My bf has been going through a lot of stress. His family is really dysfunctional. Instead of sharing with me, he's just really moody and quiet. I know the stuff he is going through is really painful, but at the same time, I am really sick of the way he shuts down.

I sent a message to a guy on another dating site. he wrote back and asked for a picture. I sent a little newsy email, and sent a picture. I have not heard back from him. I don't know whether to wait, or send him another message and if so, what to say.

Vegas Angel, you can see the picture on my fb page. It's the only picture I have of me that I can send. I am really camera shy and take lousy pictures. Even though I am a size 10-12, I still look really fat in pictures.

I really need some advice here. I would like to send a little message and ask if he'd like to meet for coffee, cause you can't tell much from a picture or an email. Is anyone good with this sort of thing? Should I wait another couple of days? I sent the picture yesterday. The email he had sent was really nice, and he didn't seem like someone who was all hung up on looks.

This has happened to me before, where I have corresponded with men, then as soon as I sent the picture, all emails just stopped.

Please give me your advice!:sad0::001_wub:

I don't know, there isn't anything that can replace snuggling up to a man on a cold, cold night.

Thats ok, I live in So California, it doesnt get that cold here

I don't know, there isn't anything that can replace snuggling up to a man on a cold, cold night.

I agree with you there Susan ... if it's the right man that is.

Thats ok, I live in So California, it doesnt get that cold here

Ruthi you're too funny!

Ruthi, you are too funny. Vegas, I agree, it does have to be the right man.

Did anyone else catch the new tv show on FOX last night MORE TO LOVE, it is a take off of The Bachelor, but it is done with overweight women and one overweight man. The one thing I noticed is how sad and teary eyed they became when they started to describe their love life and how they wanted someone to love them for who they are no matter how big they were. They all verbalized how sad and lonely they were and so young, most in their mid 20's. Talk about what obesity does to our psychies. I think alot of them need some therapy to improve their self esteem. I also saw a major difference in their occupations compaired to the show with the size 2 women. The bigger women were waitresses and nannies etc, where the regular bachelor show with size 2 women were professional types. This is just an observation mind you but there has to be some sort of correlation there. Of all of the fats women on the show, I only noticed 2 that were professionals, a rocket engineer and a teacher and one or two other more technical or professional type career types. Not in the same league as in the other show. These women all were looking for someone to make them happy when they werent happy with themselves. Just mho.

I will watch for that show Ruthi. I know for me, losing weight has not improved my self esteem all that much. I can't wait to start therapy today.

Good luck with that, I hope it becomes revealing to you

I also saw a major difference in their occupations compaired to the show with the size 2 women. The bigger women were waitresses and nannies etc, where the regular bachelor show with size 2 women were professional types.

Eh, on the shows I've seen, a lot of the women were pharmaceutical reps. Which is only vaguely professional ... iand there were a lot of barmaids and "models" and stuff like that.

You need to be able to take off from your job for a month or more for those shows and so that is going to skew what see there.

I watched it. There was definitely a lot of crying going on. It is so sad how many of us are judged by what is on the outside instead of the inside. Most of those woman were actually very attractive too. And, there were one or two that scared me as well, lol.

Which ones were scarey Susan, I thought the one with tatoos looked a bit different and the one that took a dip in the pool must have issues too.

The one that jumped in the pool. I can't believe he picked her to stay. I think she was looking for a way to make herself stand out, and I guess she succeeded.

I totally agree, she wanted to get his attention and she did. Makes me wonder what is next

Didn't catch it -- can't remember what we watched instead - but it wasn't that -- oh yeah, I think it was Big Brother ... something I still haven't figured out yet and which holds no interest for me at all - however Bearded enjoys it (for some reason).

Big Brother is a hoot. Tiff likes big brother too. I love all the sneaky underhanded

backstabbing.