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In need of some serious motivation... I've be struggling really bad for a few days now ... more than half away to goal and no motivation to do anything ... stuck in the house and eating my *** off what is wrong with me .... i have no focus, no drive, and no motivation .... something gotta give...i hate the thing that happens in your head were you look OK and feel OK and that good enough and that truly isn't enough ... This surgery was expensive ( I was self pay DR ACEVES NOT CHEAP AT ALL) and I want to make it to goal and get my Tummy Tuck and new boobs so what's wrong???? ... where is the drive i use to have ??? Am I by myself ???...Does anyone else struggle with this??? how do i get back on track???? ... I've got way to much invested in this to just give up now ... words of wisdom and encouragement - greatly appreciated ....

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Try mixing it up. I was doing really good at first exercising on my own, but I noticed that I was starting to slack off. Plus, life was getting busy. I recruited my teenage daughter and started going to Zumba, and I had motivation again. It is a group thing, and it is fun. Plus, now I have my daughters asking me if we are going or not, and they get so excited when I say we are going (they are 16 and 17, so it is a big deal for them to be excited).

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OK, girl, first of all take a deep breath. Now there is probably something triggering these feelings, see if you can be honest and look what this may be and get a handle on it. If there is nothing just maybe it is time to take a break. That doesn't mean to hit the buffets just maintain for a bit and forget about the dieting. We all have been on diets and that is the problem, staying on. It really sounds like you are just tired of the whole thing..I get it. Remember we can only put so much in, so for a while eat what you want as heathly as you can. Not a whole cake in one day, but if you need a few bites of cake or pizza, then do it. Then after a bit get back in the saddle, you have come such a long way and you look great, just a little bit more and you are there. You know what might work is maybe a week of just Protein Shakes and Water and a little Protein food and kind of restart yourself. I wish you well.

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I think it may be the time of the year too. Christmas is suppposed to be happy, but I always get very sad and stressed during this time of the year. I am allowing myself a bite here and there of the goodies at the office, not beating myself up about it right now. After all, if I ate all day I wouldn't be able to eat as much as I used to. I do agree that exercise would help. I need all the endorphins I can get right now. Let's keep our chins up and press on...Kathe

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True, good workout will help and also help you just feel better.

its amazing what a short workout will do for you!!

i can tell when i have skipped a couple, I start to feel terrible...

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I see you are in the Gym Rats group, so for me, getting back to the gym has always motivated me in focusing on what I need to do.

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Even I, the laziest human EVER, agree that a good workout will get you away from the food and will curb your hunger a bit and lift your mood too. Good luck, you can DO THIS!!!

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Heya girlie!! Well, hon ya just need to snap out of it! I totally agree with granny, this time of year *for me* has always been tough. I get distracted. So much food everywhere. The weather sucks so I have to do all my workouts indoors - which I dooo love a nice outside powerwalk now and then. Makes me feel a little bit sad, missing the sunshine.

Setting yourself a routine will probably help. Start out with 30 minute workouts about 4-5x per week until you can build back into more. I know I hate the way I feel when I can't do mine. It also seems like if I'm not working out, I'm not doing ANYTHING right. Next, get yourself onto some kind of free food logging website. Logging my food always whips me back into shape. I know I hate writing down anything I'm not supposed to be eating, so I just skip over all that. Head straight for the healthy low calorie, low carb stuff. I'm always losing big when I do that.

One last thing, I just posted this thread yesterday. Give it a try just one time! I'm telling you this has has helped me so many times in my weight loss periods. I never do the pouch test. LOL smile.png Why when I can eat solids and still get the same effect in the same amount of time?

The Basics Bootcamp - check it out!! Good luck sweetie! If you're an Aceves patient then we have all gotta stick together and make sure we do the best we can to reach our goals. (((hugs)))

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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