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Thanks everyone for your responses. I am pretty sure I will just let it slide this time, but if I find it happens again so obviously, I will sit down and have a talk with her.

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My sister in law and i have always been close. About a year ago, my best friend, my sister in law and me decided to move forward with our plans to get sleeve surgery. Well, my best friend and i got our surgeries approved by our insurance companies and my sister in law did not get her surgery approved. My best friend was sleeved on Dec 11, and i was sleeved on Dec 17. Since then my sister in law has been saying catty things to me in regards to both me and my best friend. I can tell she is very jealous. I think its pathetic. She has always been very insecure in the past but this is other level. She has been nothing but saying hurtful things. I'm over it. I just don't want to deal with that kind of negativity every time i see her. Our relationship used to be so much better than this. I'm praying that things will change for the better but for now I'm keeping my distance.

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Jealousy really is a monster! I recognize myself as having been very catty, jealous woman when I'm unhappy with myself and/or depressed. My sister has always kept a trim figure and I'm ashamed to say that I would say the snarkiest comments to her when I felt really insecure about my appearance when she looked hot. I love her with all my heart, but when I'ld see her wearing a skimpy sexy outfit at the beach or a BBQ and there I was in my mu-mu- the hatred I felt toward myself would come out of me directed at her! Now, I'm losing the weight once and for all and I feel ashamed of the way I treated her (and the things I've thought or said about fit and trim women my whole life when I was dying of jealousy!) As long as women are unhappy with themselves, there will be b****y women-regardless if they're your co-worker, your friend or even your sister. Now I make it a point to encourage, compliment and empower the women in my life. I want to bring positive energy to my relationships, losing the negative with the pounds!

PS-I love the pants falling down story! Priceless!

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