female only Homecoming delayed, I'm devastated

[Tiffykins 672]

I have not griped at all through this damn deployment so forgive me for this rant. Most of y'all know that John was due home this next week. Well, he was able to call this morning and his return date has been pushed back. I literally felt my heart break into a million pieces when he told me. I just wanted to cry, but Caysen was with me, and I knew it wouldn't be a good idea for him to see me breakdown.

I was actually at the commissary, buying some of John's favorite foods, and getting stuff just for him. Things that haven't been in my shopping cart for 6 months. Luckily, everything will stay fresh, but it was just so disappointing.

He hasn't been extended very long. It's a simple delay, and I realize it could be a lot worse, but that isn't going to change how upset I am. The most unraveling moment in the phone conversation is when John said " I just wanted to be home with you so badly, I miss you terribly, I'm so tired of this, and I need you."

The one thing that I should of remembered was "never get your hopes up, the military will destroy them." As a spouse, it's so difficult not to get your hopes up especially when they (the Air Force) tells you one thing, and then change their minds. I have everything ready for his return. We had it all planned out, and of course, my heart was so ready for him to be home. It happens all the time, and I should of known better than to be excited. He'll still be home soon, but it's just another week without him that we have to make it through ! ! !

Thanks for listening/reading.

[3636millie 3]

Oh.... Tiffy, I am so sorry. Please know I am thinking of you and wish there was something that would make it better.

[ash 5]

So sorry about this! How long has he been gone?

[Oregondaisy 2,019]

Oh Tiff, I know how heartbreaking this has to be for you . I will be babysitting at my DD's this evening if you want to chat.

I am so sorry to hear this. I hope the delay is not a long one and he is home very soon.

I'll leave the chat window open. I'll be there in an hour 7 my time 9 yours.

[shanda7182 5]

Sorry to hear about it Tiff. It is def. hard being a military wife, im sure. Keep us posted on his new arrival date.

[Tiffykins 672]

He's active duty Air Force, and their deployments average about 6 months. He's been gone since mid-March.

Thanks for listening. I think what sent me over the edge was hearing him so miserable. We've both been troopers through this thing. He was denied coming home during my surgery/complications, and I got over being pissed about that situation. Now, this has just brought up all the frustration. He's been through pure hell over there this go around. This is his 4th deployment, and he said this is by far the worst one yet.

It's not a long delay, and I'm grateful it's not a true extension. We were just so prepared for this week to finally happen.

[Bob_350lbs 105]

Tiff, my heart goes out to you and your husband. It's okay to feel the way you do, that is perfectly normal. Yes, thank goodness it's not a long delay. I pray he is home for Christmas for you.

[Chancie 65]

Awwww Tiff!!

I'm so sorry to hear this!!

I know how excited you were!

When he gets home will he be here for awhile? I sure do hope so! It sounds like you both need each other about now!

Be strong.... and hopefully the week will fly by and you two will be together!

Hope the coming home outfit still fits ya... and you don't have to go buy another on in a smaller size!

( well- that wouldn't be tooo bad either! )

[Ky.hen 5]

Tiffy, I'm sorry about John's delay. I know that every minute seems like forever. Hope everything works out for next week and he has a safe return. Hugs, Judy

[*susan* 1,709]

Tiff, I am sorry about this. At this point, I am sure even a one day delay would be tough to deal with. I really do admire you and all of our military families. I can't imagine how difficult it must be being apart from the ones you love.

[Malaika 50]

That's AWFUL Tiff - hang in there and remain strong -- I know it's working on your last nerve - and now an absessed tooth isn't helping -- but maybe John being delayed will be a blessing in disguise as it seems like you'll have to deal with a root canal - and won't be 100% yourself - maybe this way you'll be 100% healed when he does come home (trying to look at a silver lining?) HUGS to you - call if you need to talk!:party4::hug:

[Tiffykins 672]

That's AWFUL Tiff - hang in there and remain strong -- I know it's working on your last nerve - and now an absessed tooth isn't helping -- but maybe John being delayed will be a blessing in disguise as it seems like you'll have to deal with a root canal - and won't be 100% yourself - maybe this way you'll be 100% healed when he does come home (trying to look at a silver lining?) HUGS to you - call if you need to talk!:party4::hug:

I thought about that today, and figured I'd go ahead and get this tooth taken care of while we wait. This stupid tooth was found last year during my routine exam. The root is dead, and he told me that it would either need to be pulled or have the root canal. Well, it wasn't bothering me until now. I just hope they can get me in tomorrow. My stomach is absolutely torn up because of the anbesol, and because the Motrin and Tylenol I've been rotating since yesterday.

I just wish I could lay in bed and go to sleep, but I'm up every 30-45 minutes applying more ointment to my mouth.

[Malaika 50]

I thought about that today, and figured I'd go ahead and get this tooth taken care of while we wait. This stupid tooth was found last year during my routine exam. The root is dead, and he told me that it would either need to be pulled or have the root canal. Well, it wasn't bothering me until now. I just hope they can get me in tomorrow. My stomach is absolutely torn up because of the anbesol, and because the Motrin and Tylenol I've been rotating since yesterday.

I just wish I could lay in bed and go to sleep, but I'm up every 30-45 minutes applying more ointment to my mouth.

Did you see my post to you on Facebook? Take 800 mg. ibuprofen and 2 xtra strength tylenol all at the same time - it has the same effects as codeine without the addiction - according to my dentist. I had to deal with an absessed tooth over the thanksgiving weekend a few years ago and this combination saved my life.

Now that I think about it, since our stomach is smaller, wonder if 400 mg. ibuprofen and 1 xtra strength tylenol would work?

I've shared this "secret" with others at work and they've been amazed at the pain relief.

I gal (fighting an absessed tooth last week) said it worked better for her than the Lortab her dentist prescribed.

Hope it helps!

[Tiffykins 672]

I would take it, but I'm out of Motrin and I'm not getting out of the house again tonight. Thank you for the suggestion.

[learned2bskinny 81]

Tiff,

I'm so sorry about the delay. I know how you've been counting the minutes. I hope you will have that tooth fixed and be 100% by the time John gets home. As always, take care of yourself and may the time fly by.