of a re birth. My birthday(surgury date) is July 17 and I cant wait. Im ready to so a tri athlon, 10k and all the things I have been working up to. I did my first 5k a month ago and it felt great.

I did the same thing when I quit smoking back on October, had a little funeral, get rid of all my lighters in the house, ashtrays, detailed the cars. I have not cheated once since the day I quit...Oct 5, 2011. So I guess its my way of throwing out the old and in with the new! :D

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Im not gorging myself, just eating what I want. I've been dieting for 5 months and just want to eat what I want before surgury. My mind set cant be changed overnight, thats a process in its self.. been working on it for years. I just got done doing an 8 week class about mind set and it really helped the way I think about things.

I know that I can still eat things I enjoy after surgury, just in smaller forms. To me, this is a life altering event and the start of a new life, kind of a re birth. My birthday(surgury date) is July 17 and I cant wait. Im ready to so a tri athlon, 10k and all the things I have been working up to. I did my first 5k a month ago and it felt great.

I did the same thing when I quit smoking back on October, had a little funeral, get rid of all my lighters in the house, ashtrays, detailed the cars. I have not cheated once since the day I quit...Oct 5, 2011. So I guess its my way of throwing out the old and in with the new! :D

Well, it is a definite adjustment, but life does go on. I am just six months out from my surgery date, but I am on my third annual "5K" which is mostly upstairs. It is billed as the 5K that feels like a 10K. I drive two days to get to the event, but I love it so much! It sounds like you have great goals and a good start to those goals.

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I think a food funeral is a step in the mindset change process, go for it Lynnz.

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Thanks gals :) im so looking forward to the new and improved ME! I do have goals, lots of them. Things I never thought I could or would want to do. I just wish I hadnt waited so long to start my journey.. cant change the past though, can only make the future better :)

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I went nuts and I don't regret a bite. But everyone is different. I know me. I would still be mourning the things I didn't taste "one last time." I don't plan to visit Krispy Kreme anymore or eat half the junk I used to. It truly is dead to me, so I'm glad I said goodbye. I think I gained 10 pounds after I made the appt.

I crave good food now. It's a good thing ;)

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I did! I loved it! i wanted cake from a bakery so I got one and even had them write "Good Luck Angie Kay" on it! tee hee hee

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I had what I called my food Farewell Tour. I ate a lot of stuff I didn't think I would be able to eat after surgery - both food types, and foods in combinations that probably won't be allowed or are really only satisfying in large bites.

Case in point: Rubio's Baja Original Fish Taco is one of my top five all-time favorite foods. Fried fish, yogurt sauce, cabbage, thick corn tortilla, and I add a salsa verde and lime. It's the nature of the thing that you have to open your mouth wide and take a big bite to get all the different components in one tasting. And it isn't the same thing if even one ingredient is missing.

Will I be able to enjoy my RBOFT again? Highly unlikely; if I even allow myself to have fried fish and corn tortilla, I might not be able to tolerate salsa and I certainly won't be able to take a huge bite and get all the flavors at once. So as my date approached, I had RBOFTs until I was literally sick of them and didn't want to eat any more. Then I had an extra couple, so I was really completely good and sick and the idea of having one was almost nauseating. For now, at least, I don't particularly want to have one.

So as part of a mourning process, and to (potentially) get yourself sick of your favorite foods and ready for your diet? I say go for it!

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I had one this past weekend: went to a Chinese buffet. It was a place we've gone to since I was a child, so to me it wasn't just saying goodbye to food, but I was saying goodbye to that part of my life. I will be able to eat Chinese food again, yes, but never an all-out buffet food-orgy. I don't regret it at all. This week I'm doing a high Protein, low carb diet with lots of Protein Shakes before my pre-op diet starts. I'm glad I had the "food funeral", but am also glad it's over.

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