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Well, I had a goal to be at 187 by August 19th. That is my wedding anniversary and that would have put me losing 100 pounds in a year. I am going to be 5 1/2 pounds short. I am really frustrated. I try to tell myself to look at my overall weight loss. It is really amazing.I have lost 94.4 pounds in year, 52 pounds in the 4 months since my surgery. I am thinking that I'm not going to make myself short-term goals anymore. This was the first time I actually set a specific number in a specific period of time, and I think I get too hung up on the numbers when I do that???

I know that I have done a few little things to sabatoge myself lately too. I had completely quit drinking coffee before my surgery because I only like it with real sugar and CoffeeMate. In the last month I have started drinking it again (with the real sugar and CoffeeMate). I just got my first order of Click in and started drinking that this morning (LOVE IT), so I am hoping that will help me break the coffee habit again. I notice that now, at four months out, I can eat more and I am hungry more. I am struggling to drink enough Water too. I HAVE to make myself get my water in!!!

I guess I just needed to vent a little. I will now STOP whining, pull my big girl panties up (though they are much smaller than they use to be, just a large with no x's in front :D ) and do what I know I need to do!!! Thanks for listening!!

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That's some amazing weight loss! Congrats on that!

Don't give up on short term goals. They can be helpful and motivating. However, do a short term goal of loosing a specific amount of weight - not by a specific date, but a specific amount of weight. For example, set a goal of loosing 10 pounds - and then give yourself a little "non-food" reward for reaching that 10 pound weight loss goal when you do. Then set another goal like that. Keep repeating it until you get to your ultimate goal.

If your weight loss is stalling, then go back to the basics. You already have an idea about that. You can do it!

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94 lbs in a year is AMAZING!!!! Don't fool yourself; that is incredible! What diet could have ever given you those results before the sleeve? Girl, go strut your stuff and have an awesome anniversary with your hubby! You deserve it after all of your hard work biggrin.gif

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Wow you have come so far! So you didn't make this goal, you are still doing AWESOME! And the good news is that YOU WILL make that goal eventually :)

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If I was you, I wouldn't worry about not making this mini-goal by 5.5 lbs. My goodness, sweetie, you've lost 94 lbs. in one year!!! Tell me how you feel? I bet you feel great!! I can't wait until I can say I've lost 94 lbs.!!!

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I agree with the others...You have done amazingly well... try not to get hung up on the numbers. If it is any help, I am the same, I set mini goals and never reached any of them, so now... well, I don't bother 'cos they were self defeating!

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Coops, that is exactly how I feel. I KNOW in my head that I am doing great. No more short term goals for me!!! I am just going to rejoice in every ounce that I lose, no matter how fast or slow it comes off :)

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Well said that lady...

I too will relish in each and every pound that I lose... I have had to work at losing since I was 6mths out! And I will keep trying to get to goal, regardless of how long it takes! And boy, when I do see those magic numbers you will hear me across the pond...lol =]

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