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I am really sad after having my surgery... all I keep thinking is what did I do to myself??? Now b4 I had the surgery I had did months of research and talking to people that had wls and I really felt like wls was something that I wanted until now : ( I feel like I should have asked more questions about the surgery b4 I agreed to such a life changing decision . Someone else on here made a very good point she questioned why does so much of the stomach has to be taken out ?? Why not just 50% of it?? I just really wish I could turn back the hands of time and try another option because this and all the side effects suck I want to be normal again

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When did you have your surgery?? I hear ALOT of people have "buyer's remorse" for a while, but then LOVE, LOVE, LOVE their sleeve later.

It is normal to feel that way if you are freshly sleeved, but just curious as to when you had your surgery.

Kelly

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Try not to give up on yourself and/or the surgery so early.

What side effects are you having? If it's gas, that would happen with ANY laparascopic surgery. If it's pain, same thing. If it's the food restrictions, you would have those (maybe not the same) with any weight loss surgery. i had the lap band before I revised to the sleeve and my post-op diet is almost exactly the same as the sleeve. I'm sure the more radical Gastric bypass and Duodenal Switch would be the same if not more severe.

You must have read on here how people feel better soon after having the surgery, but it's probably going to take a good 4-6 weeks for you to establish a good routine with your new tool and diet. Don't beat yourself up so quickly. You obviously did this for a reason, which was most likely that diets just don't work long term. Good luck to you!

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Are you taking an acid reducer like prilosec or nexium? I just had my surgery on Sunday, but was given 2 months worth of acid reducer medicine to take after my sleeve. But I can tell you that I also had acid with my lap band which usually occurred at night. Definitely make sure you're using one of these products (can be generic) as it will help.

Are you eating certain foods when you get nauseous? I'm assuming you're on full solids now and really have no restrictions based on your date. I have heard people say that spicy or even fried foods will set them off. Everyone is different, but you have to be aware of what you're putting in your body and how your body reacts to know what it will tolerate and what it won't. It may just be that you still need a longer time to heal before you implement those foods that are now making you nauseous. If you're nauseous just drinking "safe" liquids like Water and diluted/reduced sugar juice, then I would definitely consult with your doctor.

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((((HUGS)))))

It will get better. Your body has been through a lot and I think the anesthesia and especially the pain meds do a number on your mood. I was an absolute mess!! Pretty soon you will start feeling better and have more confidence in your decision. I didn't start "loving" my band until about 2 months post op.

Taking a PPI is very important to feeling better. If an over the counter brand isn't working, call your doctor for a prescription. I had some reflux in the beginning but it went away and I don't need it anymore.

Most of all, keep focused and try to look forward to things that your weight prevented you from doing. Stay on this forum and talk to all of us. That's why we are here for eachother.

good luck!!:D

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