When Can We Have Sex Again?

[TexasTina 5]

Will be 3 weeks post op this Friday and see my Dr on Wednesday but too embarassed to ask him, so when are we allowed to have sex again? Not in a hurry to do so (could use the rest), just wondering.

[mona777 12]

IN THE PAPER WORK THEY SENT HOME FROM THE HOSPITAL SAID "YOU MAY RESUME SEXUAL ACTIVITY WHEN YOU FEEL PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY STABLE."

[circa 333]

Never, EVER be embarrassed to ask a doctor ANYTHING. They've heard, seen, thought of anything and more that you could possibly ask them. Wouldn't it be MORE embarrassing for the doctor to think you DON'T have sex with your significant other???

[his2my2our4 120]

This was a tough one for me to ask too, but I agree with Circa, don't hold back on the questions for the doctor. I'm sure it's pretty routine for them :-) I was told that I could resume activities when I felt ready.

[aroundhky 1,174]

Sex? What is that??? : ) From my experience, this is usually exercise for me. So I just went with the my doctor's recommendation on when I could return to "physical activity" and exercise. Same approach, maybe ease into it and build up from there.......

[bikerchick519 202]

Whenever the mood strikes you. I say go for it!!!

[RickM 1,753]

The general answer from most docs is whenever you feel ready for it. Most hospital nurses say that they prefer that you wait until you are home from the hospital. There may be some positions that you will want to avoid, and your body will tell you.

[Mrs.Newme 21]

Ugg...my doc said wait until 30 days post op. Why on earth do they not want us to have sex? Are all of lifes pleasures to be denied for the time being? I understand why no strenuous exercise and such, because of risk of hernia, but I don't see how abdominal pressure can be increased from sex?

[2bfit 62]

I am glad you brought this up because I forgot to ask my doctor! My next appt is on Friday and I am sure as heck gonna ask! What's funny is my hubby and I were just talking about this yesterday!

I think the when you feel physically ready answer is appropriate. Just don't swing from the chandeliers and I think you will be ok!

[PdxMan 4,292]

If you're wondering, then you are ready. Just hold off on the trapeez act.

I believe it was 3 days, here.

[ATeam 38]

I waited a week! But you need to feel ready.

[Knee2010 54]

Dont ever be embarrassed to ask, just make sure you don't embarrasse yourself when asking. My husband went with me to my last pre-op appt with the doctor and as I was going thru my list of questions I would look the doc in the eye/face when I addressed him with a question. Well, when I got to that question it just came out of my mouth " when can we have sex?" you could have heard a pin drop and then it clicked in my brain what/how I asked the question, so then I had to clarify that I meant sex with my husband and not the doctor. My poor husband was beet red, but they were both good sports about it. Talk about feeling stupid, sometimes it's just a train wreck when you open your mouth. lol

[PdxMan 4,292]

OMG! That is hillarious. Thanks for sharing that!

[TexasTina 5]

Thanks for the responses, guys. And for the laughs. I asked today (a little bit more discreetly than Knee2010 ) and he said it would be fine now at 3 weeks this Friday. Surprisingly, he also okayed Decaf coffee for me, although his nutritionist had said not until 2 months later. He said I could have caffeine at 6 months.

[brol1k 50]

I waited 4 days after I came home just to be safe, it felt good laying doing w/o having to do anything and having my significant other take the load hahahaha