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So I went for my Nutrutionist evaluation and when she walked in the room I was a bit taken aback. This may sound rude, and judgmental, but she was very obese. Even more obese than I am. As an obese person, I am the last one to judge anybody on their weight, however, how can I take advice about how and what I should eat from someone who obviously doesn't follow those same rules. I only needed the pre-op eval from her and although I did plan on going back after surgery, I don't feel like i could now. I feel like I might find another nutritionist to help me after.

Am I being silly or would you feel the same way?

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So I went for my Nutrutionist evaluation and when she walked in the room I was a bit taken aback. This may sound rude, and judgmental, but she was very obese. Even more obese than I am. As an obese person, I am the last one to judge anybody on their weight, however, how can I take advice about how and what I should eat from someone who obviously doesn't follow those same rules. I only needed the pre-op eval from her and although I did plan on going back after surgery, I don't feel like i could now. I feel like I might find another nutritionist to help me after.

Am I being silly or would you feel the same way?

Nope, I feel the same way. But, do not be surprised if you find that skinny nuts are just giving out textbook "diet plans" for people with altered bodies that are geared toward people with only 30-40lbs to lose.

I have the same issue with Dr. Phil and Oprah blabbering on about obesity. I wanna scream "HI POT, MEET KETTLE"!

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I would feel sorry for her. Number 1, she knows (just like we know) what she should be eating but can't or doesn't for unknown reasons. Number 2, most nutritionists are skinny and so she probably gets treated poorly by her peers due to her weight. Number 3, if she sees how well her bariatric surgery patients do, she may be inspired to research her own options. I would only drop her if her advice did not seem to be accurate.

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The truth is she gave me some good advice and she really seemed to know what she was talking about. I guess I could look at it more as a "do as i say, not as I do" kinda thing, but I don't know. I'll see if I go back to her after the surgery.

As far as feeling sorry for, of course I feel bad for anyone who is so overweight and struggling, like myself, but I am a paying customer basically and not her friend. I don't know, I just don't want to feel sorry for someone for being obese because then i would have to feel sorry for myself and I refuse to do that anymore.

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I understand why your gut reaction may be to pause before taking her advice, but I think we should remember that just because someone is thin doesn't mean they eat well. Tons of thin people eat junk (or don't think twice about what they eat, period) and stay thin because they either have a fast metabolism, overexercise, or do cocaine. Also, just because someone is fat doesn't mean they don't know what they SHOULD be eating. If anything, I think a fat nutritionist would have an easier time understanding where you are coming from in terms of struggling with Portion Control, sweets, etc.

That said, if you actually dislike her PERSONALITY, then by all means, switch to someone else. But don't discredit her just because she's big.

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I agree with BlackBerry... I mean, I was over 300 pounds, and I knew exactly how I "should" be eating. Doing it was another thing entirely. Combo of hypothyroid and poor discipline (and lack of exercise), and there I was. Overweight status can happen for any number of reasons. I understand your reluctance--I'm always a little surprised when I see someone in the medical profession smoking, for example--but if I were getting good advice, I think I'd sort of try to ignore the size of the messenger.

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I have been very lucky, all staff members at Dr Trace Curry's office have been banded or sleved or bypassed. They all know the pain of where we started and the possibilities of where we could go. Even Dr Curry had been banded...they are all people I trust and understand honestly what we are going through! I have tons more faith in a nut who was fat and lived through what we are..then just naturally thin.

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Please try not to judge her. I remained obese for years as I could not afford the surgery. It could be her insurance does not cover weight loss surgery and she cannot afford it on her own. Or she may be in the middle of trying to qualify for surgery. She may have underlying health issues that she is unable to lose weight. I watched what I ate for years when I diagnosed as a diabetic but I was still not able to lose weight. After other health issues and medication caused me to gain weight and I was never able to shed the weight after that.

If you are really concern, ask her about it. But like Blackberry said, if she is giving good advice don't dismiss her because of her size. She may be more sympathetic then the skinny nutritionist that don't understand how hard this is for us. Good Luck.

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