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Technically, this post is about 4 days early, but I feel good today, and want to attention whore for a few minutes.

So, what have learned thus far:

~ I have a normal relationship with food

~ My mind, body and soul are finally starting to sync up in unison

~ I truly do not feel like I'm dieting

~ It's okay to have a bad day

~ Life will go on even if I eat way too many cheesy poofs

~ food is even more delicious since I actually slow down to eat instead of inhaling my meals

~ I no longer feel like I have to be the funny, loud fat girl for people to like me. They genuinely like me just for me.

~ I had to be willing to let my walls come down to let people in, and let myself out.

~ Not having the mask of obesity to hide behind is a vulnerable position to be in sometimes

~ I love that I turn heads because of how I look, not at because of how huge I am.

~ No one can take away my joy unless I allow it.

~ I'm looking forward to holding our baby (no I'm not pregnant yet)

~ I'm petrified of being a new mother aagain, but I'm excited that I'm not going to have to deal with obesity and pregnancy simultaneously.

~ Life is what I make of it, and right now I'm making up for a lot of lost time that I spent always thinking about food and my next meal, and being miserable because of my weight.

John's squadron is holding a joint SF Spring semi-formal ball on May 14th. We're expecting close to 400 people to be in attendance. I went dress shopping this last weekend, and today I finished off the shopping with shoes, accessories and little bolero/shrug for my arms. I'm ecstatic as this is my first formal military event ever, hell it's my first formal event since my high school prom. Least to say, I am so very much in love with my dress, and can not wait to dance the night away in the arms of my love.

The obligatory before pic: 270lbs

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Here's the dress: Completely ignore my hair, I just pulled it back for picture purposes. 123lbs

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I bought black strappy, open-toe heels with some shiny rhinestones on the toeline. Adorable ! ! !

Life is fabulous. . . If you are a new pre-op, and you think you can't do this, scroll back up, you can if I can. If you're on the journey, and you're wondering if you'll ever get there, you will, don't give up on yourself. If you're contemplating the sleeve, stop thinking, and do it. If you are in a stall, and you are ready to give up, don't let a little speed bump become a road block. The stall will break, and you will be successful.

It's not always easy, but it's so worth it, it's worth it all ! ! !

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Absolutely wonderful Tiffykins. You are an inspiration.

I especially appreciated this today. Thank you!

If you are in a stall, and you are ready to give up, don't let a little speed bump become a road block. The stall will break, and you will be successful.

It's not always easy, but it's so worth it, it's worth it all ! ! !

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Tiff, you are so beautiful! Awesome dress. I know you will have a blast at the ball. Thanks for all that you share and for just being yourself!

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Tiff you sexy woman! I love the dress. It is exciting to have glimpses of having my body and soul be in sync. Tonight I swam and felt like I was in complete control of my body. It felt like heaven.

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Tiff, you are just gorgeous! Love the dress! I really liked this post. I hope when I'm this far along I can say that I've learned the same things myself. Thanks for being an inspiration & source of information for us all! I hope you have an AMAZING time at the ball! You'll have to come back and tell us all about it. :thumbup1:

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Look at you! SO gorgeous! I have to admit to being totally fascinated by your before and after pictures. I have not been obese all my life, but have mostly been the more voluptuous type...to imagine being tiny! WOW!

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Wow..........Tiff... U look soooooo amazing... U r an inspiration for us all...Love the dress.. and have a blast at the ball... God Bless!!

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Technically, this post is about 4 days early, but I feel good today, and want to attention whore for a few minutes.

So, what have learned thus far:

~ I have a normal relationship with food

~ My mind, body and soul are finally starting to sync up in unison

~ I truly do not feel like I'm dieting

~ It's okay to have a bad day

~ Life will go on even if I eat way too many cheesy poofs

~ food is even more delicious since I actually slow down to eat instead of inhaling my meals

~ I no longer feel like I have to be the funny, loud fat girl for people to like me. They genuinely like me just for me.

~ I had to be willing to let my walls come down to let people in, and let myself out.

~ Not having the mask of obesity to hide behind is a vulnerable position to be in sometimes

~ I love that I turn heads because of how I look, not at because of how huge I am.

~ No one can take away my joy unless I allow it.

~ I'm looking forward to holding our baby (no I'm not pregnant yet)

~ I'm petrified of being a new mother aagain, but I'm excited that I'm not going to have to deal with obesity and pregnancy simultaneously.

~ Life is what I make of it, and right now I'm making up for a lot of lost time that I spent always thinking about food and my next meal, and being miserable because of my weight.

John's squadron is holding a joint SF Spring semi-formal ball on May 14th. We're expecting close to 400 people to be in attendance. I went dress shopping this last weekend, and today I finished off the shopping with shoes, accessories and little bolero/shrug for my arms. I'm ecstatic as this is my first formal military event ever, hell it's my first formal event since my high school prom. Least to say, I am so very much in love with my dress, and can not wait to dance the night away in the arms of my love.

The obligatory before pic: 270lbs

24200_359686426417_744801417_5178200_5607898_n.jpg

24200_359663041417_744801417_5178148_8185821_n.jpg

Here's the dress: Completely ignore my hair, I just pulled it back for picture purposes. 123lbs

30314_421856511417_744801417_5657734_3599835_n.jpg

30544_421857366417_744801417_5657752_5532859_n.jpg

I bought black strappy, open-toe heels with some shiny rhinestones on the toeline. Adorable ! ! !

Life is fabulous. . . If you are a new pre-op, and you think you can't do this, scroll back up, you can if I can. If you're on the journey, and you're wondering if you'll ever get there, you will, don't give up on yourself. If you're contemplating the sleeve, stop thinking, and do it. If you are in a stall, and you are ready to give up, don't let a little speed bump become a road block. The stall will break, and you will be successful.

It's not always easy, but it's so worth it, it's worth it all ! ! !

You are totally AMAZING!!!! You are absolutely AWESOME!!! you look fabulous in the dress, it's too cute! Wow you have transitioned so much, you were cute before, but girl your really cute now! Total inspiration to all of us!!!!!!!:thumbup1:

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You are gorgeous inside and out. Have a blast and don't get wasted with your little stomach at the ball lol YOU LOOK STUNNING....and thank you for all the valuable information you give us regularly.....I don't have my date yet but am down to the bottom line with all pre op stuff....thanks again

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Wow, you are such an inspiration! I have been lurking around for a while, and I see your posts alot. They keep me motivated to see this thing through!

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You are so incredibly beautiful :svengo:

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Tiffy, you made me cry... I have felt all of those pre-op things you have, I was pregnant twice, once with twins and Totally miserable! I am so happy that you will get to experience pregnancy from a different perspective, a healthy one! I will not have any more children but look forward to looking the way I feel inside.

I can't wait to start my journey, my fears are just as everyone's are I think, can I do this? Will I see results? I am a "lightweight", can I still reach my goal?

Thanks for sharing! YOU LOOK AMAZING! And not just the clothes talking, it shows in your face just how happy you are!

Congrats! You did it!

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Wow! Love the dress and you look so cute!! Thanks for letting us share this journey with you and for supporting us when we are down. (Especially about STALLS!) Pics of you both when you go to your ball please!

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