negative people

[lckygrl 0]

i'm having surgery november 26, and i'm so excited, but it just seems there are certain people that only want to be negative and it's starting to make me second guess my decision can somebody please help me and give me some advice!!!!!!

[LilMissDiva Irene 3,280]

Well lucky, personally there isn't much you can do to change anyone else - luckily though you CAN change yourself.

You have to take a good look inside and ask yourself why you feel that someone else's opinion is enough to make you change your mind. You need to make sure you are absolutely ready for this, whether or not anyone else is. This is a very major decision, not one to take lightly enough that someone else can change you.

If you are absolutely sure then that this is the right choice for you, then just ignore what anyone has to say. If it gets too much then just keep your plans to yourself. Everyone you know doesn't have to know everything. Keep it to those who have a vested interest in your health, anyone else - you are just opening doors that really need be left shut, IMO.

All the best!

[kgremmy 36]

i'm having surgery november 26, and i'm so excited, but it just seems there are certain people that only want to be negative and it's starting to make me second guess my decision can somebody please help me and give me some advice!!!!!!

People are going to be negative regardless of what you do. My husband know about the surgery and some of my girlfriends. I have one friend that I have not decided on telling her or not telling her. She is supportative but only to a certain level. As far as my family, that is probably going to be an after the fact only because I have enough to worry with the surgery and I do not need them to tell me that I am wasting my time or money (I am a self pay as my insurance will not cover it).

[lckygrl 0]

Well lucky, personally there isn't much you can do to change anyone else - luckily though you CAN change yourself.

You have to take a good look inside and ask yourself why you feel that someone else's opinion is enough to make you change your mind. You need to make sure you are absolutely ready for this, whether or not anyone else is. This is a very major decision, not one to take lightly enough that someone else can change you.

If you are absolutely sure then that this is the right choice for you, then just ignore what anyone has to say. If it gets too much then just keep your plans to yourself. Everyone you know doesn't have to know everything. Keep it to those who have a vested interest in your health, anyone else - you are just opening doors that really need be left shut, IMO.

All the best!

[lckygrl 0]

Well lucky, personally there isn't much you can do to change anyone else - luckily though you CAN change yourself.

You have to take a good look inside and ask yourself why you feel that someone else's opinion is enough to make you change your mind. You need to make sure you are absolutely ready for this, whether or not anyone else is. This is a very major decision, not one to take lightly enough that someone else can change you.

If you are absolutely sure then that this is the right choice for you, then just ignore what anyone has to say. If it gets too much then just keep your plans to yourself. Everyone you know doesn't have to know everything. Keep it to those who have a vested interest in your health, anyone else - you are just opening doors that really need be left shut, IMO.

All the best!

[lckygrl 0]

did you have the sleeve done? your advice is great and i appreciate the positive attitude you have, i'm totally ready for the surgery, it just gets so frustrating when people are so negative(especially when it's your parent's!!!) i try so hard to ignore them but they just won't lay off and keep telling me how it's not reversable and blahblahblah, LOL, my husband, friends and other family members are so excited for me i think that's what the hardest part is because my parents are not, my mom had the bypass 11 years ago so she believes that that is the one i should do, but i don't so that mskes me wrong for having my own idea!!!

[LilMissDiva Irene 3,280]

did you have the sleeve done? your advice is great and i appreciate the positive attitude you have, i'm totally ready for the surgery, it just gets so frustrating when people are so negative(especially when it's your parent's!!!) i try so hard to ignore them but they just won't lay off and keep telling me how it's not reversable and blahblahblah, LOL, my husband, friends and other family members are so excited for me i think that's what the hardest part is because my parents are not, my mom had the bypass 11 years ago so she believes that that is the one i should do, but i don't so that mskes me wrong for having my own idea!!!

Yes, I did have my sleeve done on Sept. 15th and was revised from the Lap Band - so this is my second go round.

Lucky, if I were in your shoes, I'd just have to sit down with my parents and tell them that the reason you let them know is because you are their daughter and felt they should know - however, it's your body and you are going to do what YOU feel is best for YOU.

If they can't be supportive then to please keep their opinions to themselves.

I know it's easier said than done, but for your own sanity it just might need to be done. I believe in time they will come around. Hugs!!