When all my friends have diire pronouncements i find myself alone

[sabrahardy 0]

I am here because i refuse to confide in friends who offer Gloom & doom scenarios to me. My Lap Band has failed. i have lots of GERD to contend with in the aftermath, i've regained all the weight. i had knee surgery in July now i am on High Blood Pressure meds. I have one friend who is overweight, she will never have weight loss surgery because her life is complicated by major back surgery - with complications from arthritis. So she always predicts the most dire results to having "Revision surgery" another friend knows someone who had regular gastric bypass surgery & died later from complications. MY doctor Marnia Kurian at NYU doesn't like Verticle Sleeve Gastrectomy so on January 24, 2011 i have to walk in her office and fight with her to have the surgery. The reasons: I don't want to worry about malnutrition for the rest of my life. and i have a condition that is mysterious to me: Non-Specific Proctitis. I had bleeding in the anus. Not from infection. She refused to do any surgery gastric or otherwise until that is resolved. According to my Gastroenterologist I am going to be taking suppositories for a long long time. Now i am not bleeding, but I am told i have irritation without suppositories. I don't want regular Gastric Bypass surgery - i DO NOT WANT TO HAVE MY INTESTINES RE-ROUTED. any takers?

[Stacy160 201]

Too bad about your friend... WLS would undoubtedly help her back issues immensely.

As far as your doctor goes...well, why have surgery performed by a doctor who doesn't want to listen to you, and who doesn't "like" the surgery that so many other bariatric surgeons seem to think is becoming the new Gold Standard WLS over the bypass? And WHY doesn't she like it... because she's not proficient with it, or because it's not as profitable as performing bypass? I'd be looking for another surgeon, honestly.

[Tiffykins 673]

If I were you, in your situation, I'd find another doctor to support you, and your surgical desires. You should not have to fight for the surgery you want, you should not have a surgeon that doesn't want the very best for you, and your future health.

I would question her reasoning of why she doesn't "like" VSG. Is it because it's not the money maker that RNY is? Is it because she's not experienced with VSG, and is not confident in her skill level? Is it simply that she doesn't want to perform the surgery?

I would NOT allow anyone to cut on me that didn't support me. Plus, once you're out, and asleep, you are vulnerable to them. I've read that some surgeons make their patients sign a consent to get RNY if VSG can't be performed. If I went to sleep, and woke up with RNY pouch, and intestines rerouted, I'd throat punch someone. Do not allow a medical professional bully you. They are doctors, not gods ! ! !

[LilMissDiva Irene 3,282]

Amen and TOTALLY agree with Tiffy. Find another surgeon and ASAP!!

Regarding your friend, well - to each his or her own, ya know? You don't have to listen to negativity either - so IMO just lay it on the line. If she is a true friend, she will support you no matter what...

[SouthernSleever 236]

Find another surgeon! VSG sounds liek it would be great for you.

[rosepetals 1]

Find another doctor ASAP! You want a doctor who is supportive of your wants and needs not someone you will have to fight.

[sadie_mo 2]

I think you have your answer ! You don't go to a restraunt and ask the waiter what you are having do ya? Nope you tell them ! If there is no sound medical reason for you to not have the surgery kick that punk a$$ Dr. to the curb.

I let what others thought hold me back from doing this 2 years ago and boy am I kicking myself now . You don't have a back up life waiting this is it so live it the way you want. I hope it all works out in the end

[jollyj1977 1]

I agree with finding a new doc who will fulfill YOUR wishes. My surgeon and his nurse both said that they wish more people would get the sleeve done because it's so good. I agree!

[NorCal Mom 0]

I am here because i refuse to confide in friends who offer Gloom & doom scenarios to me. My Lap Band has failed. i have lots of GERD to contend with in the aftermath, i've regained all the weight. i had knee surgery in July now i am on High Blood Pressure meds. I have one friend who is overweight, she will never have weight loss surgery because her life is complicated by major back surgery - with complications from arthritis. So she always predicts the most dire results to having "Revision surgery" another friend knows someone who had regular gastric bypass surgery & died later from complications. MY doctor Marnia Kurian at NYU doesn't like Verticle Sleeve Gastrectomy so on January 24, 2011 i have to walk in her office and fight with her to have the surgery. The reasons: I don't want to worry about malnutrition for the rest of my life. and i have a condition that is mysterious to me: Non-Specific Proctitis. I had bleeding in the anus. Not from infection. She refused to do any surgery gastric or otherwise until that is resolved. According to my Gastroenterologist I am going to be taking suppositories for a long long time. Now i am not bleeding, but I am told i have irritation without suppositories. I don't want regular Gastric Bypass surgery - i DO NOT WANT TO HAVE MY INTESTINES RE-ROUTED. any takers?

For too long I let fear keep me from looking into bariactric surgery. Yes there are risks, and it sounds like with your other health issues, it may take a little longer to get to where you want. I am with you on the by pass issue, that is why I opted for the sleeve. I would suggest listening to your medical doctor and get the Non-Specific issue controlled. Do some research on what you can do, eat etc. and set the sleeve as a goal. You don't want one to conflict or complicate the other. As more information and data is available on the sleeve I imagine it will become very popular and acceptable. Hope my 2 cents helped. If you want it bad enough you will find positive people to support and encourage you.