I am new to this site and would like some help with a couple of things. We live in Woodland Washington and I am having Surgery with Dr. Aceves in Mexicali Mexico so I need to take my Husband with me. First did anyone take their husbands with them and second what is there for him to do? I'm afraid mine will be bored.. so please help

Edited December 7, 200916 yr by debpedersen

Hi Deb,

I didn't take my hubby.. missed him on the 2nd day but he needed to stay home to get kids to school and events. My surgery was 2 hours away and my best friend and my mom took me down..stayed until I was ok and in my room. The second day I was alone the whole day and while it may have been nice to have some company... the nurses and staff should be attentive enough to help you with anything you need.

I had another friend come get me and drive me home.

I guess I would ask where are you going for surgery.. is it far away? Will that make you feel a little more scared if you are alone? Try to figure out what will be best for you... maybe hubby can come and go if he goes with you so he is "there" but not having to be in room the whole time... even going to hotel to watch tv or do whatever... or have him available by phone if you can...

Hope this helps.

~Chandra/ Shutterbug

Welcome to VST!

My husband came with me and I was so glad to have him there...I freaked out a little and they had trouble getting the IV put in. He works from home and brought his laptop with him and worked some while I was in surgery. My mom stopped by after she got off of work and waited with him until I was out of surgery. My surgery took longer than planned because they repaired a hernia, so she went home before I was out of recovery. My husband stayed for about an hour (I think) once I was back in my room.

I was to be released the next day in the late afternoon, so he decided to come later in the day. I was feeling great most of the morning, practically running laps, until they took me down for my barium swallow. I started puking and dry heaving. I called him as soon as I got back to my room and he got ready and came, but we live 1.5-2 hours away, so it took a while.

I guess all this rambling is to say, it depends on you and what kind of support you feel you will need. I needed my husband when I felt crappy/scared, but maybe you have a friend in the area? I told 2 different friends that inquired that I would prefer they stay away and I'm very happy I did. Good luck with your journey!

Thank you for your replies, I appreciate your responses. I forgot to say that I am having Surgery in Mexico.

Deb, that's a great question. I'm scheduled for surgery with Dr. Aceves Jan 19th and my husband will be flying down there with me as well. I'm worried about him being bored and stuck in the hospital for days also.