Newly single, newly sleeved, New me .. I am looking for other single sleevers out there to talk about single life, before during and after the sleeve. Maybe a place were us singles can come together and talk about whatever who knows maybe Someone can find love.. In a loveless world. So if you are single and out there lets hear from you..

At one point I had the same mindset. But when I step back and take a look objectively, it's not just about what a person looks like, it's what they can do. I, for example, had pretty much turned myself into a prisoner. At 465 lbs I couldn't go to concerts because I didn't fit the seats. I couldn't go to sporting events because it was too painful to walk from the parking lot to the venue, and if I did make it, I was sweating so that I would soak through anything I wore. Now that I am slimmer and on my way to being fit, I do not want to spend my time with someone that was in the same place I was... I would much rather focus on someone that can help me continue my journey to being physically fit and living my life the way I should have been for the last 20 years. Maybe it's selfish, but I know where I was and what I couldn't do... Now that I can, I want someone that can live life with me.

I feel that way, too....I never really got so big that I was noticeably handicapped, but I certainly lead a different lifestyle now. My sleeve resulted in many more changes than simply reducing my portion sizes. I work out way more - even though I was an exerciser pre-sleeve! - I'm more active on a day-to-day basis, and date ideas such as playing badminton or renting bikes together sound way more fun now than they did 2 years ago, I'm a lot more health-conscious, so it feels more organic for me to date someone who won't be pushing me to drink alcohol or split desserts with him at every meal.....one of the reasons I dumped my ex was because he just spent all his time off lying on the couch with his comic books and complaining about how bored he was, yet never offering any ideas for what to do together and refusing all of my suggestions. All he wanted to do was just lie around and eat crap. I used to be like that, too, but happily, I've left that in the past.

I got a book on Ebay that was for therapists with WLS patients. It said that, with relationships and marriages where the partner was heavy at the beginning of the relationship, there was an 80-85% chance that the relationship would dissolve after the weight loss that came after surgery. Hmmmm...makes you wonder, huh?

I am single and have pretty much been single my whole life except when I had my daughter' date=' couldn't do that alone lol. I found it hard to let someone else like me if I didn't like me so I pretty much stayed the "friend". Hopefully as I lose weight I will begin to like myself and allow someone else to like me or maybe love me. I was just sleeved on Mar 19 so a long way to go yet.

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Hi alana ur my sleeve sis lol also sleeved mar 19th

I feel that way, too....I never really got so big that I was noticeably handicapped, but I certainly lead a different lifestyle now. My sleeve resulted in many more changes than simply reducing my portion sizes. I work out way more - even though I was an exerciser pre-sleeve! - I'm more active on a day-to-day basis, and date ideas such as playing badminton or renting bikes together sound way more fun now than they did 2 years ago, I'm a lot more health-conscious, so it feels more organic for me to date someone who won't be pushing me to drink alcohol or split desserts with him at every meal.....one of the reasons I dumped my ex was because he just spent all his time off lying on the couch with his comic books and complaining about how bored he was, yet never offering any ideas for what to do together and refusing all of my suggestions. All he wanted to do was just lie around and eat crap. I used to be like that, too, but happily, I've left that in the past.

Sounds like you're in a much better place now, and that's what I'm looking forward to. Growing up I was extremely athletic, and played baseball, tennis, racquetball, swam on a swim team, wrestled and played football. The last 15 or 20 years I gave all that up inch by inch, pound by pound and I'm just not willing to do that anymore. I'm committed to getting back to that life, and if it means being alone till I can find the perfect fit, well that's just what it means.

BTW, you do have impressive abs

I was sleeved May 24th. I'm a single female. I live 20minutes of downtown Houston. Would love some companionship especially with someone who can identify with having wls.

Single, and decided to pop my head in. Not looking for love, any time soon. Been single for some time. I have decided to keep it that way, especially with school coming up. See ya guys.

I have a new boyfriend! I hadn't planned on dating, but decided to work on myself and focus on my weight loss instead, then bam I meet this amazing man. I avoided eating our first few dates. Then I told him of my surgery a few weeks into dating. He said he knew it was odd I wouldn't eat in front of him. Now he has been very supportive. He knows I need to stop drinking half hour before and must wait an hour after, he knows I must eat slowly, and that I get in pain if I eat too much. Hopefully, everything continues to go well.

Single lady here! Single mom and have been for 10 years now! It's time to get healthy for my self and daughter, and then hopefully find the love of my life! I am 30 days post op

We had a singles forum going on here at one time. I wonder what happened to it.

Single mother here! This should be interesting but I'm gamed haven't been sleeved yet but working on it.

Single, sleeved May 15th! Where do you go to meet men? I am 49 and hardly one to go to clubs bars etc...

I'm single and sleeved, not easy. Single not by choice, lost my fiance last year to cancer. Not really doing the dating thing yet, but maybe soon???? It would be nice to have people to talk to see how we all handle different situations in the single life!

Just dropping in to say hi. Hi! And may we all turn heads!

I just turned 30 a couple weeks ago. I've always been single. I live in Buffalo Ny and I'm pretty sure only douches live here. Lol. But while I did this to save my life, hey, I'll take a dude too. The last few days as I think about things I think wouldn't it be neat to meet someone that has had the same surgery as me. But I would like to find love and have a family. But I have a long way to go before and guys will be interested in me.

Any Buffalo guys here. LOL!

Single and newly sleeved 6/25! I've been single for the better part of the last 2 years (yet another brief try with the ex last year). I told myself I wanted to remain single throughout this process and until I got close to my goal. However, I met a guy a few weeks before my surgery. For the most part I enjoy being single and I'm wondering if I should think about getting serious (he totally wants to) or see what life can bring down the road (in dating and other avenues). He doesn't know about the surgery yet. Ohh, the joys of becoming hot(ter)!

Anyone have tips for cooking for one? I always hated it before but the thought of it post-sleeve when I'm eating 1/2 cup is just not turning me on. I'm still on purees but will start soft solids next week.