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OK, I have lost about 27 lbs since my surgery! I can't EVEN believe it. Although no one really has noticed yet:001_unsure:. But, I'm feeling great......so great in fact, that I believe my sex drive is returning! LOL! Soooooo, I was wondering if anyone else has notice anything like this and if so, as you lose weight does it just get better and better???? LOL! My husband thinks he has died and gone to heaven! LOL!!! :sad0: I thought if anyone could shed some light on this subject, it would be my sistas on here! Thanks for your thoughts.:001_rolleyes:

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Yes, and yes. It does get better and better. With the more weight you lose, the more confident you feel, the more sensitive things become, and it really does just down right feel better. It's a nice change to be worn out from orgasms instead of the actual activity and energy expended on having sex.

Did I mention all the fun, new, crazy positions that are possible? If not, sexinfo.com is a fabulous site that I started perusing and least to say, it's bookmarked ha ha ha.

I'm in my early 30's, and my husband is 6 years my junior. I thought I'd be in "heaven", but the poor man can not keep up.

My husband was deployed during my first 80lb drop. When our guys are deployed, we either go sexless or establish a solid relationship with our showerheads. Personally, I prefer to stay sexless, and just let it all build up for his homecoming. Least to say, when he returned (I was 80lbs lighter), we didn't want to leave the bedroom for days.

I think it might be related to the major hormone flux due to the rapid weight loss and all that estrogen releasing from our fat cells.

Least to say, now at goal, sex is purely phenomenal. I never had sex as a skinny person LOL, and that was a whole new world for me. If nothing else keeps me from getting fat again, knowing what I know now about skinny sex will keep me out of the cookie jar ! ! !

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You crack me up, Tiffy!

My husband and I feel like I am a different person every day! I kiddingly announce when I've lost more weight and then dare him to find where I lost it from! And YES, some positions are possible now that weren't before (my poor daughter, who also has the sleeve and is on this site HATES to get mental images like that from me!!!).

I am also becoming quite the exhibitionist! I walk around naked A LOT more now! As I work at exercising, I'm becoming stronger and that helps in the sex department, too.

And to think this is just ONE of the wonderful things about losing weight! Add better health, improved mood and self-esteem, looking prettier to the sex part, and I'm ONE HAPPY CAMPER!!!

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LOL!!!! Ok, well, now I know that it will get EVEN better! This was an "unexpected" benefit!!!

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I've been with the same wonderful man for over 30yrs now, and our sex life is better now than it was when we were in our 20's. My hubby jokes about having a "hot girlfriend" now, and I enjoy feeling sexy again. I wish I could have had the VSG when I was younger and my skin was more elastic, but I'm not too flabby from the weight loss and I love the way I look. My closet is slowly filling up with sexy lingerie as I feel more and more confident with my body.

My hubby has always loved me no matter what my weight, and sex was always fine. But needless to say, when you feel better about your body you are going to be less inhibited about showing it and that makes sex that much better.

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man you make me feel so much better. iv been with my man for 7yrs now and he still has never saw me completly naked not even in the light were a lights off couple. i have 1 month till my surgury and now i definatly cant wait!!!

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So now that yr sliming down yr putting out more? So you gave him less cause u had no drive? Sux to be in his shoes.

Why do you constantly feel the need to be critical? This is a support forum.

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So now that yr sliming down yr putting out more? So you gave him less cause u had no drive? Sux to be in his shoes.

I slung leg just as much when I was fat. The big difference now is that I don't get winded, my body is more flexible, and positions are more easily achieved.

Sex is more than the physical which obviously you don't understand. Intimacy plays a large role in an active sex drive. Self-esteem comes into play as well. We, as women, are a bit sensitive to our fat rolls getting in the way during sex.

It must suck to be so close-minded about why our sex drive improves once we lose weight. It's more than getting your peepee wet with most women, and obviously you haven't experienced that to date.

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Nice one Tiffy, hehehehe!

Jane x

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Early? It's after lunch!!

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