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You say Tomato ..I say To mot toe. No use in PM's especially when whatever is said in a PM goes public anyway.

Yes it can happen but that is up to the people that have the disagreement at the time to explose PRIVATE conversations.

I personally don't like to see or hear two people having a disagreement in a public forum whether it is here or in a restaurant or wherever. I chose to ignore the disagreement as a lay person. But as a Moderator I do not have that luxury. I have to try to referee the disagreement so that the forum is not uncomfortable and things stay on track.

All I ask is in the future if you (Collectively LBT) have an issue with another member PLEASE take it to a Private Message first. If you feel attacked then let a moderator or the owner of the board know and please give us some facts to work with not hearsay.

Ok I am going to go to lunch with my sweetie and enjoy his company as I neglected him most of the day yesterday.

HUGS TO ALL YOU GORGEOUS LADIES AND GENTLEMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Ooh, I'd feel PMing someone with something aggressive to say would be way out of line. If I felt that strongly that I just had to get my message through to a specific person, its time to walk away I think.

Well said Wheetsin, by the way. That's very true. I never even thought about who owned this board, I just found it and joined up.

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Ooh, I'd feel PMing someone with something aggressive to say would be way out of line. If I felt that strongly that I just had to get my message through to a specific person, its time to walk away I think.

Well said Wheetsin, by the way. That's very true. I never even thought about who owned this board, I just found it and joined up.

I agree...I think it would--or at least it MIGHT--come across (to me, anyway) as a "personal" attack and be a little more threatening, and from there progress into kind of "attacking" emails and all.

So I don't ever send aggressive or argumentative pm's (well, except when I'm arguing with the moderators for slapping my typing fingers) because I would feel like I had kind of slinked off into a really personal thing that takes what I generally perceive as "open debate in a public forum" to a private name-calling thing.

Interestingly enough...I don't think I've ever received a hateful pm, either. And if I HAD, I'd have sent it off to a moderator or Alex right away, because I probably have perceived it as coming from a freaky person, who had real life issues.

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In 3 years, I have never received a nasty PM. Thank goodness. Alternatively, I have never, or would never send one either.

Honestly, I think if someone 'attacked' me in PM, I'd be compelled to post it publicly. I do, however, see where PMing and having an adult discussion about a difference of opinion or misunderstanding could be beneficial.

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This is EXACTLY what I was going to say. If ONE doesnt fit under the Troll category, then they shouldnt be offended.

I didnt see Leatha giving personal attacks here - or anywhere. Leatha *ALWAYS* uses on-line etiquette.

And I emphasis ALWAYS.

I -too- am praying for this place.

God bless LBT! (and esp. the "Trolls")

:amen: and may God continue to bless LBT!!

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Keeping anything inside or repressing ones emotions and feelings about something is dangerous and cancerous forming (analogy), pretty soon, it will eat you up soo badly it will harm you.

I agree....I would also like to point out that for some, unfortunately, the cancer (analogy as stated) was already forming b4 coming to LBT. Sad but true. :cry

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I cannot recall ever sending a nasty PM, although a few months ago I certainly received a few. I never replied, cause things like that only fuel a fire. I am rather proud that I was able to hold my tongue, and fingers, in this fight. Lord knows I love a good fight. LOL But I do agree that a place like this is not always a good place for this sort of thing. I do have to point out though that this sight is made up mostly of women. Yes we have some fine men here, but we are a female majority here, and as I told Alex...Sometimes us girls just gotta get catty in order to refresh our positions. It is human nature.

I think the mods and Alex have done very well on this round. I really appreciated Alex coming into the chat last night and chatting with us. He even heard out my concerns and feelings and I wasn't involved in the bout. How cool is that. :) Thanks LBT for an entertaining, yet resolved start to the week.

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Marshmellows, Jenna, marshmellows. Get your mind out of the gutter.. so I have room to climb in there! LOL!

OMG, now that would be a PB to explain... would it not?? LOL!

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That is what I was talking about.... what were YOU talking about?

Hmmmm, why whatever do you mean? Are you implying that I would think dirty thoughts? Who little ole me??? Pffffft. The thoughts never cross my mind.... ever.... or at least not in the last 5 seconds.

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Then I am like a man. I think of sex everytime my husband walks in the door.

I'm a man man baby, yeahhhh (Austin Powers voice)

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