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1st Date Since The Gastric Sleeve Surgery- Anyone Else Have A Story To Share?



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So, I wasn't really planning to start dating just yet, but well, it happened. Met him online, and so we met at a local restaurant which was cool. Since we met at 7:30 tonight, we just sat at the bar area (Grill and Bar restaurant) and talked about an hour. Every so often, he kept looking around and such like he was seeing someone he knew or something, had what appeared to be a nervous tick with his legs which annoyed me. Anyways, I knew pretty much right off there was no chemistry. I noticed him looking "at" me a few times which was fine.

He then asks if I want to go somewhere and do something. I said sure, what do you have in mind? He was like, I'm not really sure, and says well we could go back to my apt but you may not be comfortable with that. I was like that's fine. He was ok looking, but I probably outweighed him still by 20# and am pretty muscular anyways due to all the work I do to take care of my horses. So, I knew I could probably quite easily knock him upside if I had to. We go back to his apt and your typical bachelor pad, ok can deal with that I guess. Then, we are sitting on the couch together and he's flipping through channels insanely. Ok, whatever... Then, like 5 minutes later he wants to start kissing. And, then he wants to go to 2nd base and like a pesky fly had to keep saying, "no". He would stop, but then minutes later trying it again.... He was ready to go to 3rd if he had his way.

Ok, so I'm flattered to be attracted to someone with having lost 80plus #, BUT... this guy was just a horny sex craved fool. I finally was able to leave gracefully after an hour THANK GOD!!! He thinks we are going to go out next weekend, and that ain't gonna happen. Will send him a courteous email tomorrow morning and nicely say I appreciated meeting him, but I don't think we are a good match and be done.

Something that was kind of funny though and sorry if I'm getting too detailed for anyone, but I have a fair amt of loose skin in the midsection, so I wear one of those body suit things to kind of compress that area to keep things more conformed under my clothes. He seemed so confused about why he couldn't access the goods or feel them as well through my blouse.... LOL I was wearing a blouse /shell under a casual dress jacket. I finally told him that ladies who wear shells typically wear camasouls (sp?). He probably doesn't even know what that is, but that seemd to help him understand why he was having such trouble. I wasn't gonna tell him what it really was.... LOL

Good grief.... Guess I will write that one off for the humor books. Anyone else got any good after weight loss stories to share?

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i am married. been married my whole adult life so no fun dating stories here. i couldnt imagine getting naked in front of anyone at this point. i hate getting naked in front of my hubby let alone a stranger. so in a way i am invious of the ones that get to try out dating as a thinner person, and in another way i am soooo thankful that i dont have to.

be careful out there. there are some real sickos....i should know i work at a hospital for the criminally insane :)

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
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