My bf has been going through a lot of stress. His family is really dysfunctional. Instead of sharing with me, he's just really moody and quiet. I know the stuff he is going through is really painful, but at the same time, I am really sick of the way he shuts down.

I sent a message to a guy on another dating site. he wrote back and asked for a picture. I sent a little newsy email, and sent a picture. I have not heard back from him. I don't know whether to wait, or send him another message and if so, what to say.

Vegas Angel, you can see the picture on my fb page. It's the only picture I have of me that I can send. I am really camera shy and take lousy pictures. Even though I am a size 10-12, I still look really fat in pictures.

I really need some advice here. I would like to send a little message and ask if he'd like to meet for coffee, cause you can't tell much from a picture or an email. Is anyone good with this sort of thing? Should I wait another couple of days? I sent the picture yesterday. The email he had sent was really nice, and he didn't seem like someone who was all hung up on looks.

This has happened to me before, where I have corresponded with men, then as soon as I sent the picture, all emails just stopped.

Please give me your advice!:sad0::001_wub:

Have a great time, Daisy. I have a feeling this will be just what you need.

Oh Daisy,

I know that you will have a good time. You really are going to get through this rough patch in your life. You are doing the right thing by getting out of town and having some fun. Life dosen't last long so don't waste your time being so sad.

One day I might get the courage to tell you about a terrible tragedy that happened in my life. My faith in God is why I'm still living today. Be happy Daisy. We care about you. Hugs, Judy

You are all so sweet. It means a lot to me.

How else would we be girl? You are a sista!!!

I have been doing much better today. I have been more in the "screw him" mode rather than remembering all the good times.

His whole family is crazy. I have 3 different friends who are therapists and they all said the same thing. Everyone in his family is so self absorbed, they think everything is all about them.

the guy I started this thread about and I have been emailing. He is messed up too. he seems really nice , but not anyone I would want to meet.

I think there is a reason these men my age are single. They are too screwed up to be in relationship.

Glad to hear you are feeling better. Once you get to the "screw you" stage, it can be very liberating.

Just remember, don't let a few guys spoil it for all of them. There are still a lot of really good men out there and I am sure you will find one that is perfect for you.

My daughter tells me I need to see the therapists that she and her husband saw when they did marriage counseling. They are a husband and wife team. I am going to call them tomorrow.

I have gone to counseling off and on throughout life and I think it's time for me to go again.

There must be some reason why I think I NEED a man to be happy, and why I always seem to pick losers. The last 2 were both mamma's boys.

You dont need noooooooooooo stinkin man...just a good B.O.B.

Good woman do not need a man, good woman would like a man to help fulfill there life. Good woman enhance a mans life.

So long 'we' (big people) have thought of ourselves as second class citizens. WE ARE NOT.

YOU are a strong vibrant good looking (I seen pictures) woman.....OWN that thought~~~

Well said but what is a B.O.B. I have an idea or two but not sure I am right.

You know what they say,,, the best way to get over one guy is to get under another. You will find one soon.

Well said but what is a B.O.B. I have an idea or two but not sure I am right.

Battery operated boyfriend = B.O.B.

I wouldn't beat yourself up too bad about having relationship that don't work out either. Most relationships don't work out. It's just the nature of the beast. You said it was fun at first so it was good at first. You can't know everything in the beginning so you can't avoid a few loser.

Now if you constantly hook up with emotionally abusive people or addicts or something... then, yeah, you need to change. Or if you jump into relationship too quickly (I used to do that) and then realize it's a bad situation, but if you'd taken your time, that would have been obvious...

But otherwise, having relationships go bad as you get more into them is just life.

Hey bearded, I like those kinda of bf's. They are pretty much perfect for the most part.

Hey bearded, I like those kinda of bf's. They are pretty much perfect for the most part.

Always ready when you need them and they don't talk back, expect you to cook and clean for them .. you just need to be sure you have an ample suppy of batteries on hand :thumbup:

Hey bearded, I like those kinda of bf's. They are pretty much perfect for the most part.

YA--but think of what you miss...the arguing, the I

dont have neclothes clean, the seat up...etc.

I think John Cougar said it best "I want a woman to thrill me then go away" Same can be said about a man I guess.....:smile1: