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I totally understand. I am 2 months post op and for the first month it was horrible for me. My surgery went awesome and no complications but I missed food so bad. I thought at times I made a huge mistake. I cried a lot!!! I can say things are much better now that I am eating normal food again. 43 pounds down. I now am so happy with my choice. You will get to enjoy food again!! Just much smaller amounts;)

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I think we can all agree with you! I am now 4 weeks post-op and still struggle with my food addiction, but its in my head, not on a plate in front of me. I have had a cookie and felt awful after eating it! My husband had a gastric bypass 5 years ago and now is back to his old eating habits. I don't want to follow in his footsteps so I try really hard to stay focused!

I know that I feel better knowing that these thoughts are all normal for all of us. Keep up the strength and know that you will find new ways to socialize. I have friends who are now thinking of doing surgery and are begging me to help keep them focused! We are going to start a walking party when the weather gets warmer. It will be so much better than any dinner party!

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I'm 4 weeks post op today. While I can't add to what all has been said, and I didn't really personally go thru the food mourning issue I do mourn Wine.

Due to some scheduling complications I had my 2 week post op appt this past Friday (3 weeks 4 days) and I mentioned to my Dr. my Birthday is tomorrow and that I would really like to have a glass of wine.

here is what my Dr. said. As long as you work off the calories before hand (I swim laps) he didn't feel it would be an issue "ON OCCASION".

well that was Friday and what I didn't know was my family had decided to Celebrate my b-day on Sat. since Tuesday is a work and school day. Well, long story short. I had my little glass of wine. I swam like a mad man and I lost 2 lbs over the course of the weekend.

What I'm trying to say is.... all things in moderation. learn what your body can tolerate and how hard you need to work to correct a boo boo...

Now the upside of my story... well more upside. Before I went for my swim, I started trying on bathing suits to see what one would look the best. I had bought several on sale at the end of the season and they were too small for me when we went on our cruise at christmas, anyway.... they were all too big (all of them). I had to find a smaller suit from several years back. Now that was worth all the ravioli in the world. :lol:

I think the biggest problem i have eating out... my food gets cold before i can finish it. So i sit and watch everyone else in amazement of how much junk they can put back and HOW FAST..... hard to believe that use to be me :P

Best of wishes... you will find you own rythym. Every ones is differnt. Your wine may be cake or chocolate. Portions control, substitution, and exercise will be key factors in how well we do.

Well said! It is hopeful for me to think about future eating in this way and that few foods will be off limits...we just have to savor the bites we have. Congratulations on the thrill of trying on a bathing suit that is too big! I can't even imagine that yet. :)

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I had surgery on 3-16-11 and continue the mourning phase. I lost my father 2 years ago and felt the raw emotion again after surgery, but for food this time around. I am happy to report that yesterday I made chili and pureed 1/2 cup of it and ate it!! I feel more content and for the 1st time since surgery, I'm "happy" that I did this. Today I went to Taco Bell and had refried Beans for lunch!! Not the most healthy choice, but I needed a little splurge after 2 weeks of all the liquids I've gagged down. This gives me some hope for the future!!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

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        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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