You weigh less than me and You better not weigh less than me!!

[lsereno 2,525]

OK, people. I know we are all used to having me be the fattest one in the group, but times have changed and you HAVE TO GET OVER IT!!!

For those of you who now outweigh me, Yes, I do weigh less than you now. And I'm taller than you so my BMI is lower, but we won't talk about that. Please pull your face back into a look that approaches normalcy. I promise I will never bring up my weight or yours. I did this for my health, not so I could lord it over those who are still struggling with weight. I realize you have spent years patting yourself on the back because you are not as big as me, but those days are past. Pull up your big person panties and move on.

And for many others, yes, my goal weight is less than what you currently weigh. No, I will not be anorexic at a healthy BMI of 22. Please don't compulsively ask how much I now weigh each time you see me and then calculate how much I have to lose before I weigh less than you. Please see the notes above for how I prefer you to handle this brave new world.

Best wishes,

Lynda

[MAKF 5]

Love It!

[longer-life 139]

:clap2::rofl:

[KellyL 173]

Amen!!! Haha I can so relate to this. It's their problem not ours.

[coops 1,790]

OK, people. I know we are all used to having me be the fattest one in the group, but times have changed and you HAVE TO GET OVER IT!!!

For those of you who now outweigh me, Yes, I do weigh less than you now. And I'm taller than you so my BMI is lower, but we won't talk about that. Please pull your face back into a look that approaches normalcy. I promise I will never bring up my weight or yours. I did this for my health, not so I could lord it over those who are still struggling with weight. I realize you have spent years patting yourself on the back because you are not as big as me, but those days are past. Pull up your big person panties and move on.

And for many others, yes, my goal weight is less than what you currently weigh. No, I will not be anorexic at a healthy BMI of 22. Please don't compulsively ask how much I now weigh each time you see me and then calculate how much I have to lose before I weigh less than you. Please see the notes above for how I prefer you to handle this brave new world.

Best wishes,

Lynda

Hey Lynda,

I am completly and utterly LOVING this... I couldn't have put it better myself... infact, you could actually be talking about a couple of my friends... they are soooo obsessed with how heavy I am and what size clothes I wear... for God's sake... JOG ON!!

[marymoon 18]

Bravo! I need to copy and paste this to my Facebook page because I DEFINITELY have some friends who fit the description...

[Amanda131 214]

OMG! I thought I was the only one dealing with this. I love it! Isn't it interesting (better word than "sad" which is what I orginally wrote) to witness the shifts in behavior of our female friends and co-workers as they stop viewing us as "fatties" and suddenly see us as possible competition. Cracks me up on a daily basis.

Thanks for putting it so succintly!

Amanda

[AnewMe@28 38]

Love Love Love this post. It so fits what I have been feeling from certain people lately. I have had some ladies come right out and tell me, "Oh I don't like you anymore." Don't be upset with me because I decided to change my life. I would do it again and again if I had to.

I was just telling my best friend, that I finally feel as if the playing field is level. I finally feel as if I did not miss the meeting on how not to be fat. I feel as if I have the key to success. I feel like a normal person. I am not constantly obsessed with being fat. I don't constantly think about how big I look and how to lose weight. I can feel my eyes starting to fill up so I better stop here.

[SKCUNNINGHAM 298]

This is the best post I have read in days! I may steal liberally from your words when I need to respond to friends or family members.

Best of luck to you.

[SouthernSleever 236]

This is great. Since I've lost weight my friends who are now heavier no longer want to go out anymore. I seriously got a call to go out every weekend last year at 280lbs now this year at 175 No one ever wants to go out.

[FishingNurse 1,211]

Yikes. really??I hate to think I might lose some friends in this process.

[Adri 40]

My best friend has been tracking my weight weekly since my surgery. I was always the fatter one, by at least 20 lbs. I am now within 3 lbs of her current weight. I'm dreading what will happen when I pass her up...or down I should say. Wish me luck, I hope this won't change our relationship. But I have this awful feeling...

[AutumnLily 77]

Yikes. really??I hate to think I might lose some friends in this process.

If they stop seeing you because you have lost weight. Then they were never real friends and its good to find that out now instead of later. Better to find true friends in life than waste time with people who were never really your friend.

[feedyoureye 3,087]

here here

[SouthernSleever 236]

I don't know if it's that. My bestfriend has been a true friend. She was the only one who never said anything negative about my weight. She always said I was beautiful. We have been friends for going on 14 years. When we first met she was a size 4 and I was about 18. Now she is a size 20-22 and I am a 10/12. I know she is jealous of me losing weight, she hates being fat. I believe that she not only feels bad when we go out and she gets no attention (she used to get hit on constantly and craves male attention) but women have a social order that men don't. There is almost always the one female that the others protect, the queen bee to say, and now there has been a big shift in dynamics. I refuse to think that all my friends pre-op weren't really friends. It's kinda like what happened when I had kids. Friends who didn't have kids fell away and those who did became closer. I try not to take it personal and understand that me being thinner than her for the first time is very hard for her to deal with.