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Article on people keeping WLS "secret"

youknowit

By youknowit, in Gastric Sleeve Surgery Forums

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excited2lose    0

excited2lose
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I am not ashamed, but I am another that has not told anyone. People knew I was in the hospital and I just knew we would see someone there, so I told everyone that I was having a hernia surgery. Yeah, it was a lie, but I'm not too worried about going to hell. :) I posted my thanks on my Facebook to my father, who flew in and tirelessly took care of my children for my surgery. Well, of course my cousin alerted my grandmother who immediately called my father. My dad ended up telling her the truth, which I understand-she was concerned. She told him she wouldn't tell anyone, but I am not so sure. I hope she doesn't, because in my dad's family-everything is a joke. Everyone makes fun of everyone-to the point where nothing is funny any more. No one can have flaws or secrets-they endlessly will make fun of you until you feel like a big pile of poo. But if she does, so be it. I will not be like them. I will not die obese. I will not do it. The funny thing (or not so funny)? Every.single.one of them is morbidly obese. So yeah, while for now it is my secret-it will not define me.

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youknowit    11

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Oh sister, I totally understand the "whole family is fat, and yet, they make fun of fat people" thing... It's not making fun in a nice way either... My mom, who I love dearly, will say getting surgery is crazy, while she stuffs food in her mouth, and can barely walk from being so severely obese. I have decided that I MAY tell others once I'm on the other side of this, but right now, I do not need that worry and strife.

Thank you for sharing, and here's to all of us doing our own thang! How is your sleeve and weightloss, by the way? Best to you! :)

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learned2bskinny    81

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I chose not to tell anyone except my son who took me to Mexico. I am also a very private person. I have since told my daughter, and a few co-workers. I don't really care what people think about my choice to have the surgery, I just don't particularly want to be the butt of rumors at work. When people ask me how I've lost all the weight, I choose whether I want to say "low carbs, high protein" or "I had WLS," depending on who asks. Neither is a lie. But if I choose to tell, I do make sure they know it's NOT the band!

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FireFly    0

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I'm not ashamed. Its not like I am hiding a secret addiction or bad habit. My fat is out there for all to see. I just don't want to have to justify my actions.

I have decided that I will have to tell my walking buddies tomorrow morning. If I say hernia they will be asking what doctor, what hospital etc. So one lie will make 100 more lies. I think it may just be best to tell the truth and be done with it. Wish me luck. I'm just going to say 45 years of diets has not gotten me long term results. It is foolish to keep doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.

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maxcat    0

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I have told very few people, my boyfriend, a close friend who is a nurse and her husband is having gastric bypass, and 2 of the owners where I work so they know whats going on. I also told a close friend who opinion I really valued, she begged my not to have it done said she heard she knows of 2 other people that had it done and they went crazy, lost the weight and left their husband and kids and took off and went wild!! Needless to say after that no one else will know. When the time comes I will be telling everyone I'm having gallbladder surgery. I'm also a very private person.

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FireFly    0

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I wouldn't have to tell anyone if I didn't walk 6 days a week with these women.

No way to explain my absence without inviting a whole raft of questions.

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maxcat    0

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Firefly,

I am looking seriously into the same DR as you. Please be sure to post your experience in detail. I would love to hear about it.

Good Luck on your journey to the losers side

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. LeighaTR

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        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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