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"When your grandmother tells you, "you're so beautiful now!Am I supposed to take that as a compliment?"

It would make me mad and hurt my feelings! Sometimes even older people should just smile!

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When your grandmother tells you, "you're so beautiful now!" Am I supposed to take that as a compliment?

Is that really so different than, "Wow, you look great!" (where the "now" is implied)? Seems to me that Grandma intended it as a compliment, even if it's somewhat clumsy. If we've lost weight, we all know how we used to look, right? And we know, firsthand, society's biases against heavy people, right? So the natural reaction when people lose weight is to think they look "better" than they used to. Try remembering what you thought when a friend or family member lost a lot of weight. Didn't you think they looked "better"? I think that's probably what Grammy had in mind. Of course, I don't have a history with her, so I could be totally wrong. But keep in mind that if we're successful on our journeys, we're going to hear a lot of compliments. That's part of the fun of this and helps keep us motivated. I've found that it's much easier (and nicer) to just accept compliments graciously, and feel proud of my accomplishments. At first I would reply, "Yeah, but I've still got such a long way to go." After a while, it became, "Yeah, but I'm getting so many wrinkles that I look 10 years older." And finally, I realized that the best answer is, "Thanks! I've been working hard at it." And everyone feels good about the exchange. Just a thought....

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When you finally get pregnant after 15 years disappointments and are looking forward to holding your first child around New Years!

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When you finally get pregnant after 15 years disappointments and are looking forward to holding your first child around New Years!

Ding, ding, ding... Ladies and gentlemen, we have a winner!!! Congratulations, I'm so happy for you!!!!

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When you finally get pregnant after 15 years disappointments and are looking forward to holding your first child around New Years!

Congratulations!!! Such exciting news!!!

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When colleagues feel comfortable enough to confess how they thought your weight was "absolutely disgusting" before you started losing weight lol

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When you aren't afraid to see the size of your shadow... And then you have to think, 'wait was that me' ?!

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When your childhood friends you haven't seen in years don't recognize you. Or when your husband's cousins think he is having an affair with another woman, and it's really you they didn't recognize, lol

267 vs 144

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While joking around with your brother you say "shush, I'm gonna kick u in the head" and he says "go for it" (thinking there's no way in the world u could get ur leg up that high).... so you do.... and easily!!! Hahaha, look on his face was priceless :D

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People don't recognize you....

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When your grandmother tells you, "you're so beautiful now!" Am I supposed to take that as a compliment?

My aunt said the same mess on the 4th. To add insult to injury, she also added, "Now you can find a husband." WTF?!

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When you finally get pregnant after 15 years disappointments and are looking forward to holding your first child around New Years!

Congratulations! Mommyhood is one THE best things in this entire world. Please enjoy every single second, it goes by so very quickly. ????

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You can go to the beach without filling out an environmental impact study......

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... the very same people who've been nagging you to lose weight your whole life, start nagging you to GAIN weight. WTF?!!!

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"being naked" are no longer curse words......

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

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        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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