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I am going to be sleeved on July 2nd and apparently will be home from the hospital on day 3. I live on my own a long way from home and I'm worried I may need some hands-on help in the first few days. My lovely Godmother has offered to fly here to be with me but I'm unsure if I really will need someone around, and I don't want her to make the trip only to find I am fine without her.

This may be a "how long is a piece of string" question, but I'd love some input from those of you with experience. Will I cope on my own? Should I have someone staying with me?

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I think you should even if it is for moral support. Since everyone' s experience is different is hard to say. I had a lot of adminal soreness and needed help getting up and down. I felt crappy and having someone helping me was a blessing.

We go through so many emotional and physical changes the first week. My BF is awesome. He has kept me in check. Tonight I took the container of sugar free Jello out of the fridge. Grabbed my toddler spoon and began to eat. He said what are you doing. He took the container. Measured out 4 ounces and scorned me not to overdo it. That's a bad habit the old Lewanda would do eating out of the container. I'm sure had he let me continue I would be sick because although I had my toddler spoon in hand I probably would have eaten to much and be suffering right now.

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Sorry for the typos. It's dark in here and I need a lighted keyboard. LOL

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I think you should even if it is for moral support. Since everyone' s experience is different is hard to say. I had a lot of adminal soreness and needed help getting up and down. I felt crappy and having someone helping me was a blessing.

We go through so many emotional and physical changes the first week. My BF is awesome. He has kept me in check. Tonight I took the container of sugar free Jello out of the fridge. Grabbed my toddler spoon and began to eat. He said what are you doing. He took the container. Measured out 4 ounces and scorned me not to overdo it. That's a bad habit the old Lewanda would do eating out of the container. I'm sure had he let me continue I would be sick because although I had my toddler spoon in hand I probably would have eaten to much and be suffering right now.

I love how supportive your boyfriend is. Sounds like you are a great success plan living right there with you. That is just awesome. Some people don't have supporters like that.

Smoggy- I cannot refer to this surgery personally, not yet anyway, but I have had 3 other abdominal surgeries done laparoscopically. The last one was two years ago in may when they removed a tumor off on last ovary. Each surgery was a different experience, but I did find that on 2 of them I needed some assistance to sit up from a laying position sometimes. While most of the time I was able to roll to one side, then push up with my arms use of stomach muscles are still needed and there can be some great discomfort if used too much. Having someone beside you for support is a great idea. You never know when you may need that help, and a person could recover much easier knowing someone was there in the event of a "what if"

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I recommend having someone stay w you. I'm single and my granddaughter spent the nights w me. It was comforting to have her here. I wouldn't shower unless she was home w me. You can get a little light-headed in the shower the first days. Plus, she got me my RX and some groceries....a case of bottled Water. I also spent 2 nights in the hospital....really like 2.5 days. Your Godmother will love being w you and feeling like she's helping. If she's offered, take her up on it.

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