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I am having a horrible time with pre-op diet.....OMG liquids is just not working for me.......UGH!!!!! My surgery is tomorrow and I just have to make it through the day!

I went to "pre-op" today. I have so much on my plate and being pulled in so many different directions. Hubby, is not helping at all. He called today and wanted to know what the co-pay is. I understand his concern BUT right now I am at work. I have several different things I need to work on here, not to mention for the church (one of our members passed on Friday). Besides contacting people, preparing documents, etc. Co-pay right now is NOT a major issue with me. I can worry about that tomorrow or 2 weeks from now. I have already paid my doctor and I am quite sure the hosptial is bitting at the bit--especially since I have insurance. :-)

Hubby, has issues with money (1) because I make much more than him and (2) he likes to be able to think he has one up on me. :-( It's not like he is worried about the bills because I pay them but its just another issue so I won't do what I think is best or if it is something I want to do--its out of the question because of money.

Bear in mind, we have no children, we have 1 car, we live in a 700 sq ft apartment, and the list goes on.

He refuses to get another job because of his weight (he is 500+), insecurity and fertility issues, etc. I can't force him to do anything but enough is enough.

Not to mention a friend (who is also a personal trainer) called and said that he doesn't agree with me having the surgery, I told him yesterday, and went on "in love" for a few minutes. I understood his side and I explained to him that due to my medical issues, etc.....I felt this was the best thing for me. Its difficult when you only have 1 car and have the burden of finances to incorporate a personal trainer, shakes and foods into an already stretched budget. I am not upset with him voicing his concerns or anything but today was not the day.

As I am writing this, I realize that I have to get a whole of my mind. Especially where food is concerned. Its not that I want to it eat, its like man I am dealing with his drama and all I am having is some Isopure. YUM. Lol

I am grateful for this board it allowed me to post my worthless rant. Okay, I will be on the losers bench tomorrow.

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First, Congrats on making it to surgery day! You have jumped through all the worthless hoops and are there. I would take a few minutes to just soak that up before anything. Second if you have people who do support your decision, give them a ring and tell them how you are feeling. There will always be people standing in the way of your goals you have to have the strength to knock them down. Get some positive energy flowing your way and CHUG that isopure!

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I had a day like that on Day 3 of the liquid diet. I broke down and cried for a while, then felt a little better (but not much) after that. Then I broke down and ate a few celery sticks and carrots (figured this was the best cheat possible) and felt a million times better after that.

You will get through this. You know you are making the right decision for YOU and you just have to have faith in that. Just try to tune out all the rest.

Good luck!

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I think that this is not a pre-op diet problem at all, but something you really need to sit down and talk about with your husband.. This is more of a support issue. If you don't talk about it (and not little quips and arguments here and there) don't think it will go away. I will add you to my prayers. Chin up.

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I am having a horrible time with pre-op diet.....OMG liquids is just not working for me.......UGH!!!!! My surgery is tomorrow and I just have to make it through the day!

I went to "pre-op" today. I have so much on my plate and being pulled in so many different directions. Hubby, is not helping at all. He called today and wanted to know what the co-pay is. I understand his concern BUT right now I am at work. I have several different things I need to work on here, not to mention for the church (one of our members passed on Friday). Besides contacting people, preparing documents, etc. Co-pay right now is NOT a major issue with me. I can worry about that tomorrow or 2 weeks from now. I have already paid my doctor and I am quite sure the hosptial is bitting at the bit--especially since I have insurance. :-)

Hubby, has issues with money (1) because I make much more than him and (2) he likes to be able to think he has one up on me. :-( It's not like he is worried about the bills because I pay them but its just another issue so I won't do what I think is best or if it is something I want to do--its out of the question because of money.

Bear in mind, we have no children, we have 1 car, we live in a 700 sq ft apartment, and the list goes on.

He refuses to get another job because of his weight (he is 500+), insecurity and fertility issues, etc. I can't force him to do anything but enough is enough.

Not to mention a friend (who is also a personal trainer) called and said that he doesn't agree with me having the surgery, I told him yesterday, and went on "in love" for a few minutes. I understood his side and I explained to him that due to my medical issues, etc.....I felt this was the best thing for me. Its difficult when you only have 1 car and have the burden of finances to incorporate a personal trainer, shakes and foods into an already stretched budget. I am not upset with him voicing his concerns or anything but today was not the day.

As I am writing this, I realize that I have to get a whole of my mind. Especially where food is concerned. Its not that I want to it eat, its like man I am dealing with his drama and all I am having is some Isopure. YUM. Lol

I am grateful for this board it allowed me to post my worthless rant. Okay, I will be on the losers bench tomorrow.

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When I read your blog, I laughed so hardbiggrin.gif. I said, this lady has been in my house. You sounded just like me, between (home/church/work) -- Lord have mercy!! Don't get me wrong, my husband is great, but they can be very selfish at times, and especially when we are under pressure. You are in my prayers sister! This is one of the best things we could ever do for ourselves!

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