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I am on an emotional rollar coaster right now. I'm super happy with my weight loss, but am losing control mentally! It happened last month at week 4, tried breaking up with boyfriend, tried to get fired from job after 14 years, was really low. But snapped out of it.

Now it's back! My boyfriend actually moved out last night because I told him to leave because I felt like I was going crazy. I snap at everyone, and bawl all the time!! I've never been an angry person--EVER, but now I snap at anyone and everyone. I don't have any kind of patience, and everything annoys me. What's going on with me???

I have set up counceling appointments, and have been on the same anti-depressent for 6 years. Is it possible it doesn't work anymore? Has anyone else experienced the extreme bi-polar like moods? Oh--and have been on my period pretty much the whole time since surgery. I'm thinking my hormones are out of control!!!

Please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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I'm glad you are going to go for counseling. That can really help you pinpoint where the issues are. You have been through a lot. Surgery is a major thing for the body to recover from. I wish I had some words of wisdom for you. Hang in there and let us know how it goes.

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I understand 100% I am an emotional wreck lately. Stress at work and in my family just adds to it. I am sure that surgery is another 100% to the stress. I hope that things feel better for you soon. I know that for me food is my way of coping with all of the pressures I have in life... It is going to be one hell of a learning curve to find other ways to handle these feelings. Try not to be to hard on yourself. :thumbdown:

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In addition to following up on the counseling, maybe you should see your surgeon or PCP to get some lab work done to make sure your antidepressant levels and chemistry levels in your blood are where they should be. Good luck and let us know how you are doing.

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i think all women go through this terrible phase in life....don't know if it's due to the surgery, your counselor will tell you.....i can only wish you the best of luck and take it easy.....we only have one chance to live, so be happy...your boyfriend loves you, do not push him away.

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I believe the hormonal/emotional roller coaster is far more common than we think. I have read about so many experiences of people feeling blue within the first month post-op and perhaps for a few months post-op. It's normal to experience this and like some of the other posters said above, speaking to a therapist may help you pin-point and deal with any issues. food used to be the crutch but no more. Hang in there .. you will be fine.

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Sorry to read about your torment.... maybe this is the way you are coping with the fact you can't turn to food anymore. They say people that give up smoking (for eg) become irritable and emotional.... so as you can't turn to food now you're finding another way to vent your frustration....also if you were on the anti depressants before hand possibly this is another side effect of not hiding your depression with food intake.

I can only give ideas - and possibly another view on things, I'm not qualified at all.... but its worth chatting things thru with your therapist to find the root cause.

Good luck

Kathy

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I agree with Sparkle, you no longer have access to self-medicating with food, and there is a very real effect on the brain from od-ing on carbs and sugar - you get high and numb. Now that you don't have that constant fix, maybe a lot of emotions are bubbling at the surface. That plus the fact that you had major invasive surgery, plus a possible medication failure (when an anti-depressant suddenly stops working for no discernable reason), it's no wonder you are not at your best! One thing at a time, don't forget to breathe.

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