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My very good friend had vsg about three weeks ago and she is an emotional wreck. She cries constantly and just looks so sad and depressed. She is starting to worry me ALLOT! how can I help her? She is now at the point where she won't talk to me about anything. She just crys and has a blank look on her face. She lives a couple doors down from me so im able to at least check on her. Will this pass? I've asked her to talk to someone and she actually has a therapist she talks to quite often but it is not helping!

Does anyone know how long this emotional stage lasts?

How can i help her?

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My very good friend had vsg about three weeks ago and she is an emotional wreck. She cries constantly and just looks so sad and depressed. She is starting to worry me ALLOT! how can I help her? She is now at the point where she won't talk to me about anything. She just crys and has a blank look on her face. She lives a couple doors down from me so im able to at least check on her. Will this pass? I've asked her to talk to someone and she actually has a therapist she talks to quite often but it is not helping!

Does anyone know how long this emotional stage lasts?

How can i help her?

The rapid weightloss will release Estrogen hormone that is stored in fat cells. Which could be causing her to be an emotional wreck. She may also be having issues with the changes that have happened and will take awhile to adjust. It is good that she has a therapist to see to talk through her emotional problems. She may also be depressed. Was she depressed before the surgery?

If it is her hormones it takes a couple of weeks for the body to adjust to the changes. Is she a member of any forums where she can ask others whom have had the surgery. Maybe suggest this site or obesity help boards to come and get answers that she probably has no answer for. Depression should be dealt with by a professional and maybe she needs to make an appointment with her PCP to see what her options are.

You are a good friend for worrying. The best you can do is be supportive and hope that she breaks free of the emotional rollercoaster she is on.

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So sorry to hear about her depression, but this does happen to many of us if we do not have support. Is she a member of this forum? Is her surgeon local or out of country? If local, she needs to call, there are therapists that specialize is WLS depression and her surgeon should have a referal. She needs help and you are right to ask for help. There is no magic pill to fix her. Part of this is physical as mentioned by Lily and the other part is true sadness due to the change.

Hopefully your friend knows she needs help of someone who understands the challenges of WLS. You might find more answers under a thread on this site for depression. http://www.verticals...sion-after-wls/

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