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optasia    3

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Was anyone just super, incredibly nervous from the very beginning? I'm sure everyone experienced nerves at one time or another, but I feel so nervous tonight that I feel weak. Oh! And I just attended the Kaiser orientation, so it's not like I"m even committed! Can't figure out why I feel scared sick. I've had gall bladder surgery and it wasn't so awful, so I'm not sure what's stopping me. If you felt this way, please share. If you went ahead with the surgery, what was the turning point that changed your mind to go through with it? One more thing...do they give you something to relax on the day of the surgery? : )

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Becca    108

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I was very scared at first when considering having the sleeve (I was a revision from the lapband). I had no idea what it was until my revision doctor told me about it. I thought ~ What? They are going to cut out 85% of my stomach? That's crazy! Then I started researching more. I found this supportive forum and saw how happy sleevers are. They are successful as well. I knew that I didn't want to live my life morbidly obese anymore. I was tired of not having clothes that fit and feeling horrible about myself. I had tried every diet, excersized like crazy, and had the lapband. They all failed. I just knew the sleeve was the answer for me. It has turned out to be one of the best decisions of my life. You do have to do your part, but the sleeve makes it possible. I could have never had this success or happiness with it. I LOVE my sleeve!

I am not sure if they can give you something the day of surgery. You will have to ask your doctor. They give you some good stuff right before you go into surgery!

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purple tulip    2

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I don't know anyone who wasn't scared. I was able to calm myself by realizing my 3 main fears. 1) I would die in surgery, 2) I would have some sort of serious complication causing extreme burden on me and my family, and 3) I would fail at another weight loss attempt. After so much research I realized that my #1 and #2 fears were not really rational. The likely hood of those things happening were SOOOOOO slim to none, while the likely hood of developing a life threatening disease from the obesity was almost 100% likely. After voiding out those concerns I was able to get through surgery without panic. And yes, they will let you have meds for anxiety prior to surgery and the day of surgery. My 3rd fear I am still working on every day and it is one that will probably stick with me for awhile through this process, but that's ok because it is part of the journey. Good luck to you.

Was anyone just super, incredibly nervous from the very beginning? I'm sure everyone experienced nerves at one time or another, but I feel so nervous tonight that I feel weak. Oh! And I just attended the Kaiser orientation, so it's not like I"m even committed! Can't figure out why I feel scared sick. I've had gall bladder surgery and it wasn't so awful, so I'm not sure what's stopping me. If you felt this way, please share. If you went ahead with the surgery, what was the turning point that changed your mind to go through with it? One more thing...do they give you something to relax on the day of the surgery? : )

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Can'tweight    41

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Was anyone just super, incredibly nervous from the very beginning? I'm sure everyone experienced nerves at one time or another, but I feel so nervous tonight that I feel weak. Oh! And I just attended the Kaiser orientation, so it's not like I"m even committed! Can't figure out why I feel scared sick. I've had gall bladder surgery and it wasn't so awful, so I'm not sure what's stopping me. If you felt this way, please share. If you went ahead with the surgery, what was the turning point that changed your mind to go through with it? One more thing...do they give you something to relax on the day of the surgery? : )

Yes, I was very nervous up until the main event! Which I struggled trying to figure out why. After all, I have had 2 c-sections, hysterectomy, apendectomy (sp?), Spinal surgery, and 2 other laparoscopy's. But with being 5'5, 251 lbs, with sleep apnea, fatty liver, newly diagnosed with diabetes and high cholesterol, I had to do something. Not to mention all your reasons as well.

Although, I'm only 14 days out...I am glad I did it. I think with all the past diet failures, it's hard to have faith that this will help. But it can! Just look on these forums and see all the success stories. Granted, it is only a tool. You do have to make a life-long commitment to change your eating and exercise habits. That's by far harder than the surgery itself.

The 1st week is no walk in the park, but over all, the recovery could be a whole lot worse. Just do your research and you will be able to make the decision if it's the right thing for you. Good luck in your decision. :)

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myrori    55

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I think the reason this surgery makes us so nervous, aside from the obvious reasons, is that we are looking at making a life changing decision. We have come to a cross roads of letting go of food and fat and unveiling the inner person we all have hiding in us. It is a contradiction to the subconscious mind that has protected us so long and justified our eating weight gain. It is that very same subconscious that we hear all of those bargaining thoughts from as we travel down the road of this journey,,,things like Maybe I don't need surgery, I will just diet one more time, or I am not really that fat, ect..................

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kpbrighton    1

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I think the reason this surgery makes us so nervous, aside from the obvious reasons, is that we are looking at making a life changing decision. We have come to a cross roads of letting go of food and fat and unveiling the inner person we all have hiding in us. It is a contradiction to the subconscious mind that has protected us so long and justified our eating weight gain. It is that very same subconscious that we hear all of those bargaining thoughts from as we travel down the road of this journey,,,things like Maybe I don't need surgery, I will just diet one more time, or I am not really that fat, ect..................

AMEN!!!!! I have been feeling a little anxious about my surgery...which isn't until June...but THIS RIGHT HERE (well above ;) is why!!!! I had a really crappy day yesterday and went through a drive-thru yesterday - like I do when I'm upset....and driving I realized "I won't be able to do this soon!" and then after I had that moment of sadness - I realized this is EXACTLY why I want the sleeve! I've got to change! Thanks for this post.....

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myrori    55

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AMEN!!!!! I have been feeling a little anxious about my surgery...which isn't until June...but THIS RIGHT HERE (well above ;) is why!!!! I had a really crappy day yesterday and went through a drive-thru yesterday - like I do when I'm upset....and driving I realized "I won't be able to do this soon!" and then after I had that moment of sadness - I realized this is EXACTLY why I want the sleeve! I've got to change! Thanks for this post.....

The really great thing about the sleeve is it has freed me from the control of food. I have had a really bad week and not once did I turn to food for comfort. It was the farthest thing from my mind, heck I even skipped dinner a couple nights, (ya that kind of bad).

Don't get too sad about food, you will eat pretty much anything you want again, just not in the quantity you do now.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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    • Alisa_S

      Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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      Three months and four days ago... I was in Costa Rica having a life changing surgery! Yesterday we had a followup visit with Dr. Esmeral via video chat and this morning my middle number changed.  I'm down 47lbs and two pants sizes. I can wear a Large tshirt for the first time in like... 14 years! Woot!! Everything is going great. I have zero regrets. I went down to the riverwalk with a friend and walked 2 miles on Monday without even getting fatigued. And no more snoring or chugging pickle juice for crazy leg cramps! I need to go to the gym more... I'm making new shirts next week so that will motivate me. LOL But I'm also just not as TIRED all the time! I have a LONG way to go...but seeing the progress on the scales and in the mirror is a huge motivator!! Thank you all for cheering me on and supporting me!!
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