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Hello fellow sleevers...

As you probably know, I am a slow loser... of course this is frustrating, but (and it is a big but, no pun intended) I am concentrating on the positive and feel good generally...

When I was moaning to my hubby he said that it might be a 'mental' thing.... due to the fact that I have been big for such a long time, my 'head' doesn't want to get rid of the weight... almost using it as a comfort blanket?!

I did (still do to a degree) use my weight as a joke.. to make people laugh etc and I am one who will take the mickey out of myself! For fun reasons only...

I was just wondering if anyone else thought along these lines and how they turned it around. I still have a lot of weight to lose ...

thanks in advance x

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Coops, I do the same about my weight, make jokes and make people laugh about my weight. I think I'm gonna be a slow loser as well, haven't lost much in the last couple of weeks, but am intending to take it as it comes, try my best, I started exercising, and I too am feeling just relaxed about everything. It's best not to compare ourselves with others, we all lose at our own pace, let see what our fellow sleevers have to say, and the ones who have been sleeved for a while.

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Coops, I don't consider you a very slow loser. It's been 12 weeks since surgery and you are down 30 lbs. I know we have some super speedy losers on this board, but more than 2lbs a week seems like a respectable weight loss. Just my $.02.

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Thank you both...

Chilo, seems we have a lot in common...lol... I am glad that we are in this together!!

Lisalu, I appreciate your two cent...lol... makes me feel a little better... were you sleeved end of June? How are you doing, as we are only days away!!

xx

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Coops, yes I was sleeved 4 days before you; that almost qualifies us as sleeve sisters. I'm doing great other than the bit of boredom I mentioned in an earlier post. It feel healthy and it's pretty awesome no longer being fat. Sometimes I see my reflection in a window and don't recognize myself. I never thought I'd see that day come.

Rememer the fable of the tortoise and the hare: slow and steady wins the race.

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Yey sleeve sisters... I love it!!!

You are doing amazing, your starting weight is pretty much, give or take a pound, where I am now... and I have to be honest that I am desperate to get into the onderland zone!!! However, I did have a NSV today, as I bought a pair of jeans that are a size smaller, thinking 'oh I will wear these in a week or two'. I had to try them on, and they fit!! Ok, so they are a little tight, but I think that is because all my other stuff is so loose!!

I posted on your other thread... I really think a hobby is a great idea... do you work? Since I have started back to work, I know that things are a hundred miles an hour now.. but so far I am not as tired as I normal and I haven't had a nanna nap, yet!

I have been exercising too and that is a great feeling; to do some cardio and not feel like a baby elephant is sat on my chest!!

One other thing that has been on my mind is my ToTM.... I haven't seen anything since 14th July and I am wondering if the old hormone thing is playing around with my weight too... dunno, might just be me being paraniod and desperate to see the scale move in a more modest way!!!

x

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Chilo,

just had a thought... I know you are back in the gym... have you seen fitness tv on sky? There are quite a few really good work outs on there... I have sky+ my favs, so instead of wasting money on dvds I do those... the combat cardio is really good but there are loads more... just a thought! x

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Coops yay!! for the NSV!!!! I'll def check out the sky fitness tv thing as of today, thanks for the tip! Lisalu your doing really well with a bmi of 28, i look at bmi cause i still find pounds a bit confusing, keep us posted!

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