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I had surgery on Sunday and I have severe tailbone pain (from a recent pregnancy) that makes it very painful to lay on my back/butt for long periods of time but I'm finding that my tummy hurts too much if I lay on my side and I won't even attempt to lay directly on it. Please let me know how long it took for you to resume either of these sleeping positions.

Also, I didn't really get an idea as to when I could resume having sex although my take home paperwork said "whenever I feel able". Well, my head says I could go today, but I don't want to damage anything. How long did everyone wait before getting back into the "swing" of things? ;)

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I'm a stomach sleeper, and can't wait to be able to do it again!! My butt hurts too from laying on my back so much, and internally I aggravate my incision when laying on my side. I'm 3 weeks out and not as in much pain, but I don't want to chance re-aggravating by trying too early. As far as sex, I was told 6 weeks, and as I felt able. biggrin.gif

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holy crap...I was hoping someone would tell me 1 week to be able to lay on my tummy or side again...oy vay! This is going to suck!!

I guess the 6 weeks for sex isn't so bad..my husband will just have to pretend like I gave birth again...lol!!!

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I would love to join this club lol.. I am a tummy and side sleeper:) yesterday I try my left side and it worked fine then I was like what the hell am I doing and back to my back!! which sucks!! let me know when u start ur normal sleeping position lol :)

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LOL I couldn't get past the subject - but - I felt right as rain after 3 or 4 days. I found that I could sleep comfortably at an angle - with pillows supporting me on both sides but it doesn't sound like you could. When I was pregnant - I found sleeping on the couch the most comfortable - I could sleep on my side, getting support from the back - and a pillow under my stomach to "prop" me up.

As for the other - if you feel "froggy" - Jump!

Good Luck!

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I had sex by two weeks out... we were careful to be sure... but even that seemed like forever.

I'm 5 weeks out today and I'm able to sleep any which way....

Using a big pillow against my tummy I was able to side sleep about two weeks out.

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I am three weeks out and already sleeping on my side comfortable. I can't sleep on my back drives me nuts. Start off slow and try it for a few hours.

Good Luck!

G

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I had my surgery almost a week ago and I've figured out a way to kinda sleep on my side. I also have lower back pain and I just couldn't get sleep on my back. I use the breast-feeding pillow "The Boppy". I put one of the ends underneath my stomach (I find the side of my tummy where my stomach is is much more comfortable than the side where I had the drainage tube - that is still a bit too sore). I put the other end between my legs. The pillow seems to relieve a lot of pressure enough for me to tip towards that side. Then I sleep on the couch so my back is towards the pillows. I'm also inclined a tiny bit with help from the couch. Once you get the right positioning, it's very comfortable and I've slept much better. I hope that helps you!!

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I'm a stomach sleeper, and can't wait to be able to do it again!! My butt hurts too from laying on my back so much, and internally I aggravate my incision when laying on my side. I'm 3 weeks out and not as in much pain, but I don't want to chance re-aggravating by trying too early. As far as sex, I was told 6 weeks, and as I felt able. biggrin.gif

ditto

my paperwork said sex in two weeks

i have been turning gradually onto my side...each nite is easier but eventually it starts to hurt a lil but it gives my booty some relief

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I guess I'm a freak of nature. I woke up sleeping on my stomach on day 4 post surgery. No pain. The Hubby and I got down to business on day 7.

I realize I'm not "normal"....but then I don't know what normal is!!! Lol!

I wish you the very best and a speedy recovery!!

Christal

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I am a side sleeper too & slept in the guest bedroom the first 4 nights at home so that I could take up the whole bed & prop pillows around me for support without shoving hubby out of the bed! It was uncomfortable the first 3 nights as I couldn't side sleep & could never get comfortable on my back. By night 4 though I could sleep on my side if I tightly spooned a pillow against my abdomen...still doing that actually but each day gets a bit easier. My doc said no sex until 2 weeks.

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I guess I'm a freak of nature. I woke up sleeping on my stomach on day 4 post surgery. No pain. The Hubby and I got down to business on day 7.

I realize I'm not "normal"....but then I don't know what normal is!!! Lol!

I wish you the very best and a speedy recovery!!

Christal

Haha Christal! Nice. Well me and my hubby rocked it on my day 8, his day 6. I guess men are ready sooner! LOL As for sleeping positions, I slept on my left side the night of my surgery. It was the only thing that helped the gas pains. But I'm a weirdo too! One of my favorite sleeping positions is to lay on my back with my legs sitting "indian style". LOL

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I slept on my side the first night after surgery and I had sex at 2 weeks. My boyfriend was not having it at first (I was the frisky one lol), he was scared that it was too early but hey I was fine, my paper also said whenever you feel able.

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I tried sleepin in bed on my side day 3 and it was so QUIET not being in the hospital, that I think my brain & body went with it. I propped a pillow under my belly, and had my fiance shove one behind me so I didn't lean back...needed support. It worked! Day 7 post-op was when I decided we were 'going for it' I would say make sure you're smart with position, obviously he can't be on your belly...giddy up! wink wink.

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