Am I the only one that...

[TiffanyIsMajor 1]

Wants to get thin enough to bump into my ex and his new wife? Like how horrible of a person am I? lol

[leelee 0]

you're not horrible. sometimes we just need to remind people of how awesome we are... now that can't be your only reason

[Kelkie 0]

You are not horrible! I am looking forward to running into the "popular" people from high school, that gave me a hard time for being overweight. I'm pretty much over it, but a lot of them are heavy now, so I think it would be poetic justice! lol

[thinoneday 445]

Wants to get thin enough to bump into my ex and his new wife? Like how horrible of a person am I? lol

That is not being horrible at all. . .actually i think that would be fun! Put on a silly smirk while your at it!:sneaky2:

[angel96049 1]

I think all of us feel that way in one way or another! Although I made this choice for myself and my future, I would love to rub it in some peoples faces along the way!! All the people that looked down on me for being fat, or made fun of me, or dumped me because I wasn't good enough! I want them all to see what a great person they missed out on!

As I lose the weight I feel my self confidence and self esteem returning, and it feels great!! Even if I don't get the chance to show off my new self, everything that I have gained from this experience is enough for me!!

[cajun 46]

The anger that we feel for all the years we were discriminated against can be put to good use...we can use it to actively promote "good karma" by loving others and showing acceptance of those who suffer like we did with obesity. What goes around comes around...let the universe take care of those who have offended us, is my philosophy!

That's my goal anyway. I'm not perfect at it, but keep up the effort.

I have an acquaintance who gloats at others' misfortune and goes out of her way to "rub it in". That is offensive behavior to me. When I see her behave like that, it's a lesson for me on how not to act.

PS I'm not saying you are a bad person for your thoughts...we all have such thoughts....just try not to act on them and you will grow in wisdom and grace.

Edited February 25, 2010 by cajun
afterthought

[Stacie 1]

I love it! And I totally agree with Cajun, but there is nothing wrong with feeling good about yourself!! I am hoping to be able to take a family picture this fall to send out Christmas cards. I never let myself be in pictures and I would just love to feel good abbut myself and, hey, if my ex boyfriend (still friends with his family) happens to see it, all the better!

[Tiffykins 672]

Ohhhhhhhhh woman, seriously are we twins separated at birth? ? ?

I decided one night to stalk my ex on Facebook. And, ohhhhhhhhhhhh the sheer pleasure I had when I saw he hasn't aged well, and is FAT. Plus, his skankyliscious whore of a wife is still fat and UGLY. I mean it's okay that she's fat, but he married the ugly fat one. She was a friend of mine, and they were screwing around behind my back. I made a Confession in the "confession time" thread about it all.

[Mary Gordon 3]

not at all!!! it's perfectly normal, besides i bet your ex will regret having changed you for another lady.....if that keeps you motivated to lose then i don't see why it should be bad!!!

goodluck and please keep us posted.

[ishary 0]

Ohhhhhhhhh woman, seriously are we twins separated at birth? ? ?

I decided one night to stalk my ex on Facebook. And, ohhhhhhhhhhhh the sheer pleasure I had when I saw he hasn't aged well, and is FAT. Plus, his skankyliscious whore of a wife is still fat and UGLY. I mean it's okay that she's fat, but he married the ugly fat one. She was a friend of mine, and they were screwing around behind my back. I made a Confession in the "confession time" thread about it all.

LOLOLOLOLOLOL!!!

Too Funny!!!

[thinoneday 445]

Cajun, I love your philosophy! I so believe in the "what goes around, comes around" theory . . . The majority of the time i treat people how i would like to be treated, especially the elderly, I love elderly folks, even the onery ones. . . one time I came into a elderly patient's room and smiled at him and said "good morning" . . . he looked at me and grumped " Why you so happy, what you smiling at" I just looked at him and said " I smile for those who can not" . . . that poor man, began to cry, I sat with him and held his hand, he told me no one had ever said something so nice to him before . . . you know that patient never gave me a hard time after that, i would catch him walking the halls and he'd wave and wink . . .the other nurses always asked how did you get mr . . . to be so nice? I never shared my story with anyone except y'all. . . thanks for listening. . .

[deedee 5]

I think your feelings are pretty normal. I have friends who feel this way about ex boyfriends and husbands and high school/college acquaintances, not just regarding weight, but jobs, houses, kids, etc.

I don't really have anyone in particular that I want to see the "new" me because I don't think anyone ever really treated me horribly (I'm probably just too oblivious), BUT I have thought about getting professional pictures taken with my husband and send them out as Christmas cards or something just to kind of "show off." I know it's silly because I'm a grown person, but I just kind of want everyone to know that I actually was able to lose weight and get healthy after a whole life of trying to struggling to do it.

[pumpkin07 32]

I joke with my husband that I'm gonna lose all this weight and he better not leave me for a fat girl. lol It is fun to dream....I'm not there yet. scale is stuck at like 22 lb.

[loser 0]

LOL,, Tiffykins,, where do you come up with words like "skankylicious" !! I love that word, hope you don't mind if I use it as well.

I have an ex or two that would give me a hard time about being overweight. I would tell them I was like this when they met me. They would say,, "but I thought you would change". LOL.. Well, I did but it wasn't due to their remarks, as they were so long ago.

[tiaras 0]

When my ex-husband (father of my son) and I split, I was skinny, mainly because of all the rubbish he'd put me through (but we won't go into that here). I haven't seen him for many years and my son is now 27, I'm extremely happily married to my husband (we've been together for 21 years and married for 18 months). Well my son got engaged a week ago - ten days after I had my surgery. I am thrilled about this and they are planning to get married sometime next year. It suddenly dawned on me that my ex-husband will probably want to be at the wedding and it would be so good if I could be looking slim and healthy rather than like a broken-down Mr Blobby.

I would never knowlingly rub anyone's nose in it, so to speak, but it would make me feel a whole lot better if I was looking a whole lot better! xx